ANSWERS: 26
  • ...Yep.
  • Yeah...
  • Never say never.
  • I think that we all do this at some point along the way. However, (and I realise this does not help), life does go on and I guarantee you will fall in love again just like you did the last time - but not a while yet.
  • I did and then I felt like an asshole because I felt like that about someone who treated me like dirt.
  • I have, and it is not a good feeling.
  • When you can't have something you crave it more, who knows if you had it maybe it wouldn't be the one you want
  • ABSOLUTELY NOT! If I felt that way I would never have married my second wife!
  • Mizui, you may feel that way, but feelings are not an accurate view of reality, especially when they're sort of sad/depressive feelings like that. "Don't believe everything you think", as the saying goes. . It's just not realistic to think that nowhere out there is someone who'll be just as good for you. 4 billion people have had their hearts broken and loved again; you're not the one exception to this possibility. There's no force out there preventing you from finding a wonderful guy. It's your thought and reaction habits which are preventing you from seeing the bright future instead of dwelling on grief and what-might-have-beens. . To help you stop dwelling on it, you can look up books on the subject, and take their advice to heart. Or you might visit your doctor. After several years in a horribly stressful and overtimey job, probably coupled with an aging brain, I was in stress feedback loops, my doctor referred me to a psychologist, who prescribed a beginner's dose of SSRI pills (selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors, which keep your brain's naturally-produced serotonin from being reabsorbed so quickly), which helped immensely with mood and outlook. (They're called "antidepressants", but I wasn't depressed per se; apparently "depression" is an old medical term for everything from gloom to stress.) . Not taking steps to release these feelings and this mindset can be a self-fulfilling prophecy. For healthy future relationships, you have to have a healthy outlook. Please do something for yourself and your future by taking steps each day to move through this.
  • It may feel that way for awhile, but don't be silly. You can fall in love with many different people at different times in your life. Just wait awhile and let things get back to normal and eventually you will find yourself attracted to another.
  • Sadly, yes. But i'm sure most of the people here are right, only time will tell.
  • Yeah, some of us can only dream about the ones they love... and so do I...
  • I definitely know the feeling...
  • Yes, 11 years ago I met the man of my dreams, but he and I were both married...unhappy, but married. Miserable but married. He wanted to stay with his wife..out of duty and responsibility. I was heartbroken (I would have left my husband for him), but I admired him for it and decided to stay with my husband and give it 100%. I tried for 10 years to forget the man I loved and love the man I was with. In the end I failed at both. I left my husband last year. I called my one true love to discover that he had finally left his wife years before...and remarried. Once again, he must be faithful..and I only love him more for it. I'm heartbroken of course. It has taken me a year to realize that I will never love anyone the way I love him...and that I'll never be with him. I've cried a thousand tears over him. I pray for him. I try to keep our communication clean and upright...for his sake. I still want to get remarried some day. I wish I believed for a moment that another man could take his place, but I know that won't happen. I actually got on this site to see answers to your question "Is there really happily ever after?". I wonder the same thing. And is there happily ever after for me...with someone else? I was able to finally accept that I can only be friends with him...and I value that.
  • if you continue to think like that then you will get stuck on this. It truelly hard but if you try find awat to get over this you eventually will, time is a healer but you have to let yoursef. hope you do find love again.
  • Sometimes I feel this way
  • Count me in!
  • No, I would never do that. Love doesn't grow or stay around unless it's nurtured. It takes activity and thought to keep it going. Look how it can wane when two people stay together and take it for granted. Love can fade. So without being nurtured that love will not stay with you. I'd let it go and know with time that there is someone else out there, no matter what the age you are, if only you are open to it and ready to accept it back in your life. But as long as you cling to that dead love, there is no room for all the good things that can happen to you.
  • Yea, i do feel like this, even though i love my honey now, i know that i dont love him more then the love of my life. I cant do anything about this!
  • The heart is such a wretched thing. We all hurt and want things that don't always work. I fell in love twice in my life, and had them for too short of a time. I'm nervous about falling again...but the good was so good, it outweighs the bad.
  • Yes - MANY TIMES!!! You will love again... and maybe again.....
  • I will never have him...And I never loved again...
  • i've felt like that lots of times.
  • I thought that, but I did find someone new, and the magic of my other love fell away...
  • Yes. Yes I have
  • This too shall pass.

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