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by close account on August 3rd, 2007

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What makes a man want to be with just one female and not cheat?

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  • by R_Berue on November 6th, 2008

    R_Berue

    Nothing really "makes" a man do anything he doesn't want to do.

    Each and every one of us is a product of our environment.
    If a person grew-up in a home where there was love, respect and dignity between his/her parent(s), guardian(s), etc. OR if that person is exposed to aunts, uncles and grandparents doing the same things and acting the same way, that's the way that child should grow and mature.

    As a young boy I saw the way my entire family behaved. They loved each other VERY much! They were CONSTANTLY "on their honeymoons". That exposure caused me to grow and matured into the man I am.

    I AM a monogamous, man. I'll continue to be a monogamous man. One lady and JUST THAT ONE LADY. Period. Am I "allowed to look"? Absolutely! BUT I KNOW I set MY OWN boundaries with, "I'm not allowed to touch". That doesn't mean I can't talk with any other lady or ladies for an extended period of time AND/OR give a hug or a kiss to any of them. I used to work with them or I was her or their boss. WE worked together. WE formed a relationship - strictly a "friendly" relationship. Nothing more, because I CHOSE to have it that way. No one "made" me do anything. It was what I saw. It was the way I truly believed my life and my relationships SHOULD be. Was I burned? Yep! BUT I didn't do any of the cheating.

    On the other hand, if a person grew-up in an environment where there was cheating, violence, physical and/or mental abuse between his/her parent(s), guardian(s), etc. OR if that person was exposed to aunts, uncles and/or grandparents doing the same to each other on a consistent basis AND that child saw that behavior being done on a consistent basis, that's the way that child might grow and mature.

    As a young boy and as an teenager I SAW my friends' moms sitting on "Uncle so and so's" lap. I heard about a few of my former bosses grabbing a lousy sandwich and "make a delivery" to someone's home and not coming back for hours.

    As an adult I was witness to quite a few men who cheated on their wives and girlfriends. AND I saw ladies who cheated on their husbands and boyfriends. They ALWAYS left together. BUT "the tell-tale truth" was the fact when I closed-up at the end of the day's business, there would ALWAYS be one or more vehicles in the lot. I KNOW none of those vehicles belonged to any of other people who worked in that restaurant. 99.999% of the time it was the folks who came into the bar who left with other folks who came to the bar.

    The same is true with gambling, alcohol and drugs.

    That child might or could grow to believe that behavior is perfectly normal. UNLESS that child is taught differently, that child who grew to be an adult will repeat the same behavior as the environment he or she was raised in and exposed to.

    Thanks for asking your Q! I did my best to answer it!

    VTY,
    Ron Berue
    Yes, that is my real last name!

    Sources: My wonderful family!

    Was in the Food and Beverage business over 26 years.

    Some personal observations and opinions.

    "THE University of Hard Knocks"
    Also known as ("a/k/a") "life's valuable lessons".

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    • That's so nice!

      Cognition aka Cog

      by Cognition aka Cog on November 11th, 2008

    • When I read your wonderful comments, I get "choked up".
      Very Truly Yours,
      Ron :-) :-) :-) :-)

      R_Berue

      by R_Berue on November 11th, 2008

    • :-)

      Cognition aka Cog

      by Cognition aka Cog on November 12th, 2008

    • 11-12-08 and ALL Dates After:
      Thanks to EVERYONE for making my days and the times I spend on AB
      A WHOLE LOT BETTER! :-) :-) :-) :-)
      I REALLY like this site and the wonderful folks who make AB terrific!
      Thanks for the acknowledgement, boosting my spirits and every one of those points!
      Very Truly Yours,
      Ron Berue :-) :-) :-) :-)

      R_Berue

      by R_Berue on November 12th, 2008

    • I love your answer. It's nice to know there are faithful guys out there... I'm hoping you're also dashingly handsome so that I can believe that faithful guys can also be attractive. I've often found that faithful guys are faithful because they don't have any other options.

      Honey Bunny

      by Honey Bunny on November 16th, 2008

    • Hi Honey Bunny!
      Thank you very much for your kind words!
      I AM NOT "dashingly handsome" - far from it. I'm told I look like Danny DeVito - the dispatcher in the TV sitcom "Taxi".
      I WILL tell you this: The ladies who go out with me are not disappointed to be with me - any where at any time.
      AND I LOVE the company of a beautiful lady! When other guys look at any one of them & I see the envy in their eyes && the "smoke coming out of their ears", I feel GREAT.
      Due to the fact I AM outgoing, I have PLENTY of options!
      I hope I haven't disappointed you.
      Thanks for those points!
      Very Truly Yours,
      Ron

      R_Berue

      by R_Berue on November 16th, 2008

    • May you have best of luck with your lady! *why can't all men be that way...*

      LittleWhiteSock

      by LittleWhiteSock on June 25th, 2010

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