You get over it. On both accounts

It will hurt for a while but eventually it will fade.

It does hurt as the others have said. But you will not hurt forever. I think maybe coping comes from finding other friends and interests.

its ok it happened to me. It sucks for a while, then you realize your actually better off without them. It might take a while for the hurt to go away but it will fade with time, i haven't hung out with my ex-bestfriend for almost 2 years.

I have had the same best friend for around fifteen years now. In fact, I've had two good friends that long. One a woman the other a man. I cannot even begin to think about losing them. Let go of them?? Never if I can help it. There isnt anything that we cant make it through in my opinion. Weve had children together, lost family members together, married, divorced....shared every secret imaginable. Gone to church together, changed religions.. and made it....had money, been broke....been angry...laughed at each other when anyone else that laughed would have had a black eye. We've been through elections, 9/11, war, the execution of prisoners, all of which we disagreed on in some manner and made it...We dont agree exactally about God/salvation/doctrin/faith/heaven/hell/other religions...and yet we are still best friends....I mean.. thats what a friend is right? Always there. Good and bad. I dont want her man and she doesnt want mine so that issue isnt even an issue. We do not in any fashion physically or emotioinally abuse one another. We have great respect for one another's marriage, home, children and choices in life. I cant imagine my life without my best friend. Ive lost friends in the past that I loved dearly and thought of as a "best friend". I was in my late teens and early 20's then. Looking back I see they were friends, but not best friends. Only time, flood and fire can prove who your best friend is.

try not to think of your friend. i hate to tell you, but if your friend doesn't want to be your friend--or you don't want to be theirs-- it's best not to linger on them.

Yes it does go away, and yes it does hurt. In time you will see things differently and find a new best friend.

That happened to me once.It really sucks.You will always remember them but you need to move on.Don't let it keep you down.You will make a new best friend.

If you don't want the friendship to end it is so hard. I try to just wish old friends well, even if they no longer wish to continue as friends and count the people that are in my life as blessings, then await new friends with open arms.

well i bawled my eyes out for daym went through a depressing stage but yeah it does go away! but shes feeling the same hurt as you and if you stay positive for her it will not affect you as much :) good luck

Why is your best friend going? Leaving town? You had a break up?

eventualy, but it takes time. no matter what the reason for the seperation ! even if they hurt you , you are even more in "pain" feeling the loss and feeling betrayed!

Friendships are like the journey we take thru life. For each step along the path, there is growth. With growth though, sometimes there is hurt. It is part of the process of growing and growing is the key to living. Yes, at first and perhaps for sometime after the friendship ends, the hurt, anger, and sadness will tend to overwhelm you. This is normal and part of the healing of process. The key to healing is remembering not what happened at the time the friendship ended, but rather focusing on that point in your journey thru life that you came upon another (not the last) wonderful person. Perhaps for a short time you honored your friend, and they honored with presence, shared with you their passions, fears, joys, and sadness, and in the end, left you with a sense that your presence in their life provided you an opportunity to give and receive unconditionally. The pain will heal, and in the end, the memories you and he/she made together, will pave the way for new beginnings in this wonderful journey we call life. Take time to heal, take care of your needs, and reach out to the friends you already have in your life – you might even find, the next best friend was there all the time… you just did not see it though. Whatever you do, keep moving forward and keep growing. What you have to offer to the friends and family still your life, will reward them and you, and in the end, will help you heal from your current loss. Above all else, let go of the hate and anger if there is any. This will consume you and take tolls on your emotional and physical wellbeing far beyond the loss and hurt. My best wishes to you!

I hope the hurt goes away. One of my best friends let me go. I think the best thing to do is your normal routine. If your best friend was part of your normal routine everyday, replace it with things you enjoy. Just keep yourself busy. That's what I'm doing.

It can hurt badly for years. I've been through it in the worst way. But I can say this - it does get better - even if slowly. Just hang in there and surround yourself by friends who do make you happy and who will stand by you through your grieving. And whatever you do, don't simply rip up all photos or memorabilia because you may someday come through the hurt, forgive the loss of the friendship and find yourself even speaking to them again. Just pack the memories away and only when you feel better, take them out and either put them back or put them somewhere more appropriate.

Yes. The pain goes away. It'll just take a little time. So try to involve yourself to pass the time.

I'm sorry but is your friend dead or moving or did he/she just stop being your friend?

I've being going though that for the past 2 years with a best friend. We're 18 now, but we were best friends with 2 other people since grade 9. I'm still best friends with the other 2, but we've all grown apart from that one. And it hurts to think about it. The 3 of us(she and our other best friend have been in a fight for the last couple months) still get together, but its not the same. We no longer tell each other personal things like we once did and she has changed... and not for the best I have to say. But I guess everyone has to go through losing a friend who promised to be there for you forever. Some girls find best friends within days, but the 4 of us really had something special. But w/e, I'm still happy that the other 2 and I are still as close as we were since junior high. That's how I cope with it. And I tell myself that it wasn't meant to be. If she really wanted to be with us, she would. I'm not going to try to force myself on someone who doesn't want my friendship. I just hope she finds real friends again, since the one she is 'best friends' with now is a phony, rude girl. I only want the best for her and for her to be truly happy.

Well, I'm coping with it by crying my eyes out and talking to others who knew him or who are going through what I am. And trying so hard to hold on to the hope that things do get better and I will survive this.That someday the pain, the guilt, and the wanting will go away.

(edit: I didn't realise I'd already answered this so please don't think I'm just fishing for more points) Dear Mizunderztood96, I didn't have a choice. My best friend (BF) and I grew up together from high school to getting engaged to our respective husbands to be. Two weeks before my wedding (due to an issue that came up from my engagement party), the friendship ended under the most devastating circumstances. I went into shock, depression, mourning and was suicidal for the better part of a year - this girl was my life, my soul, my everything - closer even than my partner (now husband of three years) - she was family to the point where my parents grounded her along with me when we came back home from hitting the clubs hard at 6am one memorable morning. The reason this affected me so much is because I went from having a virtual twin whom I spoke to three times a day practically to suddenly having no-one I could relate to. Suddenly I was bereft and lost and it was as experience I wouldn't even wish on my worst enemy - and what made it all the more traumatic was that she walked away from the friendship with no remorse or thoughts of reuniting. She'd decided she no longer needed me and that was that and there was no hurt on her part as far as I could tell. Needless to say, the loss is hard and I'm so sorry you're going through this or looking at having to go through this. I'm not sure the circumstances of your loss but it is a loss that is life-changing. When people come and go from our lives they affect the very fabric of our being. The hurt doesn't necessarily go away, but being three years into the loss my my best friend, I can tell you that the hurt does become more dull as time passes. If we haven't answered your question adequately, try to provide us with a little more information on your situation and we'll have another go at answering it. Sincerely, Meg

You should never let a best friend go. Some people are WORTH holding on to... unless they sleep with your spouse. Then, ya kick em to the curb.

It's very hard, I'm not sure if I will ever be over it. Sometimes I feel like "everything is gonna be ok", and then something reminds me of our friendship and I break down. They say "time heals all wounds"... It's been a while and I'm still waiting.

I'm going through it now, and we've gone too far saying hurtful things to one another, so I know it will never work... and so I have let her go, and I just pray that she makes it through life happily, and I forgive myself for nasty things I said to her, and forgive her for nasty things she said to me, and I just pray to god that time heals us both and we move on happily ever after without one another...

We've just grown apart. There isn't much pain to speak of.

Yip! My ex boyfriend was kind of my 'Best Friend'. He had to go to the UK to work (like many South-Africans do!) It wasnt easy, but as time moved on the wounds have healed - and i am happy again! But a part of you will always remember what you shared, eventhough you'll never see each other again!

You remember the good times you had together and try not to focus on the bad. You remember the little things you did for each other. The secrets you shared together . Try to focus on the good times. Of course this is good advice if you are letting your best friend go because one or the other is moving or the loss as in my case was caused by death I guess the advice would not be applicable to someone who lost their best friend because of something their former best friend did to hurt them I don't think the pain ever goes away but as time passes it does get easier to bear

i am searching for the answer myself.. i think we should all learn to let go, it'll hurt but soon would heal up

You don't always cope cause you loved that person and they were always there for you and you never forget someone who shared everything with you and you did the same with them. As much as it will hurt when you let them go you can get over it, but you will never forget.

I don't know what to tell you... I'm kind of in the same situation. It's been about 7 months since my best friend and I have talked and it hurts just the same... since then I have moved and fallen in love, but I still miss him, just the same. I can never stop thinking about him... I do wish you the best with your situation, hopefully things will turn out for the best... good luck!

I could carelss and im losing everyone as i get older anyway. I dont talk to any of my parents so its nothing n ew to me.I guess im just used to being alone and im sure thats how its gonna be.

Yea, i was raised pretty much on my own...but letting go of a friend wasnt easy for me, besides the fact of letting someone know everything about me and trust in they completely, when that was betrayed and i let her go, it was horrible, everytime i herd something of her, i wouldnt hate her for what she did but miss her for all the wonderful time we shared. its been two years and we dont talk at all, and i dont think it can go away, i think that you can only merely forget it for a moment. untill u are once again reminded of it again.

never cry over someone who woudlnt cry over you. I'm currently letting a friend go, it sucks to lose a friend...but in this case....we have drifted so far that i dont even consider her my friend anyways. You'll get over it. not everyone can hang onto all their friends. You'll realize who your true friends are later in life...depending how old you are. You can argue and cry all you want but in the end you yourself already know whats going to happen. If you are jsut having a tiff...you'll fix it. If you are two totally different people then you know you wont be friends again. You wont even think of your friend after a while. Trust me.