Here's my guess. In our distant past, in the days of small, widely spaced communities, it would have made sense for one man to impregnate many women, thus spreading the gene pool around. Therefore the men would have had to have a much higher sex drive than the women. And of course, once a woman got pregnant there would have been no reason for her to have sex again, until she had given birth. In many ways our brains have not really developed since those days. In the matters of sex our impulses and reactions are extremely primitive. This is the reason men tend to like curvaceous women with "child bearing hips" and women like highly muscled "protective" men. Even though intellectually we have gone past needing these attributes in a partner the evolutionary impulse is still very strong. Red John: I've never used this as an excuse, and I'm betting that you haven't either. It's just a theory, one that fits in with current thinking about male sexuality. It IS true that males can have sex with many women whereas once women get pregnant there's no BIOLOGICAL need for them to have sex again til they've given birth. This is the reproductive nature of our species. And anyway, what "actions" are you referring to? The question merely asks why men enjoy sex. It's not talking about promiscuity or unfaithfulness, simply why is the sexual imperative so strong with the males of our species. Obviously there are many psychological/societal reasons why this answer isn't necessarily true today, but as a basic behavioral explanation I think it stands up. Fabolous: Thanks for the mature critique. I think I hear your mother asking if you've done your homework.

People enjoy sex for any number of reasons, not all of which are physical. There is no difference in the level of enjoyment of sex between males and females. There is a variation in the level between different people and there are variations because of cultural influences. For example, a woman's sexuality was historically seen in an unfavourable light in Judeo-Christian society. Such biases are inhibiting and detract a person from enjoying his or her sexual behaviour. This particular vision of women probably peaked during the Middle Ages and, later, during the Victorian era (albeit without the savage levels of judicial murder) and has been gradually relaxing ever since. One significant inhibitor is the 'cost factor': the personal cost of having sexual relations. Men, particularly young men, tend not to see any immediate cost to having sex. A woman is very aware of the personal cost: the risk of pregnancy. Unless a woman is knowingly sterile or has passed through menopause, the possibility exists that she will become pregnant by engaging in sexual activity. Men are spectators to pregnancy, women are committed. The comments regarding what people find attractive in their partners is spurious (e.g., a female's "child bearing hips" and a male's "highly muscled" physique), since attractiveness is highly cultural in nature. What makes someone attractive is dependent on where people learn their sense of aesthetics and from whom they learn it. As for the "excuse for their actions", blaming the so-called evolutionary imperative is a tidy way for males to excuse rude or insensitive behaviour. "It's not my fault I'm acting like a boor!" 10,000 years of civilization and a myriad of cultural environments say otherwise.

i don't think that it's just men who enjoy sex. i am a 41 year old female and enjoy everything about sex. as for your question, maybe since men have so much trouble expressing how they feel, sex is there way of sharing and expressing their feelings. my guess!!!

horemones make them want to say they forget about how the girl feels

We were born for sex to enjoy girls.