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by Anna on August 13th, 2007

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How long does it take to get over an abusive relationship?

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  • by Suzie_T on December 25th, 2010

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    I have recently ended a seven year relationship with a man, I was thought to be bipolar. It seems that this was a front he created to manipulate sympathy and acceptance regarding his emotionally abusive behavior. He is indeed a text book sociopath.

    On a routine trip to my GP I broke down and admitted that I felt trapped in an abusive relationship that was sucking the life out of myself and my beautiful children. I felt trapped not only due to the manipulation, but also out of sympathy for his mental health illness. After the diagnosis, I spent the next four weeks reading every conceivable bit of information regarding sociopaths.

    As they say knowledge is power and boy was I scared......... I looked into his non existent past and found that he had left a wake of women financially ruined, had repeated affairs on all victims and even worse one girlfriend had even committed suicide. Can you image how sick I felt!!

    I was told that it could be dangerous for me to end the relationship, although he had left several times prior on his own free will, so I decided to manipulate the manipulator. After a normal abusive rage I quietly stood up to my abuser and asked him to stop bullying me. That it is all it took. He threatened to leave and this time I calmly allowed him to.......

    It has been several months now and I have not heard a word from him and it breaks my heart every day. My strength is my children and my knowledge. I am working with a psychologist who is reinforcing the reasons why I need to stay away. If not for myself, then out of love and responsibility for my kids. I am working on loving myself again, learning to trust again and understand why I feel such a strong connection to a man that was toxic to my beautiful family.

    How long is it going to take? I really don't know, however each day I am out of his life is a step in the right direction. I had no idea that a person like this could exist in my world. Like myself, I am sure you were kind, caring, sensitive and vulnerable for one reason or another. We mustn't blame ourselves, these people are parasites and their drug is to destroy their victims.

    If it gives you strength, get angry!!!!!!!!!!!! There is no decency in a person that relishes in destroying a persons soul.

    Mine was even able to manipulate a psychiatrist and had an affair with her. That is how good they are.

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