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  • Lots of reasons-Kids can be REAL time consuming and maybe this person wants to accomplish different things with his time. Maybe they had a bad childhood they don't want to relive, Maybe they jsut don't like kids. Kids are NOT for everyone. We love our kids and spend an incredible amount of time raising them. But I have met other families who do not, and it really is not fair to the kids.
  • I'm 51 now, and have never had kids. Let's say I knock up some younger woman tonight and 9 months later we have a baby. That makes me almost 52 when the baby is born. So, when the baby is 18, I'll be 70, assuming I'm still alive. Also, if it's a boy, I'll be 60 when he's 8, and I won't be much use in teaching him sports. On the other hand, I'll probably be retired and be able to attend all the school functions and after school activities. Hmmm. Maybe there's still hope.....
  • They are not financially capable to do so or have too much emotional baggage.
  • This comes to mind:
  • I have met people who are not interested in sharing their own life with a child. Children require a lot of time and patience, and for some, the sacrifice is just not worth their expectations of the reward. For those of us who get great pleasure in having children, we overlook most of the downside, but other people simply don't want to face it. If they are perfectly happy with their life the way is, why take chances? If they are not happy, why put that burden on a child? I also discovered the pleasure of taking care of other people's children through participation in the Foster Family Program, and being a school playground monitor and a child care instructor. I know this isn't the same level of joy, but I ask myself why someone would want a boat, for instance? They make great sacrifices to get out on the lake or river, and I can't imagine why. The couple next door to me spends way more time, money and effort on their boat than the amount of time spent on the water. It's a mystery to me.
  • I agree with Floater: kids are not for every one. Some folks have factual reasons not to want them: age, health issues, potential genetic transmission of illnesses, fear of reproducing their own childhood dramas, etc. Others just don't feel "the call". I would add: there is nothing wrong with deciding not to have kids, we shouldn't attach a moral judgement to it.
  • Well, I'm one of those people. I'm only 19 but I have ALWAYS felt this way and I don't see my mind changing anytime soon. Personally, I feel that there are plenty of good reasons not to have kids: 1) The world is so overpopulated by the human species as it is, not to mention how we are ruining the natural environment). There are millions of children (and people) that are starving and need homes. I feel almost selfish bringing another person(s) into the world in this kind of situation. 2) I really don't want to give up 18+ years of MY life! Ok, so maybe this is selfish but it is MY life and I can do whatever I want with it! 3) I generally do not enjoy being around kids. Some kids are nice, but more than not I hear about kids who yell and scream at their parents, are rude, ungrateful, etc.... I don't want MY kid to treat me like that, and even the best of parents can end up with kids like that sometimes. I could go on and on, but personally these are the top 3 reasons why I do not want kids. I love to take care of things however...such as pets! I love pets. I have 27 different pets in my house (22 are fish...don't freak out.lol) Kids are just not for everyone.
  • Past experience with other peoples rug-rats might have scared them off of the idea....
  • Responsibility, alone time gone, money, headaches, heartahces, toothaches, lifetime commitment, alot of reasonsI guess but if someone does not want a kid then they sure better make sure they don't make one because I think it is better to not have one than to have one or four that you don't even want. Which I know some people like that.
  • Selfishness or very young.
  • Raing children is hard. Not everyone is up to it, and that's fine as the planet has plenty of people.
  • Raising a kid is hard work, and costs a lot of money.
  • because there are enough rug rats in the world. we dont need any more.
  • They poop, they puke, they're a financial drain, they take up a lot of time, they require feeding, you have to plan your life around them, they get sick, they're noisy and messy, they deprive you of sleep (I'm not sure even the cuteness of a newborn baby would make me less furious about getting up throughout the night), pregnancy is difficult (hypergravardium emesis is NO fun) and then your tummy and breasts sag at the end of it, your sex life supposedly takes a turn for the worse when you've had children... there are tons of reasons. Your life just isn't entirely your own once you have children. ''What's best for me?'' generally becomes ''What's best for the children?'' There are billions of people on the planet. The value of me adding a few more to the mix and having my own lifestyle impeded in the meantime is questionable.
  • I never felt the desire to have children, never felt like our family wasn't complete without them. My husband and I really enjoy each other and always saw ourselves as a family, complete. We enjoyed our freedom and our feeling like kids. There was just so much to do and we were satisfied. I never avoided children because of overpopulating the planet, the great expensive or because of the heartaches that children can bring. I don't think those were so prevalent when I was younger. We just never had the urge and it never came to pass. I did get pregnant twice and after the panic we were quite excited as to how it would change our lives, but I miscarried both times. It was sad but not the end of the world for us as we had been very happy before. I know that most people that have had children think that we missed out on so much, but I usually return that thought with the things they missed out on, not being 'just a couple', two people deeply in love with each other, making a happy family through their singular adventures in great freedom and joy.
  • because kids have needs, and you have to provide for them.
  • That's funny, as I don't understand why anyone would WANT kids. When people say they are DESPERATE to have kids, I see them as weak and kind of pathetic and stupid. Kids ruin everything. Byebye sex life, bye bye resources, bye bye free time, bye bye vagina. Bye bye any semblance of life I had before. I'm 32 and happily childFREE.
  • Bad previous experience. Some people simply are not capable of raising children properly.
  • A bad childhood and/or bad parents as a child. Some people are too afraid to have children, they might complete the cycle and end up just like their parents.
  • genetics.
  • That is a choice they made , is one reason
  • Cause they've had some and found out about diapers and doctors and teacher meetings and high school and cool clothes abd band instruments or athletic equipment and proms and weddings...Unfortunately you don't find out the details about kids until you have some. But then they grow up and have their own and that's their puishment. Like someone said the best part about being a grandparent is that you can give 'em back. I love saying you're son/daughter needs you daddy/mommy. Seriously...I'd have the three of them all over again in a nano second. (with some minor adjustments)
  • Because over all life is suffer, why you want to bring your love one to suffer?
  • An unhappy life could put them off wanting to possibly put someone else through the same.
  • There are a lot of reasons. Some people just aren't capable of raising kids and realize it. Others had a very unhappy childhood and are afraid of doing the same things their parents did. Lifestyle won't support kids. Some are afraid of the responsibility. There are those who just aren't healthy enough. Some people just don't like kids.
  • maybe some people are not ready for kids. people might want enjoy what they have already. it might be hard to look after the kids. and some people might want to do what they want without looking after kids and worring about them. it takes alot of money raiseing a kid.some people are happy without kids. aswell kids have needs that might need providing like food, education and clothes
  • There are a lot of pros and cons to having kids. Not everyone SHOULD have kids (look at the number of neglected/abused kids). It's too bad there isn't a test to take to weed out the SHOULD/SHOULD NOTS...lol. I have 4 children and the 9th grandchild on the way. Yes, there were times when I wondered what it would be like to have more time, money, fun, travel, etc. Now, later in life, and divorced, I have more time, traveled a little, no one to answer to, (but not more money...lol). BUT, I would not give up having those kids. I love all of them and their families, and vice versa. And we are all there for each other when any one of us needs help. That's a really nice feeling. Maybe you have to BE a parent to understand that.....
  • For a number of reasons: (1) it's not fair to bring children into a world as screwed up as this is; (2) children are nothing but work and expense; (3) children are a liability; (4) not everybody likes children; (5) children are a responsibility a lot of people can't handle
  • I tend to retch at the smell of feces. I worry about the quality of my parenting. I worry about inflicting more of my genes upon the world. I worry about the state which the world may be in by such a time. Money. I worry about what they may think of me.
  • their career is more important, they aren't ready to settle down with kids, they had a bad childhood, just doesn't want them
  • i have a sister in law who's so into her work, that she doesn't feel she can handle them. so she and her husband decided not to have kids. before long, she wont' be able to.
  • Several reasons. Mine would be the desire to use my time and resources on myself, my future career, and just enjoying life and helping others. I volunteer, I work, I go to college. I understand that all these things can be done while having children, but I also think that we only have so much time and energy in life, and the more priorities one has in life, the more some of these priorities tend to get neglected. We can only stretch ourselves so far, and I want to see what I am capable of. I love kids, I have 26 nieces and nephews, Im in the big brother's program and have been for two years, and I think I would be a damn good father if I were to have kids. But I enjoy my privacy, and at this point in time, I have no desire to have them.
  • I have a few reasons. 1. I despise children with the white hot heat of a thousand burning suns. 2. If I loved a woman enough to have sex with her why would I want to inflict pregnancy on her? 3. When I get married I want to focus all of my love and attention on my wife. 4. There are already far too many children in the world.
  • I dont know. I have two kids and its the best thing that I could have ever dreamed of:) the idiot who started that long conversation is messed up. shes probably ugly as shit and feels that if she had kids her kids would be hideous looking who knows. I am surrounded by loving families all with kids and we are the happy ones, the ones that cant have any are sad and alone and i pray that one day theyare able to convieve.
  • money. people are far less likely to become wealthy after they have children.
  • opps, meant to be in comment box, sorry!!
  • Thats good, i have to say i admire for you admitting that you wouldnt be agood parent. some ppl cant even admit that so good for you.
  • It's called personal choice. I don't want kids ever because I basically hate them.
  • Too much responsibility in an age of supposed freedoms. I'm too lazy to have kids.

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