I just lost my girlfriend whom I loved so much for years. Can anyone help me cope/ have any ideas to help me cope with this?
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dalcowfan22
ANSWERS: 7
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What happened? Break up or worse? Edit: Well... all you can do is get out and be productive. Once you're done sulking... treat yourself to things you haven't been able to. Hang out with friends. Do anything to distract you from the thought of her.
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Dude....Coping is all we can do. I am in the same boat you are. Take one day at a time and focus on something positive in your life and put your energy into that. I know that hard to do right now....but you will meet someone else who will be a better girl for you anyway. Thats what keeping me popsitive.
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Same here mate, this happened to me on friday (three days ago). I cant think of anything else its pretty hard, taking you mind away seems to help like getting really into work. Everyone tells me that it will get better but also to hope she might come back, these conflicting thoughts are the worst part. I have very little idea what to do, all i can say is dont stop doing things thats the only reason i survived this mornin. Distracting ourselves is all we can do. S
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...... just enjoy your life,keep busy... hang out with your friends... time will past by that you will realize that you move on,dont pUsh ur self especially your heart to forget her/him as easily as that.. because that is relly hard... mOving on and start your new life without her/him is not easy to do...its really hard sO keEp bUsy... gOod bleSs...
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Hey, you'll be saving some money while others are broke around you. Start hangin with your single friends, don't look for someone to replace her just hang loose and forgetaboutit.
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I'm sorry you're going through this, this can be a rough time of year to cope with such a loss. I wish I could offer some magic formular, but I never found one. I went through the same thing and found that time is the only healer. It helps to get out with friends and family so you don't dwell on it. It took me quite awhile to feel like myself again, but you will, just hold onto that thought and the fact that you can make it and you will be happy again.
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I'm sorry to hear this. Besides hanging out with friends and being productive is to be able to open up those feelings and thoughts of having lost the one you loved. Don't bottle it up inside you. The things to do is not to distract yourself, but to regain yourself and not to lose the momentum. Have someone you trust. But careful on this. Not a lady friend whom you might find later to replace the one you lost. The more objective the person you will find whom you can talk to, the better. As to time, yes, I agree with them, don't speed up. Because getting over the grieving days is a process. Don't just jump into accepting without really getting to the rockbottom of your feelings and thoughts. And also, while doing the above, careful with the drinks and other distracting vices. Going through this period, there is a high tendency that you will set it aside. The more you set it aside, the more it will be psychologically and physically be unhealthy for you.
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