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  • Now if both are throwing fits I would start wondering if it's not morea an issue with the parents than the kids.
  • I would tell him that if he is going to act like his little brother, he will be treated like him. Earlier bed time, less time with friends, fewer choices about things. Let him know he will be treated more grown up when he acts like he is.
  • I think the problem is with you. Possibly you dont know how to say NO. So they throw fits till they get their way. Power struggle with the eleven year old, is he trying to get the last word in, because he learned that from somewhere? Tell him he can have the last word as long as he says it to himself.
  • Children have “fits” because adults either directly or indirectly reinforce them. Children learn through cause and effect. It is much better and longer lasting if you simply leave the public place, put the child in their room or ignore. The one thing you should never do under any circumstances is verbally engage the child. Remember even negative reinforcement is reinforcement. Remember it is up to you as a parent to model the behaviors you feel are important to the development of a productive adult. As a teacher of children with behavioral needs I would suggest you go to your local library and check out the video, 1-2-3 Magic.
  • spank him. spare the rod and spoil the child. if he wants to tell you no and throw a fit, show him what the consequences will be (a swat on the bottom and a few minutes in the corner). the other side of this is that when he does what he is supposed to, give him lots of positive reinforcement. he'll soon learn that throwing fits doesn't get him anywhere.
  • IF HE HAS FITS LIKE HIS LITTLE BROTHER, RESTRICT HIS ACTIVITIES TO THAT OF HIS BROTHER. WHEN HE CAN SHOW YOU HE CAN ACT HIS AGE, RESUME AGE APPROPIATE ACTIVITIES AND REWARDS. BE PREPARED TO REPEAT THIS CYCLE A FEW TIMES. MAKE SURE HIS OTHER PARENT AND GRANDPARENTS ARE ON THE SAME PAGE. GOOD LUCK.
  • You can find some helpful articles here: http://www.ehow.com/Search.aspx?s=discipline&Options=0
  • Spank him and let him know you're in charge. Don't fall in with the whole "hitting a child is child abuse" posse. They are a bunch of wimps who don't get that a little slap on the butt will straigthen out a kid in no time and it makes them learn unlike kids nowaday who don't get punished and therefore don't understand consequences anymore.
  • Tell him that this is not the right way to get what he wants. When he talks back, you try talking back too. And later, ask him how he feels when you talked back to him. Maybe when he grows to be more mature, he'll understand. Good luck!
  • guns, knives, hanging, electricution
  • I would treat him like his little brother GOOD LUCK!!
  • I would spend some time away from home doing something together. He needs a little oil on his squeak....sometimes this is all that it takes....
  • Zero tolerance from you, and then as he starts to behave you can start very slowly as he earns it giving him back some of his priviledges. It will be hard going but you must stick at it, if you don't do something he is going to turn out to be not a very nice adult and his junior sibling will go the same way by example.
  • tell them "talking back and throwing fits will not be accepted and when you talk back/throw fits you will be punished." Then, next time he does it, follow through on your punishment (the whole way). If he keeps doing it over and over, he might be vying for attention from your little one. Or perhaps he is copying his father? There are a lot of reasons he could be doing this. But, being consistent with your punishments and never giving him his way when he throws fits will eventually teach him its not ever going to work. if you give in, then he knows it will work.... i hope that helps...
  • take away priviledges when he does that

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