Guys: If you met a girl who was everything you were looking for, mentally, physically, and emotionally, would you still date her if she revealed that she was a single mother? Why or why not?
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ANSWERS: 27
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Not a guy last time I checked ... but I do not like to date men that have children and they normally only have them on the weekends for visitation. Now, if he has a house full of dogs the more the merrier!
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Sure. If she's everything I'm looking for, it shouldn't matter. Of course, if the kid's a completely spoiled brat who hates me... but then, if that were the case, the woman wouldn't be everything I'm looking for...
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i think i would be willing to give it a try. there is no reason not to. if it didnt work out because of the kid, that would be unfortunate... but personally i dont like kids.
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As a mom, In order for us to be your complete package, you would have to love our child(ren). They are part of us and thus they must be considered. If you don't like kids then it wasn't meant to be.
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I don't know how I would know she is everything I am looking for unless I were to date her first to find out. But, anyway, I'm all about chemistry. Strong enough chemistry can overcome anything.
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Assuming everything you said- her child would be part of that package, then. If she is appealing to me mentally, physically, and emotionally, that child is part of that package! So, yes, I would date her. Of course, that's if I was single- if I did it now, my wife would be rightfully angry with me!
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Just remember, she comes as a package deal and you are going to have to contend with the baby's biological father, forever. this may be good or bad. Also remember, her baby comes first. You will come second. Once you understand the above and are willing to accept those conditions, then go for it. It will not be an easy future for you, if you are not an understanding person.
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I am a male who raised my son as a single parent since he was 18 months old. I found out that (some) females are reluctant to raising children that are not theirs. However, they would want a male to come in and help them raise the children that they did not father.As my mother used to say.."If you love the cow, you have to love the calf". If this young woman is EVERYTHING, you should be thankful for such a find. There is a difference between a SIRE and a FATHER. I am both.
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I actually did years ago. I liked her a lot. She had 2 boys about 9 years old when I met her. We married soon. Unfortunately she died a few years later. I remarried a woman without children. We're together for 8 years now.
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Absolutely. It's hard enough to find someone who fits you. To be picky about it, just because she's got a kid, is asking for bad karma to catch up with you afterwards.
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if i can hack it, why not? say if i dont date her, date someone else who doesnt have a kid, but is just so-so, i would still end up looking for someone like her. sometimes you can't have it all, sometimes you're given more than you ask for. so go for it if it means the world to you to date someone as special as her.
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Without hesitation. If she was everything I was looking for, it would be foolish to pass it up simply because she had a relationship that resulted in a child before she knew me. As long as she's willing to have my children as well, it would be a non-issue.
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Of "why not?": Cuz it'll be duplicating to make a mother of another's stock mother again. Duplication is not good here!
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I wouldn't date a single mom, unless the kid was old enough to be out of the house. I've dated single moms with young children before, and have learned my lesson. Must. Stay. Away. The reason is, many single moms are really bitter towards men, so you're in the doghouse before you even start. Then they try to turn you into a father figure for the kid (not such a good idea if the kid's father is still in the picture). Then they start draining your coffers, and you're done like dinner, and broke to boot.
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mentally? PHYSICALLY? emotionally? I would date even a tree if IT had all the 3 qualities....
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Sure would. If she was as perfect as the statement above it would not matter to me in the least. I think it would actually be a benifit.
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I'm actually in the same boat as you are at the moment my friend, so I empathize with your uncertainty. But as the old saying goes "nothing ventured, nothing gained". The worst that can happen is, like any other relationship, it won't work out. The positive potential, however, is nearly immeasurable. Go for it, and good luck to you.
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Honest answer, no. I never wanted children. I married a woman that doesn't want kids. I have nothing against children or people that have children (as long as they are responsible parents). But having children is not something I want in life.
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Wow..It has been a long time since I answered that young man's question, and it seems like my Truth touched quite a lot of people. Maybe Senator Obama read it? However, let me clarify that his comments were not related to just Black males.( Responsibilities)
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I can honestly say that it doesn't take me half a heartbeat to answer this one: Yes, I would still date her! Single mothers are amazing people they do two of the most difficult jobs on the planet and that is before they even leave the house to go to their paying job!
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I'd probably date her. I've been through the child raising thing and it's been challenging. I totally apreciate that she needs help with the children but it IS a lot to ask of someone to be there for the kids too. Whether I would get deeply involved would depend on a lot of things would depend on the children (how many, what they're like how old they are). It depends wholey on the situation.
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Actually, I prefer it. Im a female medical student with three years of med school left... and soon to be 26. I love children and plan to go into pediatrics. To meet a man stable enough to take excellent care of his son or daughter alone, I look at his child and the effects parenting has probably had on his maturity, nuturing ability, and tenderness as an asset. Every child deserves to have both a woman and man to care about them and place them first. I would have NO problem placing his child as first in my life just as he has. In essence, if I am comfortable he and I have forever on our side, I would look at the child as my own without question. LOL, and I get to skip the whole stretch-marks and body-rebuilding thing :)
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Personally I would not, no.
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My gut reaction is "of course, why the hell not". But, it's one of those things that I'd probably have to think through more if I were thrust in the situation, and I doubt there's a a constant answer for every situation. What if the kid hated me? What if the kid loved me, what if the kid was older, what if it were younger. Crazy variables.
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I would want to know who the father was right away as well as do a background check on him. In this day and age, I'd be worried about the psycho- ex factor. If she says, "It's okay I have a restraining order against him."....RUN!!! I've run into that problem before, and it never turns out good. Next thing you know, you're constantly watching over your shoulder for anyone coming in your direction.
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Girls can like girls, too.
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if my son comes to me and says that he wants to marry a gal who is a single parent.....i would say if he loves her and her child (ren).....then he has my blessings........beggars cant be choosers....you might just wake up and realise that the single mother was a better woman then the single woman.
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