ANSWERS: 16
  • What comes first in my life is myself cause i dont have either.
  • Children hands down!
  • Wow. Got in a s-load of trouble telling my wife she came first over the kids. She said she'd like to know I would properly care for her children should something happen to her.
  • My son will always come first in my life and Jim knows it..his sons will always come first in his life and I know it..we embrace that. A parent's relationship with his/her child should not change just because someone new comes into one's life...any parent who allows it is abnegating his/her responsibility. Any new love who doesn't understand that should be dumped immediately. Many lovers who have no children get upset when their s/o puts the kids first..well, if they can't accept it they should leave. The parent/child relationship has lasted much longer than any new girlfriend/boyfriend..they are ships in the nights..your children are forever! :)
  • You child, obviously. But don't forget who you talk to at the end of the day about his problems and who shares his triumphs, who listens to you when you're feeling low, and kisses you goodnight. Always, babe... :-*
  • my children, its not that i love my s/o any less its just my children depend on me more.
  • My relationsbhip comes first, once I we have children that may change slightly but I do believe that once we have a family the family in general would come first.
  • My chilren comes before a man, and I would exspect a man to feel the same way about his children.
  • I know a lot of people don't agree with me, but I think the spouse should come first and the children should come second, but as a whole, I think the family should come first. I mean .. there are so many parents who ignore each other in the name of raising their children, and once their children are grown up and moved away, they spent so much time apart that they don't even know each other anymore. I don't see anything good about that. I respect my parents enough to let them have their own time together so that they can still know each other. They have taught us the importance of marriage and how much of a blessing children are to have, so I don't feel like I'm being robbed of anything from my family. If anything, they probably love us more than than a lot of parents seem to love their children. They also have no problem spending time with us while they are together. They don't need to be separate to enjoy our company. We are a family. People who come over are usually jealous of how close we are because they don't have that closeness with their family. I mean, sure I am on Answerbag a lot .. but, I still do talk to and spend time with my family, even though I'm on the computer. I guess it helps that our computers are in the same location and next to each other, which encourages us to spend time with each other. My parents will not allow us to have computers or TVs in our own rooms. I actually understand where they are coming from completely, because they are good at explaining why their rules are the way they are. I sleep in a room close to my parents room and it's actually comforting when I can hear them talk at night. It tells me that they can talk to each other. It's comforting. It's very comforting, even if I don't know what they're saying. I want my parents to love each other and stay together and not feel like they have to because they had children together. I want them to stay together because they want to and I want them to be happy with each other and love each other the most. With that, I think it gives me the reassurance that there is stability in the home. Therefore, I can feel like the home I grew up in is the safest place to be. And you know what? I do feel like it's the safest place to be. No one hurts me here and gets away with it. No one. The same goes for the rest of my family. They are interested in our best interests and teaching us all that they think is right and answering our questions as honestly as they can. I am lucky to live in the family that I do and I am lucky that my parents love each other enough to love each other the most because I really do think that is what makes this home a stable one. If the parents truly love each other, why would they ever want to destroy the very people they created out of their own love for each other?
  • I would never not be there for my children or not be there for there needs. However, i would not accomodate my children at the expense of my partner's feelings unless it was a darn good reason! If we aren't caring, considerate, compromising, and compassionate with each other, how strong will we be when the children leave? He is my partner for life. If i have raised my children correctly they to will move on and have a wonderful working, nurturing, partnership to. Knowing that someone has your back, trusting him to give you the emotional support you need, to me, is one of the basic acts of a solid relationship.The way for him to give you that is to feel they same from you. If were not a team and a united front problems ensue and divorce or indifference occurs. That's not a good environment for the children. It also damages the connection and commitment to the partnership for the future when the children leave.
  • My "relationship" with my s/o and my "responsibility" towards my children, though never conflicting with one another, go nonetheless hand in hand.
  • My relationship.
  • My child will have a better life with two parents, so my husband comes first, both because I love him and because I love her.
  • Children. Your kids will always be your kids. Wife? I've had 3.
  • im not married or have kids but i think it should be your children
  • My son, definitely. I don't currently have a s/o.

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