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by Jodie44 on January 6th, 2007
Alcoholic father. He drank all the time and he was mean when he was really drunk.
by tripwire on January 7th, 2007
Both of my parents were boozers. Me and my two sisters spent most nights at home by ourselves from about the age of 6 onward. We did our own cooking and everything. I would never leave my kids alone at home to cook on a gas stove etc like my parents did, but we grew up fast. We were left to look after other peoples kids a lot too, when we were just kids ourselves.
by poooooooo on January 6th, 2007
yes.My dad s an alcoholic.He is one of those kind who lived for himself all throughout,never cared for his kids or wife.So every night was horrifying for us.I never slept peacefully
by JUSTNORMAL on January 6th, 2007
Yes my Mother, but she didnt pick up a drink till I was in my early teens. But it ultimately took her life :(
by xxxxxxxxxx on January 11th, 2007
my father was a very abusive alcoholic. he was ok when he wasnt drinking, but when he was drunk you had to be careful. he would hold my mom up with a knife tellin her that if she left him he would kill her and all of us. he would beat us and sexually abuse me. i have never admitted to that before. i dont like to talk about it. but i dont think parents realize sometimes the effects on children that they have. he actually died when i was 8. he got drunk and commited suicide.
by amanda_0517 on January 8th, 2007
Alcoholic Father plus a pot head too. He would had to have his Jack Daniels and weed every night. He was very abusive and crazy. I rememeber when I was about 8 yrs. old I had just got a new barbie corvette car and I was playing in the living room. My dad came in there and told me to shut the hell up then he took my car and broke it in a million pieces. I didn't talk to him for like a week I was so mad at him.
by eddie1 on January 6th, 2007
No, addicted to prescription medication.
by anonymous on January 6th, 2007
I don't think he was alcoholic, but my dad did drink quite a bit, still does. It wasn't very nice, he was worse when he was drunk than sober
by anonymous on January 6th, 2007
No, but my best friends dad hit me once, while he was drunk. He was a major alcoholic, and he abused my friend a lot.
by Anonymous on January 6th, 2007
Yes, either a highly functioning alcoholic or maybe a strong user. Either way they did not set a very good example for any of their kids.
by Carmella on January 6th, 2007
Nope.
by Bobbib on January 13th, 2007
My father was. He was very abusive to my Mom, sister, and me. I guess I would include the dogs too, he kicked them. He was physically, mentally, and verbally abusive to everyone around him. Parents divorced and each remarried someone else, I guess I was about 8-10 years old. Of course they (experts) say it is hereditary. I had my share of binges and my sister still does. I made alot of bad choices and was a drug addict/bar fly. I picked all the wrong men until just a few years ago. Married my best friend who is a recovering alcholic (5 yrs sober) and of course me recovering at 5 yrs also.. Life is great when you can see through the clouds.
by nevets - badgicide on January 6th, 2007
Fortunately not.
by bigkado69 on January 6th, 2007
yeah my dad is soon to be dead from bein a drunk.lol
by - retroglide - on February 28th, 2007
In fact I did. My father. It wasn't neccesarily obvious. My mother pointed it out to me. He kept a fifth of Old Charter in the garage, car, and different places. He would change the locations because my mother would pour it out, and sometimes even replace it with colored water.
I saw him drunk very few times, but he did drink almost daily. Occasionally my parents would fight.
When I was 13, my parents owned a small mom and pop store. One night they fought, and my mother pulled a gun out and shot over his head and through the glass front door.
by Anonymous on February 28th, 2007
My father is an alcoholic, or he was until he pickled his brain. He is now in an aged care home at age 65, and cant remember much about his life. We have to keep on filling him in. He is in the early stages of alcoholic induced dementia. He was such a lovely man, a fantastic dad and a great husband to mum, until the alcohol took over his life. He became a mean, nasty, aggressive, abusive person.
by timetogetserious on January 11th, 2007
Yes, my mother has been an alcoholic parent since i was born, it led to a quite abusive and unloving childhood.
by downdog on January 9th, 2007
This is a true question. Much pain out there. My whole family in one way or another was addicted to something. My mother was very bad. Dad left at age 6 because mom got sick. She then got hook on pain meds. I did everything for myself, including dressing mom, buying groceries, even banking her SSN check. I was 8 years old walking around with 800 dollars. She's now in a nursing home, whenever she needs a fix she comes up with some pain and makes them take her to the emergency room. Doctors keep asking me what to do with her. S@@t I don't know but wish it would end.
by RFlagg on January 6th, 2007
No, he does smoke rather alot of pot though.
It's bad, but better than drinking too much, at least with pot he mellow out instead of getting angry and abusive.
by thinkin on January 8th, 2007
Yes, My mother is a bad alcohlic and she has always been. My brothers sister and I has suffered with it all our lifes and know I notice my childran suffering from it to, but that is their grandmaother so I am torn! It is werid though I can not bring myself to drink every often because I don't want my childran to remember me that way.
by Mrs.mezzo is a Wagnerian soprano on January 8th, 2007
Yes, but I didn't know it at the time. It wasn't until I went to college and came back home for breaks that I realized my dad was a sauce hound.
by Sociopathetic on March 26th, 2007
My father has been drinking since I can remember. My parents divorced when I was about 18 months old, and I was in my mother's custody. I saw my ather on week-ends, and he was always very abusive; mentally, physically, and emotionally. I never acknowledged his drinking problem, just that he was my father, and he was always angry at me. I never knew why. Growing up I had some experiences that made me realize more and more about who he really is, who my mother is, who I am, and it made me not want to see, speak, or hear him anymore and so I told him just that.
I hadn't heard from him for a long time. The next thing I'd heard was that he was going to get treatment, and I was happy. He went for a couple of weeks, maybe a few. I thought he was actually going to keep his word for once. No, I hoped he would more than I thought he would.
The next thing I remember happening is him getting arrested. A this point, I was 15 or 16.
He's apologized to me a few times, and as sincere as it sounds, I don't think he's really moving forward. But I know that deep down, he wants to stop, but his life just doesn't allow it. He's caught up in what's happened in the past, doesn't want to let go of the memories because they're all he has left. And that's what he has to do. But he won't. And I think that's a major factor in a lot of alcoholics reasons, or triggers in their drinking habits.
by Wanderer on March 1st, 2007
Yes I did-- my stepfather. He was certainly mean when he drank but probably what says it best is that to me he still is and always be the living definition of terror.
And when he was not drinking he was a like a black hole of attention-- everything in the family circled around his needs, his stresses, his interests, his views, his everything. The rest of us were expected to not rock the boat. The worst thing you could do in my family was need help or a little understanding-- after all how could you be so selfish? Don't you know how upset your dad is?!!!
by Nam1310 on February 28th, 2007
I didn't grow up with am alcoholic father but my dad did and i saw through him the sad and hard emotional effect it had on him and on his sisters. For one all of my dad's sisters ended up with an alcoholic husband or an abusive one. One of them is even an alcoholic herself. But at the same time i have to say that because of the bad example my grandpa gave my dad, my dad was the opposite. Never have i seen my dad drunk or even close to it. And he is a wonderful father. I just feel so horrible at times because even though he is a great father to me and my sisters, i know he will never forget the things he went through as a child with his father. =(
by jeaniefirst on February 28th, 2007
no. my parenst drank very little, very seldom. They didnt entertain a lot either,. often happy to just be at home., I dont know if money played a big part in that, or rather lack of it!
by lilemoblondegirl on February 9th, 2007
both of my parents. there was abuse (not towards me) and we were always out of money. i think that is the reason i am not rich right now. i still live with alcoholic parents and it sucks
by Darryl61 on January 9th, 2007
Yes
by Macy on January 26th, 2009
Luckily for me, my Mom divorced my Dad before I could walk. He drank, raced cars, smoked pot, and physically abused my Mom. She has never said an unkind word about him even till this day. She later married another alcoholic who raised me and my siblings. He wasn't physically abusive, but he yelled at us alot. And sadly enough, my Mom remarried a third time to a man who drinks. He's not as bad as the first two, but he's much like them to me in retrospect. I never understood the attraction she had for these men, but I learned alot from watching her mistakes. My brother, sister and I aren't close to my Mom like we used to be and that is the hardest part of all this.
People should take more time to investigate the person they choose to live the rest of their lives with because it can and will effect the people closest to them. And sometimes effect them for a lifetime. The memories never really go away.
by cakes405 on December 31st, 2008
my dad, he was abusive
but i know i can take him now
by Teri on December 31st, 2008
My mother was an alcoholic since before any of us were born...I took care of her and my siblings ever since I can remember...I was the enabler...or so I've been told...When we would come home from school we knew our evening would be determined on whether or not the curtains were closed in the living room. My Dad lived 1000 miles away....
by gillian on December 25th, 2008
No but my children have,(my husband)and i feel so guilty that i havent done more to protect them,though he isnt violent he was verbally abusive to us all,now he is in rehab but it took us splitting up to get him there,no-one should have to endure this behaviour and though he is doing the right thing now the damage is already done to my children.
by mazzys on October 29th, 2008
it's been a long time since anyone posted on here, but both my parents were alcoholics,
steve
by 34th st. on September 28th, 2008
no i did not.However I did grow up to be alcoholic in spite of the lack of exaple.Nobody taught me how to drink. I learned how on my own
by Merfish on July 27th, 2008
No, but I spent a month each summer with alcoholic grandparents.
by turtle4 on July 27th, 2008
I grew up with both parents being drunks. My father is still one. My one turned into a pill head. Im completely sober. Im only 17 and I have my Ged about to go into college next semisemter.
by TRK360 on July 24th, 2008
Yep, how'd you guess?
by Kevisaurus is a Carnotaurus today on April 11th, 2008
My mother, father brother and me all are.
My dad gave me my first beer when I was 10 or some age like that.
by MvL on February 20th, 2008
Yes. My father is a pretty bad alcohol. He's by all rights an undiagnosed sociopath as it is (and they're prone to alcoholism), and even sober he was deceitful, manipulative, controlling, and both physically and emotionally abusive (he was most often emotionally abusive). When he got drunk, which was often, he was more inclined to being physically violent - although looking back, I'm not sure which was worse. He did more damage to my mom, brother, and me with his words and actions than he ever could have with his fists or his throwing things. Even playing games with the man when I was really young could turn horribly frightening, sober or not, as he would get a delight in seeing the fear in my eyes, laughing as he scared me.
When I got old enough to fight back, about the time my brother was born, I beat him up pretty bad, and he never tried anything physically violent against me ever again, or my brother, and he barely ever hit my mother anymore. That leads me to think that he wasn't ever "uncontrollably" drunk, since he was never drunk enough to forget what I would do if he would hit my brother, or my mom, or me. In the end I rescued my brother from their house, and he lived with me from 15 to the present day (he's 19 now). He got better with me.
I sometimes think I'm an alcoholic, as I do have heavy cravings and would drink throughout the day, if I can get away with it. I frequently return to the cycle where I'm buzzed all day, waking up with a few drinks before work. For me, it helps to calm the otherwise constant state of worry and anxiety I feel. I've never become violent; if anything, I can be easily irritated without it, and become laid back and easy going about things. I'm a very functional alcoholic. My brother knows that without a few drinks in me, I seem very nervous, and he often gets the (right) idea that I quickly lose my patience with him, or get annoyed at his presence around me, even though I almost never say it, and try to pretend to be in a good mood. With alcohol, I almost always really enjoy spending time with him and others, and become, sadly, more "myself" - the person I want to be. It's strange how grossly different it affects different people.
And yes, I know it's not healthy and I'm killing my liver. Anti-anxiety medication has helped me already to significantly reduce my drinking in the past year, although I still often miss the sedation and pour myself a drink or three... at least I know I'm nothing like my father.
by sparkles on January 25th, 2008
my father was an alcoholic and left when i was 2 years old,my mother then proceeded to fall into the trap of alcoholism as did an older brother.its an awful situation to live with but at the end of the day they are still my family and i love them despite their faults
by GiraffeyedDonor-ish on January 17th, 2008
Thank goodness, no. Neither of my parents drink.
by DA BEN DAN yanggui zi on January 16th, 2008
no, far from it..except when they got older my parents would have a beer every day
by Doggie S on December 12th, 2007
My dad was an alcoholic, but luckily I did not grow up with him.
by Snooty on December 10th, 2007
I grew up with an alcoholic father, and had a horrific childhood. I can't imagine any person having both a mother and father as alcoholics. Double everything! Alcoholism is passed down, and I am a recovering alcoholic.
by iVanish on December 9th, 2007
My stepdad was alcoholic (my mom got with him when I was 11, he didn't manage to quit drinking until I was 17, so quite a few years I had to deal with it.) Generally he'd do about a 24 of beer _per day_ plus shots in the evening. He was constantly drunk... belligerent, aggressive, and verbally abusive. Used to break stuff a lot. It sucked, and is one of the reasons I'm going to school to become an addictions counselor.
by Kitt-tastrophy on December 2nd, 2007
Yes, my father is an alcoholic.
by wander-er-er the vulcanologist on December 2nd, 2007
No, I'm 22 and my brother is 18, yet for some reason, my parents still feel like they have to sneak around with alcohol.
by Feller on December 2nd, 2007
My Dad was a Bad Drunk. We both got sober down the Line and became best friends.We both had 20 years sober together before he was taken suddenly from us.
by Shelly on December 2nd, 2007
No but I became an alcoholic parent, and thank god for myself and my kids, I grew up and out of that stage.
by gone on December 2nd, 2007
no but my mom smokes pot a ton she never remembers anything
example: last night she gave me her heating pad bacause my back was hurting and i slept with it under my back this morning she yells up the stairs "are you ok?" im like yeah why and she asked if i took her heating pad and why.
by joannamack on October 20th, 2007
Yes my dad was an alcoholic and I grew up to be one. I had 13 years of sobriety and now only drink very infrequently (although i Know I shouldn't at all). My dad used to beat me and my mom to the point where he broke her bones, broke all the windows in our house, then she finally left him. I have a difficult time now at 46 finding a man who doesn't abuse me either verbally or emotionally (I gave up men that beat me physically when I was in my 20's). It's hard to believe that there are kind, loving men out there since all I ever had in my childhood was alcoholic uncles and a father.
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Comments
See, I never understood that. When I'm drunk, I just get nicer, yet when my dad got pissed he got worse
by anonymous on January 6th, 2007
BAM, I hope you NEVER understand it. My dad had a really, really sad life. He became embittered. He hated himself, the world, and almost everyone in it. The alcohol magnified the hate a thousandfold.
by Jodie44 on January 6th, 2007
Sorry Jodie and alcoholism is progressive. People start off acting ok till they cross that invisible barrier into the depths of Hell.
by JUSTNORMAL on January 6th, 2007
Ditto, ditto, ditto, ditto.
by blessings on January 9th, 2007
Yup, mine too.
by BenThere HR on April 18th, 2007
Ditto Jodie44! My stepfather wasn't mean but there was only one weekend I can recall that he wasn't sloppy drunk around me. {{{hugs}}} to all adult children of alcoholics!
by LoggyBren on August 9th, 2008