Can you give me your opinion please? My boyfriend broke up with me because I refused to quit my job, because he makes less money than I do and it makes him feel less of a man. Did I make the right decision?
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He was already less of a man asking you to do that.
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Yes you made the right decision.
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prosperity will continue to follow you providing you keep making such great desicions.
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You can't be serious. He should have stayed with you because together you would have a lot of money and would be able to pool it and he would enjoy the benefits of it. Only since the past five years has hubby made more money than me and we have been together for 21 years.
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When your rolling in the money, he's going to look at you and be sorry he did that. You're decision was based on your future and at this moment your future has gotten a lot better. A man with no sense (cents).
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Wow. Yes, you made the right decision. You don't need to be with a person like that.
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If he truly cared for you, he wouldn't have asked you to quit your job. He would have found a healthy way to deal with his low self esteem. The man you want to be with is secure in himself and always wants what's best for you. I hope you meet him soon. So, in answer to your question, in a word, yes.
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If I were in your shoes I'd do the same thing. 100 percent correct decision honey, congrats!
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Sorry, but it never fails to amaze me, on just how many folks just need to be kicked!...or....
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Yes, if he is so lacking in confidence that he needs a women barefoot and pregnant thenhe is not the man for an intelligent woman. if he loved you he would be happy for you to suced.
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Yes, you are an independent woman who can stand up on her own two feet and dosen't need a man to take care of her financially. In my humble opinion, your BF was the one who lost out -- you deserve someone better, you're a sugar momma!! :)
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Yes! You need to do your best, and he needs to do his best...if he's concerned about something minor like that, just think of what could happen with future issues.
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You certainly made the right decision. If he had a problem with you making more money than him, then it was up to HIM to go get a better job!
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I think you did. You could have quit your job, been less independent and THEN had him break up with you over something else just as stupid and you would be in a financial AND and emotional bind.
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YES !!!!....you did ....he's a bloody fool and a backward thinking jerk ....your better of without him
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If his insecurity about his job is a greater feeling to him than his love for you, then he doesn't deserve to be with you anyway.
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Yes you did, it sounds like he wanted to have control. Good move on your part
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Probably, yes ... anyone who feels that income levels, and who earns what, are more important than the person they are with, needs to reorganize their priorities.
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what a d@!che
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yes, what an insecure wanker.
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Was it the real reason, Amanda? Didn't join other problems to that workplace?
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You did the right thing hun why do we meet control freaks!!!!!!!!!!Grrrrrrrrrrrrr it does my head in!!!!
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Are you a topless dancer? If you are, then I could understand the jealousy he would feel toward the other men looking at you. If you do anything but exotic dance, he was too controlling.
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For what it's worth, my opinion is that he's an idiot. If your partner *should* be with you he or she will want what is best for you, because long term that's what is best for both of you. To attempt to manipulate your partner in order to make oneself feel better shows he has some serious issues in the background. What does this person base his 'manly feelings' on? Seems ridiculous and incomprehensible to me. If you were unhappy in your job, or put in danger by it, his request (although not his reasoning) is one I could perhaps understand, but to make such a request for obviously selfish reasons shows an unhealthy psychology. It looks to me like he's unintentionally made the right decision for you, while trying to make what he probably thinks is the right decision for himself.
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Any person, man or woman, who feels "less than" who they are because of money has much deeper issues than money. Did you make the right decision? 100 times YES. Asking you to lower yourself to his level and in doing so, lower your self esteem to make himself feel like a "Big Man?" OMG, did you ever make the right decision. You will find a real man, regardless of what money he makes, and be much happier for it.
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I think only you can really answer this question. But I would probably have done the same, I think. It is not your fault if he has this inferiority complex, or is it? http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Inferiority_complex
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YES. Never give up your power in the face of envy.
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Yes you made completely the right decision.Jeez that makes me mad and I'm a man.
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There's no shadow of a doubt that you made the right decision! The right guy would have been happy for you and urged you on to promote to an ever higher position, despite the fact that he earns less! Good for you!
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Absolutely the right decision
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Yes you did right. If he respected you, he would be proud that you were able to make more money...not tell you to quit. He wanted to control you and that is bad.
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If your boyfriend truly cared about you he would have been happy for you and proud of you for being successful. He should have felt lucky that a successful person such as yourself wanted to spend time with him. If he felt bad about not making enough money then that was his problem to solve. He should never have wanted you to lower yourself. Instead he should have taken steps to raise himself.
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ABSOLUTELY, HE'S INSECURE AND MANIPULATIVE, ANYONE WHO TRULY LOVES YOU GETS EXCITED FOR YOU AND SHARES IN YOUR GOOD FORTUNE AND HAPPINESS. FIND A MAN WHO WON'T BE SO THREATENED BY YOU AND CAN BE YOUR EQUAL IN EVERY MANNER
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You did make the right decision. He was totally in the wrong to ask you to give up your job. He must be very insecure with himself. You will find someone to appreciate you.
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Oh Boy did you make the right decision! Never ever let a man dictate how you live your life. In fact, you should never let anyone dictate how you live your life regardless of gender! If you is not man enough to to be proud that someone who loves him is successful. Then he is not the man for you! Go find a perosn who is happy in themselves and would be happy for yor success too. goodluck
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ok thats just stupid. if he makes less money, y cant he just get another job that makes better money instead of making you quit your job that makes more money. he's obviously already less of a man if he broke up you over that. i think you made the right choice.its your life and if u wanna keep a good job then do it.if he wants to be "less of a man" and stupid then let him be that way.
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yes you did the right thing.You would have had many other problems if something like that bothered him.
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Hell Ya! Good decision!
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YES FUCK THAT!! NO MAN SHOULD EVER CONRTOL UR LIFE UR JOB OR UR MIND LIKE THAT
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WOW HE IS INSANE. next time if you get together again,just make him FEEL more wanted,and show him great importance that you need him even if hes just a cr janitor on a cheap cafe.
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Hell yes you made the right decision. If that makes him feel less of a man then you don't need to be with him. thats a stupid reason to break up with someone.
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Absolutely! He's not even your husband and he's worried about how much you make, he doesn't have the right to try and control you by asking you to quit. If he's that insecure, let him go and find yourself a strong man.
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You made the right decision. if he didn't use your job as an excuse to break up with you, he would find another-then you would have no boyfriend AND no job.
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Yes you did.just because a woman makes more money the the man in their life doesn't mean he has the right to tell you to quite you job to make him feel better. This is the 20th century not 1970's or something.He needs to grow up and if he felt like that then he should have got a better job himself.
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lol...yeah you did. My wife is a therapist and I'm a lazy bum. If I made her quit her professional career because she pays for me to stay home i'd be pretty dumb. When I get done with college in a few years I'll be on the same level, but everyone is at different points in their life. If he can't handle that you make more, he should get a better job himself instead of downgrading you. Sounds to me like he's a lazy bum, and I'm speaking from experience, it's hard to stop being a lazy bum :)
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yes you did that is extremely pathetic if he has to earn more money to feel manly, in this day and age men and women have equal rights, if you have a better paid job so what? well done in you choice this would be the 1st of many you would have had 2 sacrifice if you had agreed 2 it :)
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You didn't make a decision, he did, and he's an idiot
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The man has obviously some mental issues, i dont think he would make u happy if he doubts about himself and if he cant turn ur wages into something good for both of u, then good bye is the best thing to do. Dont worry, i just read an article saying that there are 600 people for one person who perfectly match!!! so if this one doesnt make u happy u still have hundreds ppl who might be the rite ones for u
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What you did was absolutely right.. And I don't think you should give a second thought to that. I think that man has got a LOT of ego
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He proved he was less of a man.
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