Is there a way to find out how you offended someone (to the point of them shunning you) without appearing to be a stalker?
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Little Miss Dangerous
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If you know this person well, I would simply approach them and ask. Sometimes it's just a misunderstanding that can be cleared by simply asking.
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I would just be straight forward, after a bit of time, i would approach them and just ask. That's not stalking, beating around the bush is stalking in my book.
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No, unfortunately there is not. If you have made the effort, then good. If your effort isn't working, why continue to insist when you did the best you could? You know yourself, same as I know myself. I am able to regulate how offensive I am, and so are you. If someone is that offended and won't even give you the opportunity to discuss it civilly and as adults, what else could you really do??
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Keep in mind that it may not be anything that you did/said. Sometimes, people get a little funky and they may wish to be left alone for a little while without any intention of worrying the other person or making the other person feel confused. I think the best thing to do is to let that person know that you're there for that person and that you hope his/her silence isn't because of anything you did/said.
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If they don't explain after once or twice of you asking, then foget it. Then they're just playing with you. Don't kiss ass.
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I personally would leave it alone. If the person doesn't care enough about you to tell you face to face, then I wouldn't bother asking, I'd just let it go and move on. The proper thing to do would be to give you a chance to explain. But maybe this person was looking for some excuse to drop/dump you so asking about it would only put him/her in a corner and whether or not you'd get the truth is unknowable :)
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If it was a long distance relationship then there could be extenuating circumstances that arent really in anyones control. Maybe you're misinterpreting shunning for something else. Anyway, I don't see stalker coming from you..............
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It's difficult to understand someone's perception over the internet, if that's what you mean. You don't have to stalk but maybe just leave a nice comment every now and then. Beyond that, I believe it is best to let it go. In real life, you can talk with the person face to face.
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