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  • Jealousy is a sign of insecurity.
  • Love and insecurity
  • There is no reason to be jealous if you are comfortable in your own skin. If you don't like yourself, then you don't trust yourself. If you don't trust yourself, you don't trust others. You project on them the same "crimes" you believe yourself capable of performing. If you feel jealousy, learn to like yourself and you will discover there is no longer any room for jealousy.
  • Both. You can be insecure because of what a person has done in the past. Say they cheated on you, you would not just be "hey I am secure have fun with your friends dear, I'll just stay home because I am secure" doesn't happen in real life. Insecurity can be reasonable. Also it can be a sign of immaturity. But love also is jealous. You want a person to be exclusively devoted to you. As long as there is a balance, a healthy balance it is fine. Be careful too, when someone is not jealous. Again balance is key.
  • Jealousy, to my mind, isn't a sign of either. It's a sign of insecurity. I GUESS it could be a sign of distrust, maybe even not of the partner, but the partner's "friends" and their motives.
  • Both....
  • 12-18-2016 "Jealous" just means you demand loyalty. God describes Himself as jealous, and He is not insecure, not even a little bit. People use the word without knowing what it means. They see somebody out of control and they say "Oh, he's jealous." No, he is out of control. The words do not share a meaning. Likewise, nobody knows what love is, although they are happy to make up something when asked. Love is when you are aware of a need and you take care of it. No connection to jealousy or anything that people often mistake for love. People say "I love ice cream," but ice cream has no needs, so love does not apply. What they mean is they like ice cream. See the difference?
    • Murgatroyd
      Why is it necessary to bring religion into everything? This isn't a religious question, it's a psychological question.
    • officegirl
      Well why not? Some of us have learned to think along religious lines.
    • Jewels Vern
      Psychology is a lie. It is the study of how people think, but there is no way to know how other people think, so it is a scam right from the start. It only maintains a reputation because some people are good at guessing. God has nothing to do with religion. The bible says it is made up by men telling each other what to do. Your challenge only indicates that you really really need to learn a few things.
  • Definitely distrust.
  • Neither. Jealousy is simply envy. We see someone who has something that we want and we are envious. Could be a personal quality, ability, relationship, or an object. What makes the difference is how we respond to or handle it. We can admire the person and cultivate or emulate him or her and learn from them so that we can find out how to get it for ourselves. These are positive approaches to handling it. Negative ones would be to try and take it from him so we will have it instead of him. Or, worse, to hate them for it and make them our enemy because of it - this unfortunately often happens among women when our thinking is so limited that we feel if someone else has something it somehow means we can't have it for ourselves like there is only one to go around. Or, going to greater extremes, we try to discredit or even destroy the object of our envy.

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