I don't have one. Sometimes I just get in the fetal position and just wait until the feeling passes. Sorry dude.

When I was single I would have friends over all the time, I had some gfd's that would cook a meal for me too.

Get a cat and a hobby.

Bless you brother, you have anyone to talk to about it?

awwww..I'm sorry you have nobody in your life. ((((HUGS)))) to you. I dont have secret to share on here but I wish you all the best and hope you meet that someone special soon, then that way you will rush home with a smile on your face each night.

awww police thats so sad, Im sorry to hear that, it really doesnt have to be that lonely. Depression is a major factor for not being able to get up and have a go at a few things. Get that sorted first !! right now!!!!!. Make an appointment with your doctor, and tell him, get some medication to start with, that can ease the burden straight away ( well actually it can take a few weeks for it to kick in), with Christmas coming up, and winter for you guys, you need to act right now ! then, when you feel a bit more spark kick in, get your self onto some on line group meeting places, sort our some safe ones, you could join a club, even a local charity type group, ( In NZ we have

This I know! Have certainly been there! I dont know your situation (married/lonely, single/lonely, single mother, or other & all the above). But for myself, my situation was bigger then me, and once I realized that my way wasnt working, I completely turned it over to God! I never lost HOPE, & i firmly believe you have to do everything in your own power to not lose hope and faith that one day, it will all be better! During these kinds of times, when you're bent, jaded, and hopeless, is when you totally think of all the good things in your life to be thankful for! And to think, that its really not as bad as something worse. I could go on and on about this, because i know your pain & have felt your struggle. And if you hang in there, it does get better. For several years i was in search for my answer. I read any book i could get my hands on, i read quotes, i prayed & begged. But its not until you come to terms with yourself, and KNOW that you & only you have are responsible for your well-being, and then finding what it is to get to where you want to be! I dont know if you are a spiritual person, but for me, it was turning to God. Good Luck!:)

1) Put a nice air freshener in your car that makes you feel happy. Like vanillaroma... 2) Have ready that CD that has the songs that you just can't help but feel happy when you hear them... 3) Take a few deep breaths and smile (smile affects you biologically) 4) When you get home, keep the mood happy and maybe you need a kitty, even if you don't think you like cats.

I use to work 16 to 20 hours a day just to keep from going home to an empty house. kept busy so would not make time to dwell on it. I found someone I thought I would share my life and grow old with. I retired and settled in she decided she wanted someone else and left. Now I am thinking of starting a new business. sitting at home is not good for me when there is no one to share it with.

I was going to say get a dog but you can't help pets.. HOWEVER, if you have a history of depression which you do and you see a therapist or even your family MD can do it..you can get a letter saying that you need a pet for therapy purposes (called therapy pet) and they cannot legally deny you that. They can but you can contact the disabilities board and sue them..with you being a cop I don't know that they would mess with you.. It's worth a shot. I remember those days before I got Scrappy that I hated being at work but as soon as I clocked out I would cry all the way home and then all night long because I was so lonely and sad all the time. AB can really only do so much..nothing like having someone else to worry about and to come home to who loves you and knocks you down before you get in the front door. GL

I'm sorry to here that. I had no idea. Your always so up-beat... oh. O.K. I see now. I know what that looks like from the INSIDE. I too suffer bouts of depression from time to time. I feel for you brother. If it's any consolation your in good company. Depression in this country is epidemic. We are not alone. If you ever want to unload on somebody that can relate you can email me at: tropicaltim@gmail.com Or even just shoot-the-shit. I'll give you my phone number in an email. I come from a long line of cops going back 3 generations. Immediate family to 3rd and 4th cousins. Hell, I even ran with a gang from the I.P.D. for a while myself. (my secret;)) Please brother, if you need anything, don't hesitate to get in touch with me. I'm here for you. http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/stress/MH00030 http://www.webmd.com/depression/holiday-depression-stress http://www.medicinenet.com/depression/article.htm http://www.med.nyu.edu/psych/screens/depres.html

get married, then you can cry because you have to go home.

Don't have a secret, don't need one because I'm dying to get home early.

I do not have a secret I just try to keep on going. Lets face it I have nobody else to lose so material things are all I have and they are not important. You just have to tell yourself you are better off than a lot of other people even if you are alone.

Sorry you're going through that. I went through a rough time after a long term relationship ended and I wish I could say I had answers, but I don't. I just did things I enjoyed and if I started to think too negatively, I would go for a long walk or ride. Eventually it all turned around and now I can't wait to get home to my two cats. This is a very rough time of year to deal with pain also, just be aware that in a couple of weeks things won't seem so bleak. I wish you all the best.

I can feel your pain.There were several down times in my life i felt the way you do now.my advice is to remember everything you are going through right now,because your life WILL change again for the better. When it all comes together again with the right person you will appreciate it deeply. hang in there buddy "This to shall pass"

im very sorry to hear that. i would recommend you get help for your depression. ive seen medication and therapy do wonders for the people ive lived with that struggled with this insidious condition. ive seen how hard it is to pull out of and ive watched people i loved get sucked in deeper and deeper by the vortex of despair. but theyre better now ~ i helped them through it. there is hope. just take it one day at a time. start going out more. reach out to people. find a new hobby. dream about the future and envision how wonderful your life could be. make plans for the future. then go out and make it happen. its as simple and as hard as that. me personally, i keep joyful by living my dreams. i keep busy with activities im passionate about. of all of them, music has been my salvation and my rudder. i meditate alot ~ it gives me peace of mind and my meditative sessions have been among the most powerful experiences of my life. i would recommend exercise or physical activities to raise your endorphin levels and give you a boost of energy. keep the faith that this too shall pass... as kahlil gibran said, "the deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain"... life is beautiful ~ you cant see it because the tears in your eyes are blinding you. believe me, you have much to look forward to. good luck to you.

Several years ago I went through a very hard time in my life. I lost seven family members in seven years. By the age of 35 I had lost two brothers my parents and all of my grandparents. It was at that point in my life I realized I could either spend the rest of my life in misery or I could start thinking of others less fortunate than me, and see what I could do to improve their situation. I have never had much money, and I don't even have a car of my own, but I try to volunteer when I can. I get particular joy from helping children and animals. If you are an animal lover, perhaps you could go to a shelter and exercise some of the dogs. It is easy to see how fortunate you are when you reach out to those less fortunate than you.

You have to invest yourself.

Aww Police, why didn't you say so sooner? There are a great many of us that communicate off AB...whether in email or constant conversation over IM. Why don't you look up some friends and start chatting? Fun conversation can be both a good diversion from depression and something to look forward to!

hey man, ya got us. :)

Believe it or not my friend, I know what you feel, and I've done that too in my life. I've sat in my car countless times, feeling alienated and "blue", to the point of crying. But you know what, having someone at home doesn't necessarily "cure" depression. I feel lonely a lot of times even though I have a loving family, and I attribute it to my childhood and living in a boring as well as stressful environment. I could be surrounded by family and friends, yet feel unfulfilled and terribly lonely at a party. But I always believe that as long as you're alive you CAN experience fulfillment and happiness, even if you're by yourself. Life is fun in more ways than one, and marriage and having a family doesn't always guarantee ultimate happiness. As a matter of fact, it can go the other way around, and there are millions of marriages that do NOT work, and are NOT good for the mental health of the people involved. Life is really a hit and miss affair, but you don't have to always feel like you HAVE to "hit" something. There are usually more "misses" in life, and because of that it's usually better to remain unattached. It's nice to have someone at home, but there is also so much commitment and sacrifice involved. Personally, I think it's hard either way (single/married). I am coming to realize that real happiness comes from within, and how you perceive things "as they are." Happiness comes from within. It is a state that is produced by our minds. Although there are external objects and circumstances that can cause us to feel happy, the objects or circumstances themselves are not the cause of our happiness. The way we feel about them---what our minds think about them---is the cause of our happiness. Take for example a football game. When the game is over, some people are happy and some sad, depending on whether the team each person favored won or lost. Being happy or unhappy about the result of the game is an inner response to an "outer event". Neither happiness nor unhappiness is contained in the event itself, but what the event "means" to that person. All the events and things in a person's life work like that. It is the way you look at things and the way you relate to them that determines your state of happiness or unhappiness, not the things themselves. So don't look at your situation as a bad thing. If you stub your toe, say "Thank you for my stubbed toe. Right there is an acupuncture point that needed release. Now I'll have more energy!!" And think "Having kids is nice, but they are noisy, costly, and energy draining. And they are often ungrateful." Or "Having a wife is nice, but what if she leaves me, or nags me to death, or we argue all the time?" I'm not saying these things are bad, or you should not pursue them, but like I said before, it's not the events or things in your life that cause your happiness. Happiness is not contained in having kids, having a wife, etc. Remember dearest friend, we are all "islands" in the end, and we all have to deal with solitude in our lives. Therefore, real happiness can only come from ourselves. I am starting to realize that myself. I'm also starting to realize that depression can be addictive, just like anger. Sometimes, your body is demanding more of what it's been receiving. It literally develops an "appetite" for depression. However, if your personal belief system causes you to be happy, your receptors start to create a body that is more able to feel happiness----and that wants to feel happiness. That is, the more you engage in any type of emotion or behavior, the greater your desire for it will become. I hope what I said here helped you a little buddy. You mean a whole damn lot to me!!! ;)

I just try to get through by writing music, and trying to motivate myself to push forward. But it does get really hard to keep pushing. Just know pain is strength in the end.

Drugs. ;-)

Booze, porn, extreme working hours and taking advantage of unintelligent women. (Sarcasm warning!)

I know how that feels(in a diffrent way) For the first time I am ready to try dating, but the ones I have had feelings for were either out of reach or already taken. I suppose the only answer is give up. I will never be happy in the same way they are.

After work, go somewhere besides home. Or you could get a cat, so your home will have a friend waiting for you to get home. Cats are good company. I have 3 cats and a dog.

The solution to that is don't go home. Go to classes at the college, or take dancing lessons. You can fill up your nights with meetings like Toastmasters or going to the city council meetings. That just puts off going home, but at least it would give you something to do. Maybe you could look into becoming a foster parent, and have a child to come home to.

Lots of beer in the fridge, sorry man .

Hey Police, (can't comment for some stupid reason) it sounds like you have gotten some good suggestions, and in your comment you say you feel better. Good for you. I am pretty lonely myself and have an almost non-existing social life. Having cats and a dog helps.

Get yourself a dog, it will welcome you home better than any human, you can go walking together, swimming, you can play together. Greatest company a person could have.