I don't know if it can be fixed, but I think her decision was the best decision.

All couples get into arguments or disagreements with one another. It's unfortunate when they escalate into fights. It's important, if you want to stay together and not be miserable, to learn how to disagree in such a way that no one gets hurt. Here's an example of an argument that escalates and hurts the feelings of both parties: "I'm making chicken for dinner." "Again? We always have chicken! I want steak!" "Well, if you made more money maybe you could have steak more often!" "I'm doing the best I can! All you do is complain about money!" There are a couple of problems with this: 1. There's no appreciation for the person making the dinner 2. Issues from the past are brought into the present 3. Generalizations are made Here's a civilized version: "I'm making chicken for dinner." "Thanks, you really make great chicken! You know, we haven't had steak for awhile - let's keep an eye out for a sale and see if we can pick some up soon without killing our budget." There are ways to get your point across without hurting others. This 2nd version also reinforces that the two of you are on a team - LET's get some steak soon, OUR budget. You are on the same side. You've also been honest and stayed on the immediate topic without bringing up the past or generalizing. I realize this is a simplistic example, but it does show how fights often get out of hand. There doesn't have to be a "winner" or a "loser" - with effort you can find a "win-win" solution to just about everything. Tell your girlfriend you want to make this kind of an effort and maybe the trust can be reinstilled in your relationship. There are couples counselors who can help you learn to "fight fair" too.

I think the break was a good idea. Let each of you cool off and think about your recent relationship with her. The fact that she doesn't trust you with anyone is tough and usually would be grounds for a breakup. Getting her to trust you is extremely hard because she has to be willing to forgive. She doesn't have to forget but it's crucial that she doesn't harbor over it. The first way to earn her trust is to communicate.. it does wonders. The second way my significant other earned my trust was by quitting bad habits that was normally enjoyed. For instance, consuming alcohol, partying unless if it was a celebration for something particular, marijuana, drugs,limiting the excessive video game playing, smoking, cussing profusely, flirting, porn, etc.. doesn't matter what it is. Give up something and she'll realize your hard efforts. However, YOU have to realize that you can't just GIVE something up for the sake of the relationship.. you have to give it up because you truly know that it's a bad habit and is hazardous to your health and you WANT to be a better person and better lifestyle.. this applies to drinking etc. Furthermore, when you make a promise.. MEAN IT!!! If you break it, you'll look inconsistent and unreliable.. and it will make her question your trust.

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Give it up, you're not a match!

"Love" is not the magic be-all and end-all that conquers everything and heals all wounds. If you enjoy one another and are having a great time together you want to stay together to keep it going. If not then why are you even together at all? If you are untrustworthy then that is your doing. If she has such low self-esteem she won't trust anyone that is her doing. But I think that when couples break up there is a reason they did. If they wanted to still be together they would be together.