My Semi-serious boyfriend has descided to take a vow of selebacy til marriage without consulting with me or even asking how I'd feel about it nor have we had the MARRIAGE talk. Is that a sign? What should I do?

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• That is not so! Sex is a choice. Not a given.

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  by Sarita1 Goes Bollywood on August 3rd, 2007

• Sarita-That is so true. But... both people involved need to understand the other person's needs.

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  by browncat on August 7th, 2007

• ....

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  by browncat on August 7th, 2007

• Are you serious? How can you have a serious long-term relationship with no sex???? Are you all nuns????

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  by Emma is sick of ignorant bullies on August 31st, 2007

• emma is right, a relationship is not complete without sex, why have no sex anyway?

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  by devil is back on September 1st, 2007

• ok so you are saying that there were no relationships before people starting having premarital sex?
  
  I am no nun, believe me. If you read some of my early answer you would learn that. HOWEVER, I still say you can have a relationship with someone where there is no sex until marriage. Happens all the time.
  
  Times have changed and its closer to the norm to have premarital sex than not, but that doesnt make it a need or right.
  What is wrong in this case is that they had sex and he cut her off without a discussion.

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  by Sarita1 Goes Bollywood on September 3rd, 2007

• What is the benefit in NOT having sex?

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  by Emma is sick of ignorant bullies on September 3rd, 2007

• really i am saying that the relationship isn't complete without sex, not that it doesn't exist.
  The question to ask the guy is WHY?
  If there is no answer just say goodbye to the strange dude and find yourself someone normal.

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  by devil is back on September 4th, 2007

• exactly-I think he has something to hide-maybe another girlfriend or maybe he's gay. He's certainly not being 100%up front

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  by Emma is sick of ignorant bullies on September 4th, 2007

• Taking a vow of celibacy is not only about abstaining from sex. It's also about abstaining from the adiction of a physical relationship. Sex, masterbation, pornography, these all have links to serious mental issues. Depression, anxiety are closest linked to sexual immaturity. The spiritual and mental relationship between two people can not be sustained on a sexual and physical connotation alone.

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  by cmueller3 on January 14th, 2011