If you have to ask, my best guess is that you don't do much, if any, masturbating. It's not good for you to neglect yourself or to rely on someone else to take care of your needs. It's your body! Feel free to explore and satisfy yourself, whenever you desire, at your own pace, with no one else to have to please but you. Getting to know yourself like this makes you a better lover, more confident and proud of yourself. Learn what YOU like and how YOU like it best and do it over and over, then over again to get it just right. Making time to discover your body can only make sharing sexual experiences better, so be ready to share it with your husband to teach him the best way for you to enjoy your playtime. How fun!
Don't think for a moment that vibrators are necessary! They aren't, and in fact, they can be more frustrating than worthy as far as I'm concerned. Personally, I hate them! The sound is a big-o turn off, and their phallic shape makes no sense either - though styles have changed over the years to accomodate the clit and providing the best vibration power there where it's really needed most. Vibrators take far too much effort for what they're worth overall. Not only do they take getting used to, after that's done, addiction to that required feeling in order to orgasm takes over. Use these time wasters with care, and have lots of good batteries or an AC adaptor before settling in for a good night's play!
Yep! Nothing beats a finger rub off. It's silent, and easily done most anywhere you're able to get your hands into your pants! It's the ticket too for giving you that perfect relief in those times of need!
Now, this is the best for you to do, that is, unless you're a water conservationist! Every woman should own a hand-held Shower Massage by WaterPik to masturbate when she showers. I'm sure other models might work too, but this is the one I've kept my loyalty too for many, glorious water wasting years. Practice makes perfect, and in time you'll be able to "do it" in record time, or linger when feeling the need. Sometimes it's fun to see how many times I can cum before not being able to stand or handle only cold water since I've drained the water heater . . . Get one for yourself over the holidaZe. They're less than 50$, about 40$ for their best model and it's fairly easy to install.
Oh, until you get that perfect shower toy, try positioning yourself under the bathtub faucet with the water running / beating onto your clit. The warmth and rhythm of the water is very enticing, but the position will be hard to sustain. Be careful too with water going inside your vagina. A little is okay, but generally it's not safe for it to gush up inside of you.
Please DO NOT go online looking for someone to chat with or "have some fun," because nothing good will come from the secrets and lies that are sure to follow. Too many online people are cruel, out to make themselves more than they are and take advantage of innocent, young, lonely, depressed, or inexperienced people. Especially ones who want to fit in, feel liked or appreciated. Being used by someone you know hurts like hell. You absolutely do not want a stranger to make you a fool by playing with your ego. Remember it's easy to be the other person, when the script is being written for them each time they listen to you cry the blues about all your husband hasn't been doing right. All they have to do is not those things, until later, but by them you're hooked and stuck. Similar to a vibrator - Not Worth It!
Find a good time to tell your husband you've been thinking about jumping his bones when he's sleeping. Adding that you're afraid he'll be mad at you if you do. Unless he's go something going on you don't know about, he should be tickled pink to hear this and be filled with great anticipation. Then follow through sometime when he's not too tired, or doesn't have early morning plans.
Feeling alone or horny sometimes when you're in a relationship is normal. You don't have to feel miserable about it, not when you can take care of yourself, at least until you can share yourself with your partner in passion later.
Comments
Wow! You are truly committed to the masses. My vote. Water: out. Lubricant: in. Thumbs-up for thoroughness.
by zazzy_one on December 11th, 2006
I,ll second that on the lubrication, but girl, go get yourself a vibrator you dont kjnow what your missing!
by kitty loves you on December 11th, 2006
Haha! Me and Katkit are new kindred sisters.
by zazzy_one on December 11th, 2006
Oh, I've tried vibrators, and it's a waste of time! There's NOTHING like using a shower massage! Well, except for a mouth . . . I'll take warm water pulsating on my clit anytime, anyday, versus using a cold piece of hard plastic, dick-shaped toy, loudly humming, and slicky lube! I'm NOT missing a thing!
by MyKinKStar on December 13th, 2006
You have to understand though, KinStar...this sensation is not pleasurable to everyone. Most chicks (yes, me and my friends talk about this kind of thing...and I've read articles in women's magazines as well)...most chicks think that water is not an ejoyable lubricant. Irritating even.
by zazzy_one on December 13th, 2006
But still....a pussy on the puter, that's great too.
by zazzy_one on December 13th, 2006
I don't know what you could be doing that would make pulsating water on your clit an irritation! Unless perhaps you need longer stimulation to get it and good. "Beats me!"
by MyKinKStar on December 18th, 2006
On line sex with the right guy is great. Clean, no STD's, and you don't have to make him breakfast in the morning. I like water and vibs too...But a vib + cyber is great.
by MaryWebb on December 20th, 2009