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  • It's a hard thing to do! Sometimes you just have to be patient and wait. Sooner or later, you'll wonder why you even liked him. It's depressing to deal with a situation like this, but it's completely normal. i think the best thing to do would be to try to find somebody else. but make sure you don't end up forcing yourself to like a new guy. or, just take a break from guys! do something you love to do. hang out with your girls and catch a movie or go to the mall. it'll take your mind off him and you'll be filling the emptyness you feel inside with love from your friends. talk to them about it, too. they'll listen. hope everything goes well! =]
  • What I learned many moons ago lol, is when there is a break up and you know where you stand and what he is about, try this. With every positive memory or thought, instantly replace it will a negative one. Just remember why he is an ex..
  • Time heals,you did not waste your time, it's natural to think about someone, It' part of life, you have to lift yourself up and move on.
  • Keep focusing on improving yourself. Workout - read - go out for a jog. Getting over this will not be easy. But like you said - he is not thinking about you.So _you_ start thinking about you. You are number one.
  • How do you know he never thinks of you? Maybe he does, but he doesn't say anything because YOU haven't said anything!
  • I really don't think only one person is doing all the thinking. Why not try to pay attention to the thoughts. You are probably picking upon him, even if it doesn't get you anywhere. Some people are too afraid to act on their feelings. If its too disturbing, when the person comes into your mind say "please go away".
  • You can use the process of subliminal messaging to stop thinking about a person, although this approach may be a bit unconventional. You can download the subliminal messaging system for free at ~~>http://www.download.com/Subliminal-Blaster/3000-2129_4-10513350.html?tag=lst-0-1<~~ When you download it just create the message on the system and type 'I am forgetting [the person you are trying to forget full name goes here]' Even making yourself do this can be a bit painstaking but if you are truly desperate to get rid of these feelings would require alot of willpower. I would advise maybe using this program whenever you are online. If you go online two times a week, stay online for maybe up to 2 hours a week using this program The more time you use the program th better ..I think alot abut a person and I don't want this person to be disturbed by me as this person has alot of stresses going on, and so I tried this for like an hour the first day and it seemed to work Hope this helps!
  • Sometimes the more you try *not* to the more you will. You could just think of something else to distract your brain the minute you start thinking of them...
  • when i know that it's not worth it, and make my days full, and sometimes i control my thinking....because i don't want to think about him, it makes feel sad
  • Understand why you do it - in this case, it's a pleasurable thought. If you want to stop thinking about someone. Then, find something else pleasurable to think of. Simple. If that doesn't work, then, decide to not think of it. Self-control.. You control all that you think of. Yes, you may get random thoughts, but those are just thoughts. Whether you are going to act on them/ponder over them is another thing...so, make up your mind. Are you going to stop or are you going to keep making excuses for not stopping the thoughts. It's your choice.
  • well .. i am trying to find the answer .. so i can do it .. bas i cant .. there is one special .. person an really i cant get him out of my mind .. and i know very well tht he's not thinking of me .. an i am sure ..
  • smash our head really hard on something it usually causes amnesia
  • never sit alone and idle at home otherwise your thoughts would likely fly back to the person.. let your mind be occupied with other thoughts.. busy yourself.. hang out more with friends.. talk to people around you.. when you are alone read a book or watch a movie or listen to some music.. Hoping for the best =)
  • I really wish you were getting more points for this question. No matter what age a person is, they always have to deal with feelings like this at some point in time. Depending on how new a break-up is, it may not be TIME to stop thinking about it. Quite often, your body reacts to a break-up just like it was a real death. The same stressors are triggered and the grieving process kicks in. You literally must feel your way through it. If you don't, it will always circle itself back into your life somehow and bite you in the ass.
  • Let's first talk about WHY you think about him. If it's a question of infatuation, then it's just a matter of finding someone else. However, if you've spent a lot of time with this person in the past, and feel that he is the only person that you can bond with emotionally (the only person that could possibly understand you, and share the same sense of humor, etc.), you gotta grieve a shit load. Call up the SECOND most important person to you, and get together. You won't be shedding the same feelings toward them, but you'll at least be building stronger bonds with them while diminishing those that can no longer exist. NEVER DO THIS WITH A GUY THOUGH! Unless you like the guy of course. They'll get the wrong impression, thinking that you are into them now. And if this does happen, and you tell them that you aren't into them like that (you just need help momentarily) they'll turn it back around on you and make it worse. GRIEVE WITH THE SAME SEX ONLY! Unless they're your family of course. My prayers to those who have this problem. It's very hard to deal with.
  • try to do something else, make yourself busy.
  • You can't go backward. You can only go forward. so stop. Look eagerly and with curiosity, look with innocense, but look forward to what may be ahead, not what you left behind.
  • Keep busy and give it time. Lots of time. Did I say keep busy?
  • The thoughts will fade away eventually.
  • A timely question, as I'm experiencing the same dilemma, but for different reasons. (I'm saddled with a debt incurred from buying a car for my son. He agreed to pay for it, but has not only reneged on the payments...he's trashed the car so that it can't be resold.) The answer is simple, though the APPLICATION of the answer takes commitment and practice. WHENEVER YOU FIND YOURSELF THINKING OF THE PERSON, GENTLY BUT FIRMLY THINK OF SOMETHING/SOMEONE ELSE. That's the solution. You must do this REPEATEDLY and CONSISTENTLY whenever the unwanted thought occurs. See...the thought is not the problem. The real problem is our insane habit of deriving pleasure from feeling sorry for ourselves and/or having other people feel sorry for us. At the end of the day, though, the "problem" is still there and we're no closer to resolving it than we were before. So, once again we embark upon the endless cycle of thinking about something/someone we (claim we) don't want to think about. We're lying to ourselves. We do NOTHING we don't want to do. Once we understand the futility of dwelling upon painful thoughts, we can begin the practice of CHOOSING thoughts that are not so painful. We are ALWAYS free to choose another thought.
  • You need to put your time and energy into something else. Eventually, you will think of him less.
  • This is how yu do it: FUCKKKKKKKKK HiMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM
  • The thought will come... you will remember the respect you had for the person... but with time you will know the negative qualities of her... so, you will think seh did not deserve you... but still you will again neglect those negative qualities and will focus yourself only on the positive once.. the result is you again come back liking her... So, how to get out of this loop?... I think the loop will only get out, when you will find something else you will have to greatly focus on... in case you can find it yourself would be the best else life will find the focus for you and truly you will find yourself again... back within you... :-) ... So just enjoy the current thoughts and don't ever try to change your good qualities for the person.. you are the best and you will get yourself back again to the liberal you.... Enjoy...
  • think about yourself and what you want for your future making sure that one of the things that you want for your future is someone that wants you. (why do you want to think of someone that never thinks of you? what are you getting out of this?)
  • im having the same prob as u ..i just had a miscarriage and my bf left me 3 mins after i told him.. i know he doesnt love me anymore but i cant stop thinking about him. i think the best thing u can do is keep busy and if u find urself thinking about him ..just think of him as if he was dead ..and that u can nvr see him to talk to him again .. thats wat im doing and it works sometimes ..
  • You need to move on and find someone better who is worth your time and will give you theirs. Move on and find that other person.
  • i found this aticle on the net maybe it will help u ..cuz i know it sure helped me dear .. i'll be praying for u .. gud luck I was walking to meet a co-worker for lunch and saw a tiny humming bird slam into the window of a building and fall to my feet still alive. I picked it up and went to meet my friend. She helped me nurse it back to health in about one hour it was flying back again. What a powerful image I thought. A delicate humming bird slamming against the window of a cold, hard, silent and unmovable building and falling to the ground in pain. Hmm…I was feeling like that after the breakup with my ex. I saw my feelings were hurting just as that bird that slammed into a building was hurting. Sure the building hurt it but the building does not move, it is cold, and it does not apologize either, because it is a building and it cannot do that. The building represents my ex’s feelings.
  • Everytime a thought of him comes up just turn it off. He doen't love you ... love is a two way steet and well it is his loss not yours really begin to take in those words because it is true. You should celebrate he is gone really you should !! Smile at yourself at least 5 times a day, tell yourself your beautiful and do something new that will really enhance you, don't let anyone take away your self worth !
  • try to find some one that thinks of you to. and maybe u will stop thinking about that on person.
  • Well, if you are spending all that time thinking of this person, spend some of it writing down good ways for them to think of you. At least you will be moving forward. Find out what it takes to make that person aware of your existence. If you are doing all that thinking, I assume you know a lot about this person already, so move on it.
  • Hells no...I wouldn't waste my time thinking about someone that's not thinking about me.
  • i am goin through the same thing. i had a miscarriage 4wks ago- the whole next week he ditched me out to go drinking and be w his buddies. including the day we got home from the hospital. after a wk of that- i realized hes not worth it. losing the baby made me realize lifes to short to be with some 1 that dont really care. tho i am sad/mad/hurt now -- i will be better off in the long run. i try to keep busy - and think of how he really treated me not so good so i can keep on track and move past all this!! :) Goodluck
  • Tell someone that you trust about your feelings for this guy. They can also share similar crushes that they might know are not ever going to work for them, and then you can both have compassion for eachother.:)
  • that's sad, i'm sorry that this is happening to you, but i personally know that i can't and wont stop thinking about individuals that have hurt me, but if you just try to accept that things happen for a reason then it might help you cope. i always try to think that maybe things didn't work with Alexandra or Michelle or Isabel or Karen or Amanda or Jena or Jess or Katie or Amy or Cassidy or Lauren because there is another special person out there that is the one meant for me, or maybe i'm just supposed to bounce around and never settle down, i don't know but i can just accept reality and keep living, not letting the past put me down, but learning from the past if i made mistakes to make things better.
  • think of some one new or write his name down and everything about him and just burn it

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