ANSWERS: 36
  • being cheated on allows you to be a little irrational... if she knew about it, its only fair that she take part in the blame.
  • Well yeah because it was my cousin he cheated on me with... grrrr
  • Well, not really! She didn't have the commitment with you, he did!
  • I can be mad at who ever the hell I want, but it won't change the unfortunate situation.
  • You can be but why waste the time and effort. When I found out about my husbands mistress I took her out for drinks after I filed for divorce. LOL :)
  • I'd be a bit worried if you WEREN'T mad at her! If she KNEW that the guy was married, where does her responsibilities lay? If she didn't know, then forget it. She just didn't know.
  • As women, our first instinct is always to attack "the other woman" and not blame the man. Examine your reasons for not blaming the man (e.g. are you afraid he'll leave?). As others have stated, if she knew, she shares the blame. If not, all blame lies squarely on his shoulders.
  • They both entered into the sex so they are equally to blame in the adultry. In essence they both suck.
  • yes, if she knew u was together its on her too. specialy if she is/was your friend . your feelings belong to you, however, if she didnt know, he didnt let her to believe you was an item, then she is just as cheated
  • if she knew, yes, if she didnt then no
  • Only if she knew about you!
  • if she KNEW of his marital status, KNEW you as well..either as a friend or just as an aquaintence even...KNOWS u have kids....she is equally to blame. If the types of women who knowigly date married men would show respect for thier fellow women there would be no one left for married men to cheat with! A woman who knowingly sets out to have an affair with a married man is a homewrecker plain and simple and it makes her UGLY on the inside no matter how physically attractive she might be on the outside. Your INNER self is what makes you a decent and beautiful person. If more ppl would look at their potential actions and see them first thru the eyes of their children, see how their children would really think they looked doing whatever it is they are contemplating....I bet most would not get involved with a married person. As even a CHILD knows that's wrong and cruel!!
  • Only if she knew he was married and decided to partake in his adultry.
  • Yes you can. But, I'd like to say that I hear so many times a phrase like "she" broke up the marriage/relationship and that just isn't the case. The man had a choice. The other woman didn't break anything up. That goes both ways-if there was another man..that "man" didn't break anything up either because the woman had a choice.
  • I would be indifferent to her. There are women like that everywhere, he is the one who made the promise to me to avoid them. She owes me nothing.
  • you can if she knew your man wasnt single. i would smack her =L
  • IF she knew me, I'd be mad at her, as well as being mad at my man. But otherwise, no, I'd only kick HIS ass.
  • Yes, she's the one who came looking and continued to try and seek alternative routes of contact when the conventional ones were severed. She's really just as guilty as well (at least in my case).
  • your anger should be mostly aimed at your s/o having said that, if she knew he was still with you etc, then she does deserve some blame
  • its natural to be mad at the woman, she was the threat and he was your property. (not literally, sheesh) but i see what you're saying.
  • It makes perfect sense to be angry at the other woman. If someone had come and used something of mine, something personal even that I thought was for my use only I would be very upset. So this 'item' has two legs and a brain and can walk himself over to her house? It doesn't mean I couldn't be mad at both of them equally. They are each a different type of deception, a different violation, but near equal in magnitude. They are both people who see nothing wrong with violating the bonds of marriage after all.
  • Yes, I can be, and have been.
  • it would be different blame though. You blame the woman for taking something that's not hers. You blame your man for making a choice being with her. In my opinion, your man is the who should take responsibility for this.
  • Abosultely. If you aren't then you probably didn't care in the first place.
  • abso-freakin-lutely! it takes 2 to tango!
  • Of course. In fact, I would expect a girl to be mad at me if I helped her boyfriend cheat. Why? Well, I already know it's wrong to help someone else's boyfriend cheat. It's especially wrong if you act like his girlfriend is one of your best friends. I respect my friends and I respect myself, so in no way can I picture myself cheating with someone else's boyfriend. If I do, the girl can be mad at me all she wants. She can destroy my life for all I care. In my mind, if I do something that disgusting and that disgraceful, I probably deserve it anyway. I might even consider it my 'punishment'. Now if the guy told me he was single and I was single, then that's a different story.
  • Of course. I'm sure the wounded party would have plenty of fury for both of them
  • you can be mad at whomever you chose, but your anger and hurt would be better placed on the one who broke a committment to you.
  • No i wouldnt waste my energy unless she was family or a friend then i would be because she would then have a responsibility to you. my ex cheated on me with a forign girl, i see her about the whole time but don't feel anything towards her, i totally blame him, he was my boyfriend and it was HIM that betrayed my trust. :)
  • we don't mean to hurt anyone.. it all happens so fast before you can stop it... why do you have to love the same person your whole life.. so you met someone you thought you loved and had kids with them and then found your soulmate.. its a tough situation for everyone
  • I do feel that if your S.O. cheats, and the other person Knew they were involved, then hell yes, you can be angry with that person as well. But...the brunt of your anger and hurt and disappointment should be in the your S.O., as they were the one who made the commitment to you and then broke it. Being cheated on hurts and sucks and it's Never easy to get over, speaking from experience. I did not like the woman, I was to the point of hating her because she was a good friend of mine (or so I thought) and found out they were messing around behind my back. I was hurt and disappointed and angry with both my bf and the girl. I befriended the girl again over time and things seem to be okay, but my relationship has still not completely mended.
  • Yes you can. If it was for any real length of time, she had to have known about his marriage/relationship, and she did make the decision to keep going. But by the same token, you have to be mad at him as well, because he decided to pursue an outside relationship.
  • Yes if she knew that he was in a relationship with you. Don't make the mistress out to be a saint when she is not if she knowingly knew he was in a relationship -- regardless if he told her that he wasn't happy with the woman he was with. A man in a relationship is not a man you should want to date or sleep with or both. Evil people do evil things! Adultery is a sin in The Bible and it comes with severe consequences down the road.
  • You can be mad at her, but you should be more angry with your man. She didn't cheat on you, he did.
  • not at all, but you end up mad at the woman just knowing that she had sex with you spouse,when the one your really mad at is your husband.
  • If she knew he was married....oh hell yes!

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