What should you do if someone you like likes someone else???? how do you make him like you???? plz HELP

This is going to happen all of your life, so listen up.

I'm speaking from the experience gained over a half-century of experiencing this myself -- and I'm being serious, for a change, because this is a good Q. And it also might be happening to me right this moment, so what I'm saying is the best advice that I can possibly give you here -- at least on this topic.

Let's say that you love him, and it's not just puppy love -- you know this guy is perfect for you. Okay? I'm giving you the benefit of the doubt that this isn't just a momentary crush. (But you have to allow that at your age it very well may be. Still, I'm going to give you the advice for what to do if you KNOW this guy is "the one".)

Just be the best friend you can be to him. Don't make any secret at all that you like him. That you like him a lot, if you feel brave enough to say it.

And then let him make up his own mind. Don't pressure him. Don't chase after him. Let him know that all you want is for him to be happy. Because after all, you want the love of your life to be happy, right? And if he chooses another, then BE HAPPY FOR HIM. Even if you're unhappy for yourself. Don't try to sabotage his relationship. (Again, at a young age it's incredibly unusual to make the one right choice first time up to bat. You're going to strike out more often than you can imagine, and so will he.)

If he makes the choice of someone else, then take some time to decompress and unwind -- to grieve and get over him. And then get out there and find someone else. There is ALWAYS going to be someone else, if you just allow for the possibility.

If he chooses you, then don't think that your problems are over! They're really just starting. But we're not getting into that right now.

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Wow this is wonderful advise. I'm in this situation right now. He knows I love him with all my heart and he loves me too but he sort of has a girlfriend right now its not like we've kissed or anything so its not like he's cheating but when ever i ask him why he stays with her he says he wants to see if she's loyal. How i know i like him is cause ive liked him for a year so its not like i just shot out on him. I told him its up to him who he picks im not pressuring him but he says its not that he loves one of us more but he loves both of us but when i tell him i love him he says "i love you too very very much forever and always" well we say it in dutch so the translation is a little different. but i don't know what else to do, I live in vegas so its not like theres a lot of nice guys out there
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by l0s3r49 on August 22nd, 2010
wow..i really think that this is the best thing to do at a time like this especially if your at that age where all these things are going to happen even though you like it or not. Eventually when your in high school, it doesnt madder if your the prittiest girl there this is going to happen to you anyway. aAnd if its in my case and you are one of the not so prety group, and the hatted by some group, them this is just ment to happen for you...but this really helps to think that i can just be friends with that person and it be what has to be....
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by karyme=) on November 9th, 2010

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