I'm 13 and last night I gave my boyfriend his first blow job. I'm kind of regretting it, but he said he liked it and I didn't mind that much. Should I do it again?

I think you are way too young to be doing anything sexual. If you're not sure, then it's because your brain is trying to tell you it's wrong. Depending on how old this boy is, chances are it wasn't his first. I have a 13 year old daughter and I am telling you what I would/do tell her. You have your whole life ahead of you. You are too young for anything more serious than a few phone calls during the week. My daughter is not allowed to be in a room with a boy by herself and is not allowed to go "out" with a boy alone. There has to be plenty of other kids AND adults. There will be no alone dates until she is 16, and even then I will have to know EVERYTHING about that boy! You need to concentrate on school and friends right now and not boys and the pressures that come with them. Not at your age especially. You are still a child, even though I know you don't like to hear that. You are not mature enough to be able to handle these kinds of situations properly. Please think twice about seeing this boy, or any other boy for that matter, without someone else being with you; and please do not let yourself be in a situation that will put you alone with a boy. Think about yourself and your future. You are a special girl with lots of potential and gifts that I would hate for you to throw away. I hope something I've said will help you. As I said, I've given the same "talk" to my daughter and do about once a week. I want her to know that she is special because God loves and made her and because I love her. She doesn't need to find self-worth in the affections of boys. She is special in her own right. You are special too. Good luck with the hard decisions that you are facing. Remember you are special and you are loved. Best of wishes.

What's the problem? Let her get it out of her system now so she isn't acting like a slut when she is 22 so no guy will take her seriously. I dont know, all the little girls who figured out how to get ahead fast seem to be doing better than the ones who took longer...

thats too early for u get into these sort of things. if he ask you next time for blow job tell him no cause thats what he wants not you...

This question illustrates a hard fact for Americans to swal... accept; that "children" are doing "adult" things. We can't stop it, so we have to accept it and deal with it.

The fact that you are even capable of experiencing such a moral dilemma tells me that you likely have a good instinct despite your lack of years. If you regret it, maybe your relationship isn't serious enough, but if you didn't mind then maybe you are willing to do things you find distasteful because you DO have feelings for him.

My advice is to look inside yourself and ask yourself whether you truly do feel like sharing yourself with him like this and whether he is truly worthy of that sacrifice on your part or whether he is merely faking interest in you so he can brag to his buddies about "getting some".

Once you answer that question, then I think you have the wisdom to decide for yourself. If you lacked that wisdom, you wouldn't be having regrets.

Only if he's willing to go down on you if/when you want him to and doesn't push you for more than you want to do. Please try to listen to yourself, not people who seem to think enjoyment is morally wrong. It's what you want, not what anyone else thinks, EITHER way.

Don't know what kind of information you are looking for here. You are very young to be sexually active. You need to think seriously about what kind of activities you will engage in because there are serious risks involved.

13 wtf. You have better grammar than most people on AB. You are obviously smart. Fuckin' respect yourself more and wait until it means something.

No; If you're regretting it you shouldn't. You're probably just not ready to start the whole sex scenario and most people would agree that 13 is too young. I'm not here to judge you, but the truth is 13yr olds are engaging in sexual acts.

Don't do it just to please him, or if he asks. Do it because you want to; when you want to. If he tries to guilt you into it or pressures you leave him. He's not a good guy... and if he's patient and understanding then just back off the sexual acts.

if you regret it that means you didnt like it...if that is the case than no dont do it again. what is the point? sex is supposed to be something you both enjoy, not only him.

if you did like it and regreted it because you felt it was a nasty or hoeish thing to do, girl keep on, there is no harm on giving head...i enjoy it, i really get plessure out it and i dont care if people think its nasty or slutty, you like what you like and honestly if he liked it that means that you were good so keep on it girl

Well, he will want it again and again. This much I know I am a man. That may be a problem for you. He will tell all his friends you did it that too is a problem. Try to understand what you regret about it. That will only be multiplied over time. I am not going to pass judgment over you what has happened has happened. I would just ask you to think about it and decide if you will be comfortable with you if you continue. You are young you have a lot of lifetime left to regret something.

if you feel comfortable with it. the odds of u 2 getting married are likke 1 to 5930867317. so getting him used to it isnt smart. he'll probably threathen you and shytt if hes like addicted to it. so be carfeful. but if you want to do it just to pleae him, thats wronggg. think carefully sweetie, sex isnt a thing u wanna mess with. especially at 13.

Damn it YES!

It could be worse; at least you're not getting pregnant. (I don't know if I've seen a pregnant 13 y.o. before, but if I do, will I throw up???)

So, put it behind you- the regret, the action, and all, and WAIT UNTIL YOU'RE MARRIED.

I completely disagree with kyannie72

she has her perspective as a mother.
but if that were my parents id have pushed them away.
Ive been alowed to drink moderatly since I was 12 and I rarely drink now. Im mature about stuff with boys, my parents have let me have boyfriends and that - yet Im still a virgin at 17.

Ive been alowed to make my own decisions, only do what I think feels right.


take a leaf out of my book sweetie and you'll be fine ;]

At 13 sweet you way to young. leave it till your older. if your bf doesn't like that he not the one. apart from it being illeagal you not in right frame of mind being so young.

The first time i gave a guy a blowjob i felt guilty also... if you want to do it again do it... but if not... then dont feel like you have to ... do it for the right reason... not to be known or any of that shit!!!

so wait...is it better that she is only giving him a blowjob or would it be more approriate if she had sex with him instead?

You are too young... I promise you will agree when your older.

you guys are getting in to stuff that can only lead to problems. think of your "sex life" as kind of a no body fluids area. make him crazy "making out" and touching WITH YOUR HAND(preferably outside his pants). so much bad stuff can happen at your age please be careful. guard your health, and your reputation. boys are just "naughty" at any age. i promise.

As long as you did it once you might as well swallow his cum next time....maybe you could shock him and tell him you want to shave him from ass to waist

if you think you are redy and mature enuff for sexual activities then you should be able to make this desion by yourself. if your having second thorts it means your not redy for it.

dont listen to kyannie she sed herself that she dint go through what her daughter is going through so she has no idea what she is feeling and for her to try and wrap her daughter up will only back fire trust me i have seen it happen.

this is your desion to make if your redy then your redy if not then dont just please him tell him no

u can do it again only if u liked it so do it bcause u want 2 not bcause sum1 likes it it does not mean that u have2do sumthing that u did not like2sum1 that liked it so if u like doin it go4it keep doin it hugs n kisses2u

this is not something you should be doing at 13 you should be worried about finishing school

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slow down youngin', your playing with fire, step away before you get burned

No. Don't do it again unless he gives you oral as well,and make sure hes worth it and by your age, he is not, why don't you americans know how to value your body? you're imbeciles. Stop being idiotic and just make sure he is worthy and deserving and gives you pleasure first, and respects you 100%! jeeze.

This shit should be shut down... I don't see how anything helpful can come of threads like this. She's either more confused than she was when she asked the question, or she's a really a man jerking off while cruising through responses to sex questions. Like you weren't 13/14 running around trying to hook up with a someone of the opposite sex? BULLSH*T.

should you keep doing it for sure but only if you send me photos then i can make sure it's done right , LOL No i say go for it some of the best bj's i ever had came from someone to young . besides i hope you know whith things like this your posting is getting a lot of guys off ,keep up the good work

no because if u don't think it is good than u shouldn't even if ur boyfriend want u to do it again

There is absolutely NO evidence that she will 'get it out of her system'. I suspect it more likely that she will 'get it in her system'.

I am NOT saying she deserves it but 13-year-old boys are not mature enough to not talk about girls their age and the BJ and everything else. This will have serious social consequences.

I would recommend being very careful and avoiding sex until you are more mature. I know you think you are really mature now, but are you smarter than you were a year ago? Two years? This gaining of experience and judgement and maturity will continue.

It just isn't a good behavior to take part in at 13. Perhaps you could talk to your parents about it? If you can't talk to them about it, maybe it isn't a good idea and maybe you aren't mature enough to chose that behavior.

Make good choices!

Girl stop! please you are to young to even be thinking about that. Your suppose to be focus on school and friends your young go have fun trust me you have enoughe time in life to do all that

there are many things that I have regretted. but you cant take it back.. If you didnt like it than just dont do it again.. I know how you feel tho, when I was 15 I got really drunk and had my first kiss in a realllly bad situation. I regret it but I cant change it. Just learn from it.

you can do all those sexual with your bf excluding intercorse but if you are not sure you really want to then don't and don't be afraid to say no or tell him to stop if he goes to far for your taste

Guys, you can't judge her and say cause she's 13 shes not mature enough for this. It's a blow job, it doesnt harm her or anyone else, and its overrated seriously. First of all, when i was 13, i was mature for my age and I grew up fast. I was in a 5 month relationship with this guy that I loved and no it was not young naivety, cause i look back now and still believe i was in love. We didn't go any further then foreplay because we believed we were too young and i had to move away. No one ever found out that we did that because we trusted eachother and never told anyone seen as it was our relationship. Well, i wanted to give him a blow job because i wanted to make him feel good, but i never did in the end because i felt people would judge if they did ever find out, not that they would've. It's seriously not unnatural as you all make it out to be. Different people grow up at different paces and they can't help the sexual urges and fustrations they have to deal with. Would you rather her have sex? No. If this is their way of showing they love eachother then so be it. They can't harm eachother, and as long as they're both mature and capable of understanding just what it is they're doing, i don't see anything wrong with it. I know damn well i'd never have felt like a whore because of it and i'd never have had a problem with the fact i did it because I dont see what is wrong with it. Now i'm not saying its right, but I'm not saying it's wrong either. Just don't have underage sex and then i'm not bothered what you do. xx

I think that it might not be legal to give affirmative advice to this child in certain jurisdictions.