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by tt010101 on November 8th, 2006

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Are girls who get raped, 'asking for it'?

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  • by AVS426 on November 28th, 2006

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    UPDATE DEC2 2008

    It has been 2 years since I have written this, and now after coming back and going over what I have written,
    I find this to be quite ignorant. 2 years is enough time for me to grow up a little bit.

    I have always believed that outside of your room, people are essentially bad.
    Everyday you are willingly walking into a pool of sharks, and therefore, one should assume the risks and pay heavy attention to their actions.

    This was my original thought/reasoning.
    ..


    A victim will always be a victim, and there is no way to transfer the responsibility from "attacker" to the "sufferer".

    Perhaps with my age, my location, and those that I am surrounded by, there is a reason why I believe there is a small chance that the victim puts him/herself there in any situation where they "ask for it", be it assault, rape, or theft, whatever the crime be.

    I am deleting this answer out of slight embarrassment (my 20 yr old self looking back at his 17 yr old thinking). However, I still find a grain of truth in what I had first proposed.


    It is a shame I think this way, not because I want to believe in it, but the stories I know that have happened (friend of a friend of mine types), it seems always to me that a "victim" (male or female in regards to any crime and not just rape), there is a reason for why they became involved.

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    I might again be "skewed" in my reasoning, but perhaps I am not seeing the same severity of rape the rest of my commenters are thinking of. I am probably applying my reasoning to a more.. high-school / college situation, like a "drunk at a house party" type of "unwanted" scenario involving heavy narcotics and alcohol. Although, a bad and very serious crime, it isn't like the ones you would hear about on an A&E crime story.

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    Ultimately, I agree with all the comments, and that my original answer is ridiculous. Yet I can not help myself (my pride) but feel the need to defend myself...

    one peeve.. I have with a comment.. something about "would my answer change if I had a daughter"..

    no.1 - do not even use that as a thought experiment. leave imaginary future family members alone. I do not wish this onto others nor will i even try to put another's future "probable" family members into an imaginary scenario just to get a point across.

    no.2 - the answer will indeed change. If i believed the world was essentially a good place, I would not think like this, however, I think human beings are unstable and many, including myself, are disgusting, and If i was to raise any children, I will be as sure as shit to raise them with extreme care and reasoning so they can avoid any situation such as this. What father doesn't have that sort of wishful thinking? If any father had a choice, they would never let their kids out into the world.

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