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You're reading Any men like Very Straight Ladies like me? It seems like many men today like women who are Bi .The thought of being with a woman makes me sick. Men turn me on and I can show them a better time than the Bi Ladies! Nothing against Bi's. Too each her own.
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I rather a man munch my rug!
by blondie44 on October 14th, 2008
Hello, I am a bisexual woman who is very happy being monogamous. I am capable of loving and being attracted to both men and women, but that doesn't mean I need one of each at all times. I just don't mind whether the person I am in a relationship with is male or female. I wish people could understand this and avoid the negative assumptions.
by Wombat99 on July 20th, 2010
Hey Wombatt99, I saw an article recently that you might like.
"Gay Sex vs. Straight Sex" - OkTrends
http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/gay-sex-vs-straight-sex/
by A on November 13th, 2010
I never assumed that bisexuals can't be monogamous. I just assumed they can be monogamous with either gender in a relationship
by rebellious angel on April 24th, 2011
cynical,
In that case, they aren't bisexual any more, are they?
by Ecclesiastes on April 25th, 2011
Ecclesiastes - of course they're still bisexual. Cynical is absolutely correct. Your sexual orientation is determined by your innate attractions, not by what who you're in bed with at any given moment. If someone asks me what my sexual orientation is, am I supposed to tell them, "well, I was gay, then I was straight, then I was gay again, then straight again, now I'm gay but I might be straight at some point in the future"? Obviously that's ridiculous. It's what the word "bisexual" was made for. If I'm single, and I tell people I'm bisexual, that means I'm looking to form a relationship with either a man or a woman... NOT that I'm looking to have a string of threesomes.
Ecclesiastes, however you choose to define the word in your own head, please keep in mind that when someone tells you they're bisexual, for the most part they mean what I've said above. There are a few who use it as an excuse to be sexually decadent, but they are not the majority. The misconception that ALL bisexuals are looking for constant group sex and/or polygamous relationships is hurtful, and is one of the main reasons that both gay and straight people so often refuse to date us.
And to AG - thanks for the link, I don't know how I missed it before! Very good read!
by Wombat99 on April 25th, 2011
You're welcome. :-)
by A on April 25th, 2011
As I can't read anyone else's mind, and vice versa, I'm of the mind that what one does outweighs what one thinks ( or so I say ). I suspect you agree on Valentine's Day. If your significant other doesn't come up with the card, where's the love, eh?
Therefore, should I assume that everyone is bisexual? Should I accept that anyone who says they are bisexual is so, and is not simply being manipulative?
Do you believe anyone who says "I'll kill him/her." is a murderer who just hasn't acted it out yet?
There is a real world out here. It's kinda cool. You should check it out.
by Ecclesiastes on April 25th, 2011
Nothing you've posted here has anything to do with the point I'm trying to make, so I am really not sure how to respond to it.
Let's try this:
"Should I accept that anyone who says they are bisexual is so, and is not simply being manipulative?"
If someone says they're bisexual, it makes more sense to take them at their word than it does to assume that are lying to you just to be manipulative. The latter would be nonsensical paranoia. If you later observe that their behavior indicates otherwise, then it makes sense to adjust your opinion.
But we're not even talking about that. We're talking about the definition of a word. Instead of deciding for ourselves what it means, why not look at what actual gay and bisexual people have to say about it? Here's the definition provided by GLAAD:
http://www.glaad.org/document.doc?id=99
Bisexual, bi: An individual who is physically, romantically and/or emotionally attracted to
men and women. Bisexuals need not have had sexual experience with both
men and women; in fact, they need not have had any sexual experience at all
to identify as bisexual
If that's not good enough for you, let's try the dictionary:
http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/bisexual
From Random House Dictionary:
4. a person sexually responsive to both sexes; ambisexual.
From Collins English Dictionary:
1. sexually attracted by both men and women
From Merriam-Webster:
b : of, relating to, or characterized by a tendency to direct sexual desire toward individuals of both sexes
Note that each definition focuses on the attractions or desires a person has, not on the type of intercourse they're currently having. (Other definitions were omitted because they related to hermaphroditism or other subjects that are not related to orientation.) So, if someone says they are bisexual, I think it's safe to assume (unless you're told or shown otherwise) that they're talking about the dictionary definition of the word, and not some other meaning you've assigned to it. A person who is attracted to and aroused by people of both sexes is BY DEFINITION bisexual, as demonstrated above, whether they're currently in a monogamous relationship or not.
by Wombat99 on April 25th, 2011
Kewl. It's like masturbation. EVERYBODY is bisexual. It's nothing. You're not special.
Now that you're like everybody else, quit being dramatic about it.
by Ecclesiastes on April 26th, 2011
LOL! Such hostility! If it makes you feel better to take personal jabs at me, then have at it I guess. ;-)
Being familiar with Kinsey's studies, I agree that most people are bisexual to some degree. Of course not everyone identifies as such - many people are primarily heterosexual (or homosexual) and may consider any occasional attraction to their own (or the opposite) sex to be insignificant. Other people are split more evenly with their attractions. *shrug* No group is more "special" than the rest, and you know I never said they were. I just dislike the stereotype that anyone who's a 3 on the Kinsey scale has got to be a slut.
by Wombat99 on April 27th, 2011
I'd disagree that _most_ people are bisexual, although I have a feeling (for what that's worth) that women are more likely to be attracted to other women than men are towards men. Perhaps one reason why both men's mags and women's mags tend to have women on the covers.
by Unicorn Man on November 20th, 2011
@UM: Isn't it also possible that there are women who appreciate female bodies without it meaning they are bisexual?
by A on November 20th, 2011
Of course.
by Unicorn Man on November 20th, 2011