ANSWERS: 10
  • If he won't listen, your choices are very limited; learn to live with it, or move out.
  • tell him to hire a sitter so you can go out with him. if he doesn't want to go out with you, the obvious answer would be to break up with him.
  • This is one of many problems with kids having kids. doesnt sound like your boyfriend is very reponsible. Since he wont listen, there not a whole lot you can do, but keep talking to him, maybe one dayhe will. Or buy him a 12 pack and hopefully hell stay home.
  • I was in the same boat. You just have to let him do it. My fiance goes out every once in awhile and leaves me home with our son and i'm of age to drink. If you keep him on a lease it will only get worse, trust me. If he loves you, then he won't cheat. He just wants to hang out with old friends.
  • You have two children, dear! Get his ass outta there. You have enough to deal with with the new baby!! Geez....what an ass (Him. Not you).
  • It is an unfortunate situation that you are in. It may not be long before he spends entire evenings in the bar. Then he might start neglecting work altogether and prefer to spend the weekdays too in the bar. Next stage will be his stocking up enough bottles at home so he doesn't need to go to the bar at all. I will advise that you contact the local unit of Alcoholic Anonymous who will be more than happy to solve the problem before he becomes an alcoholic.
  • I am men and have done the same in time but not all the time the wife plays a big part in making it in life i understand when i became a father it takes a real man and i was only 19. I hated the fact i could not hang out with the boys but i learned fam. comes first. don't give up and keep looking for answers i don,t have them i might but my spelling is bad, but you did take the first step thats more than 99% of woman
  • He needs to man up or hit the road. Something tells me he's not driving home sober either. You've got a time bomb on your hands and you'd better diffuse it now.
  • I hope this doesn't come off wrong but...darlin' you're 18 with kids, what are you going to do on a weekend night but stay home? Give him his space and let him go out, what's wrong with that? Is he spending his own money? I assume so. There's no use spending your relationship being afraid someone will cheat, you're just making yourself miserable. Besides, by allowing him weekends off with friends you can have some quality time with your kids and doing things that you like to do. Then, when you turn 21 the novelty will have worn off for him and he can return the favor. If your compalint is that the relationship is unequal in other ways like he's off with friends but doesn't help you clean the house, or he's out spending your money or he's ignoring the kids than that's a different story; however, if he's done his share he should be allowed time away just as you should as well.
  • Being guilty myself of this years ago, (whom I'd correct now!), I would say that his first priority should be for you and the child. Since he's fathered, he needs to fill the role of it. As you know raising a child isn't easy, and he shouldn't expect you to carry the whole weight. Being a man means assuming responsiblity for the family. And if this interrupts his party time, sobeit. This self-centeredness is destructive and pervasive. He ought to give you free time while he takes care of the child too.

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