Even though you don't have a job, you'll still get hit with alimony, child support and she's gonna take half of your $hit! But you should still at least get partial custody, but you'd better start job hunting or the judge might not even give you that!

I think that you honestly have to think about the kids' well being in this situation. im sure they love the both of you the same i think that you should go for joint custody neither one of you should pull them away from a parent like that. they've been used to being with you both this long, joint custody is the way to go because if you choose otherwise then it could affect them in the long run...trust me

How come she is working and you are not? Maybe, this is the reason for your upcoming divorce. Lets face it, men work and women raise children. Its worked for us for 43 years. Its just the nature of things.

Sir, i owe you an apology. your question did not fully explain your child and wifes situation. Now that i do understand, child abandonment is cause for any divorce. you have your hands full with the children and i understand NOW why you stay at home. Based on what you have stated, you should have no problem with the courts and the children. You are going to have to be prepared to present your case in depth, to the courts. plan ahead and get copies of the paperwork, showing your wife to be an unfit mother. write down dates and times of her activities. Good luck and again, sorry.

In this day and age, you have just as much chance at physical custody as your wife. In fact, as primary caregiver to the children, you probably have more. What you probably should go for is joint custody with yourself having physical custody.

One thing that upsets me most about divorce is the kids being the "Ace in the hole" You and your wife are on the outs, that's ok, but why would you want to deprive her of seeing her kids? Is'nt joint custody the way to go, at least from the kids point of view?

If you stay in the home, with the children, keep them in the school they are used to, in the life style they are used to.... then you have a very good chance of gaining what is called primary custody. That is when they live with you, you make most if not all choices reguarding their education and what not, but she will get visitation. I dont know what state you live in, but you can also file for spousal support along with child support. Most states do not look at gender anymore. Right is right.

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