If you felt like you were falling in love with someone, would you tell them, or would you hold back your feelings for fear of rejection?
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If i'd known them for a while i'd tell them....but if i just met them i'd wait a while until i felt like maybe they had the same feelings then i'd fess up...no point in holdin back feelings, otherwise you'll never know what coulda happened
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this would probably depend on the nature and duration of the relationship. let's just say i had a co-worker and we were really tight and we had a lot of common interests and such and i started to develop a deep affection for him, however, i am married to someone else and am very happy in that situation. i would probably keep the feelings to myself because spilling my feelings to them would cause all sorts of misery and tension and probably kill the friendship. on the other hand, if i was unattached, the other person was unattached and the feelings are more than a passing fancy.. then of course i would tell the person. you would want to know if they have any of the same feelings or not. life is short and you don't want to spend too much time if the situation is going nowhere.... so it really varies greatly depending on the variables of the circumstances..... sorry, no cut and dried answer on this one.... just a long confusing ramble.
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When I was young , I may have held back and kept my feeling to myself. Life is really short and at this stage in my life I pretty much say what I feel.
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this answer is from experience with my current partner who i have been with for 2 years now, initially i didnt want to tell him i thought i was falling for him and i think he was the same, he told me one night when he was drunk he loved me then the next day denied it saying it was a mistake, and that HURT. but we continued to talk and so on and go on dates and then one night i told him how i felt, and he said he felt the same. im glad that i didnt keep it to myself. rejection is a nasty thing at it can make you feel terrible, but id much rather live with being rejected than not telling someone how i felt about them and then finding out years later (say when they are with someone else) that they were waiting for you to make the 'first move' if you feel that way about someone you should definately say so, there is nothing wrong with being open and honest about how you feel
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Most likely I would hold back, not because of the fear of rejection, but because of fear of admitting to myself that I actually care for someone.
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If you have reached the level of maturity or experience where you can distinguish between infatuation and enduring love then be open to declaring it to yourself and your love. There is no honor in denying love.
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I would hold back for fear of rejection because it seems I have a very poor track record when it comes to falling for women who care more about personality than looks. Seeing how I am not the majority of the female populations idea of good looking it makes it hard when you do admit to those feelings and repeatedly get rejected because you aren't good enough for them.
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It's not the rejection I fear. It's the hurt when that person turns away...lately that seems like an inevitability. =(
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I'd be too afraid of scaring him off. I guess I figure if he loves me than he'll tell me. I'm a little rejection sensitive.
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I'd probably hold back at first. Sometimes people can be hard to read. I'd probably tell them eventually, if I felt the relationship could really be great. In reality, if I were to do that, it would hurt innocent people.
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It depends what stage of life I was in. At this point... hold back all the way because of fear of pain, not so much with rejection. A part of falling in love is the other person will make you feel good about yourself and enjoy being around you. I wouldn't fear rejection because If I was falling in love, I belive the other person would have close to the same feelings.
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Depends on the person and what the current relationship is. If we were already friends, I would let her know. I'm kind of accustomed to rejection, but I wouldn't want to ruin a friendship by letting love get in the way.
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I would hold back for some time , until I really knew them - Life's lesson for me + 5 for you
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I would probably hold back, but not necessarily for fear of rejection.
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I would probably hold back. Been there before.
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Probably would not tell him...
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I think I would tell them. Actually I did, about 13 years ago.
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Always tell them, sometimes they're shy and don't want to say it first but you saying it opens up a lot of things! :D Honesty is the best policy
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I feel that i would tell them because you never know what the outcome may be and never hurts to try.
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I would tell them right away.
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I just don't give a f**k anymore. So, I would tell her.
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A great quote: you never lose by loving, you always lose by holding back love is about taking chances, life is about taking chances you never want to wonder what if, and you never want to regret not saying something i would guess that most often people regret the things they didn't do or never said
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I WOULD ASK THE MAN ABOUT HIS FEELING TOWARDS ME AND IF IT IS WHAT I AM LOOKING FOR THEN I WILL POOR OUT MY HEART TO HIM A LET HIM NO WHAT IS WHAT
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if i only felt like i was i wouldnt say anything till i was sure that i was inlove with that persone. and it all deppens on how long weve been together b4 i say anything.until im sure me and him feel the same and i wouldnt feel scared for rejection im a confident gurl. no need to worrie.
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It depends on the situation, but I would tell them sooner rather than later.
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Id hold back a bit, atleast for a while. Id try to find out how he/she feels about me, but I know its not easy. Sometimes you have to take a chance to get the one you love. If you have a good relationship with the person and you are sure that he/she wont make a joke of you when you tell him/her how you feel, go for it! Its more mature to tell someone how you feel than holding back!
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Tell em. If they reget it get someone else who does love you.
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I`ll show my fellings the man I love. Love can`t insult
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me personally i would wait until i know for sure that my partner loves me too
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I think I would be more afraid of losing them. I'd have to tell them somehow.
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If you really know that you're falling in love with someone, tell them. It's better to find out now when you're "falling" than when you're already in it and risk your heart getting broken.
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I haven't fallen for any of the girls I've liked. But I've held my feelings more than telling them for fear of them saying "your a great friend, but I just don't see you that way."
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sadly that`s what iam doing i love this girl but am too scared to say so whats wrong with me?
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I have held back my own feelings many times in the past. It doesn't work. All it did was drive me into a fit of depression. I've long since learned to admit my feelings openly. I've never once received a negative response for this. An example is how I told a girl I knew that I was falling in love with her, despite the fact that she was involved in a relationship already. I didn't ask her to leave her relationship, I didn't ask her to love me back, but I felt she deserved to know that I had feelings for her. It didn't change things at all... we were still the best of friends and it was simply like a huge weight had been lifted from my shoulders. So even when you know the answer is going to be no, admitting your feelings heals the pain before it ever truly begins. Hiding it away will simply eat at you. So to answer the question: I used to, but I do not any longer.
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If you're a woman, go ahead and say it. If you're a guy, if you say it first, the relationship is pretty much over.
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I'm definitely falling for a certain guy and I'm pretty sure he feels the same. The problem is he has a girlfriend (that he always seems to be having problems with) at the moment so I am definitely holding my feelings back.
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If you have true deep feelings for this person, and you absolutely know it, then yes you should tell them. Share your feelings and you never know what will happen. I mean what would you lose by trying?... People only gain by taking risks in their lives. If by taking a risk to find true love then.. Well.. Id would roll the die and see what comes up :) Good luck hope it helped, at least a bit :P
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Never Ever Hold Back Your Feelings EVER!! It Hurt's Way To Bad In The Future To Kno That You Could Have Told Someone How You Felt About Them Trust Me I Didn't Tell My First True Love That I Love Him And After 3 And A Half Yrs It Still Hurts Just Like It Did At The First.... So Please Tell Them How You Feel.
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i wouldnt tell them. not for fear of rejection but if they are right for me then they will already know i have fallen for them without me saying it.
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ITS DIFFICULT....I USED TO SAY DAT U'VE GO OUT AND PROPOSE N BLAH BLAH BLAH BUT WHEN I CAME IN DAT ITUATIONS..IT WAS DIFFERENT...U REALLY WONT 'VE DA COURAGE TO TELL DEM...
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I'd definatley tell them, if u tell them and they love you back it will be perfect. If u hold back u'll never kno and they could go off, get in relationships and break ur heart without even realising it, at least if u tell them and they dont feel the same they'll be more sensitive about the situation. hope it helps x
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I would let them know becuase you never know weather that person likes you too.
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i held back mine and i have obsolutely no regrets in doing so because i knew too well that his heart is set to someone else. loving him in secret is whats keeping our friendship going on for years now, have i reveal what i felt about him, things would have been different and bad...but looking back if things would have been different bet. us say were both unattached and i don't happen to be one of his closest friends to know how deep his feeling towards his girl...maybe i would have the guts to tell him my feelings!!! ^_^ so maybe what i'm trying to say is that it is still case to case bases..:P
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I'm beyond falling, I think I've fallen...lol. I am guilty of harboring feelings for fear of the unknown. I know as a woman, one of our greatest fears is to be the aggressor instead of being the prey. I was always taught that a man knows who he is attracted to and he doesn't need help in acknowledging his feelings if he is attracted and indeed is falling in love. Life's experiences have helped me to realize that keeping certain emotions suppressed only makes you frustrated and ultimately angry and upset with the person. No one is a mind reader, and in hind sight it is always better to let the truth free than to hold it in and suffer. Who knows maybe one of these days I will get the courage to take my own advice. Good luck. :)
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Nothing ventured nothing gained. Speak up.
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I wouldn't tell the person right then because you don't know how the other person feels about you. Never rush into telling the person because you don't want to get rejected. Everyone gets rejected so, if the person doesn't feel the same way you do just stay as friends and always have someone else in mind!
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It depends on the person. If I knew the guy wouldn't judge me or I truthfully thought he wouldn't whether or not he liked me back, I would tell him. I'll never know if he likes me back unless I say something, or he says something. That's one good way to find out!
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I don't think it's right for a girl to say what she feels towards him..But it's just my opinion though..:)
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Love is a strong word. You have to be sure the feelings arent just a crush. Telling someone you love them can have a major effect on someone. However, if you truly believe the feelings are love and nothing less then I would say tell them!
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if the person was right, you would find it hard to hold back,been in relation ship for 1 year, and i know im not falling for this guy,SO I WONT BE TELLING HIM
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About 6 months ago i fell in love with someone i never thought would be interested in me, but i took a chance and asked him out for a drink and his body language was clear to me that he liked me too. we have been together ever since. i felt the fear of rejection but i thought ot myself if he isnt interested it would be his loss. Think positevly of yourself and be confident ur worth it.
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i held back my feelings until they said it to me
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I WOULD TELL THEM HOW I FEEL CAUSE TOMORROW IS NOT PROMISED
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i think is best you let them know,cos love ain't something planned or created,love need sunlight to glow and u keeping inside ain't a nice one,goodluck.
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tell them! if they reject you just remember it's better to have loved and lost then to have never have loved at all. jade london x
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i wouldn't tell them. what if they don't like you back.
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when i'm sure dat i have fallen in love wid someone. i'll definately tell dat someone. no one shud hold back. seriously. it's now or never.
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I am 64 yrs old and, I have foundin life,never hold back go for it.Tell your friend how you feel.Lay your cards on the table.If they do not feel the same,they may start to think about you in that light and,like the idea.In life you have to take chances,this is how you advance.You go nowhere and stay in the same spot.you are boering and, you will always stay back for fear of rejection.
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i would let them know for sure ,there is no meaning in loving and jst knowing it yourself , love is great share it with the lucky one.
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Sure would! And have.
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That depends. Some people have been hurt a lot in their lives and don't want the risk of being hurt again. Then again, sometimes it is better to tell someone how you feel instead of holding it back. Holding back can make you miss out on a good thing. If you have been hurt and you're not sure if that person feels the same way then you might want to find that out before saying that four letter word. GOOD LUCK!!!
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I'd hold back until the romantic moment is right and the romantic kiss has been placed based upon mood and setting where I can properly tell her that I am in love with her, otherwise I may feel too shy to let my feelings loose.
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You wait, noy to long, but only long enough to sustain the courage to tell them and to maybe some sort of the same affection towards yourself from her. You need to let them know, not immediately and not all at once just show them you care
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I would tell them, especially if you feel it, because not telling them and holding it in without the chance of ever saying it again is a horrible thing to live with. I stopped myself mid-sentence with my last girlfriend after she had said it many times and after I had told her I knew that I was truly falling in love with her. She knew that I was gun-shy because I wear my heart on my sleeve and had been screwed over pretty bad before so it was so hard to say, but 2 weeks later she went behind my back and started seeing someone else. It was a double whammy being cheated on's the worst pain I've ever felt and living with the what if, so now I know that if I feel it, say it.
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find out if theyll spit or swallow!!! then ask for commitment
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It's quite an overwhelming sensation when you know you're falling for someone. I can't say anything straight away until I am certain of how I feel and I have a better idea of how they might feel too. I usually hint at first to see if they feel the same way, then if they don't reciprocate, I can keep quiet and hope I can get over it. That's very hard to do, especially if you're seeing them on a regular basis. But if there's a chance it can grow, then there's no harm in biding your time. Better than rushing in and frightening them off! So I suppose my answer is: a bit of both.
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I never hold back my feelings, because we only live once and the opportunity may never come again. Life is short, if your in love with someone tell them. The worst that can happen is like you say rejection. But it's something you can overcome if your strong enough.
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I would never tell anyone I loved them unless you have been in long commitment/ know they love you / or share both a sexual and emotional relationship with them for at least a period of a couple months.
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tell them that your falling in love with them an you really just want to be friends so u can see where that leads you or tell them ur falling in love but you no ready for a relationship right now
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if i felt like i was falling in love someone i would tell them how i feel.
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If you are positive that what you feel is LOVE then you will never know what could be if you dont put yourself out there and jump! Take that chance and tell them what you feel! You cant be afraid in life you only get one chance, live it to the fullest and have no regrets learn from evey experience.
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well i would tell them becuse you never know if they like you too and if you dont you may wonder your entire life what they would have said
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I'd say you need to readjust your opinion of yourself or of them. "Way out of one's league" smacks of either low self esteem on your part, or an inflated ego on their's. There's an old saying: Love is blind. I'd say go for it and have a crack, tis better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all. You've got the rest of your life to get over it.
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I've been in this situation more than once and usually I tell the other person how I feel so that it doesn't eat me up inside for not doing anything about it. Sometimes I didn't and it doesn't really bother me, but those were the crushes that didn't matter that much.. I guess. If you think about it, even if they reject you, it's still good for them. For instance, some guys have told me that they liked me that I didn't like back. However, when I'm feeling really down, I can go back and say ..... "Well, these people liked me back then, so I can't be all that bad.." It would also be good for you because you tried. :)
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ok like totally tell them. NEVER fear rejection cuz they either like you or they dont. So just go for it. I did and i got a slap in the face but the next girl i asked she said absolutley. And we had a fun night. So if you want a girl or guy whateva go for it or else you'll be like that kid who never had a date. Remember dont be obese. Ps. Have you called Jenny yet?
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I would put your feelings out there because you never know what tomorrow will bring! Then you would regret it!
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If you believe that rejection is hard to live with, try to live with the fact that mabie that particular person felt the same about you.
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nup, no fear of rejection! if they don't like me, their loss!! ;)
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personally i would tell them because holding your emotions in causes stress stress causes pimples then when you finally get the courage to ask them out there like ahhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!! (no offence to people with pimples)
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i have noi love ...... yet
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well i think that if you feel like you love someone..or you are in love with some one that you are in a relationship with then theres nothing wrong with that...as long as you two have been in a relationship for more then six months..anything before that is to early and you may scare that person off.
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I do a little more than hold back, I actively try to destroy the relationship. Usually general avoidance works, but sometimes I need to resort to insults and spreading rumors (about myself) and generally being an undesirable person around her. Once I had to move. I don't know why I do this but I assume it has something to do with my (seemingly baseless) inferiority complex.
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If you are in love with someone, then the only way you will ever know if he/she loved you the same way would be to let the other person know how you really feel. On other hand, it would also determine what kind of position you are in. Is the other person with someone else, do you think the other person may feel the same way, do you really love this other person. You have to do what your heart is telling you to do. Hopefully it benifits both you and the other person. Also, be careful of mixed signals and mixed emotions.
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i was always, I mean ALWAYS the one to confess. nothing to lose with being direct? Actually it never happened I wasn't loved in return. I was lucky. Hate playing games, don't have time or nerves...
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The latter. I waited more than a year to let the person know and even then it was roundabout.
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I think you should tell them. Because, anything can happen tomorrow, you could get run over by a car. Life is too short, so like they say, tell the one u love, that you love them :) and if they reject you, be thankful that you had the chance to love them :)
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Tell them, take a risk....if you dont risk it, youl risk never knowing what could of been
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actualy Kate Moss got a restraining order:))
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I am trying to break out of my shell a bit - so while I still may hold it in, I working on it, I would probably drop lots of hints. But I fall in love every few minutes.... :)
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I am falling in love with someone. I told her that I had feelings for her, but I don't think if she knew what I truly meant by it. Maybe she thought that I was just infatuated by her, I'm not. I don't think that I could tell her that I was in love with her b/c then things would really get weird and I can't deal with that right now.
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I would most likely say nothing...+ RIP Blank
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It would depend on who it is and what the situation is. If the timing was right, probably yes. At least if I was rejected, then I would know....yes it would hurt, but I would know where I stood and would be able to move on instead of not knowing and spending too much time and energy on a false thought or feeling.
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Tell em
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I have been loving a girl from past 6 years, I havent said it so far. At first I thought I would wait for the 10th standard exams to get over, then 11th, then 12th...now I am thinking I would tell her when I get a good job. LOL
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I'd hold back my feelings for fear of them not being true.
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I would tell a little after I would feel out the situation if I would get rejection and still might tell them
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I would say you should tell them, because if you keep your mouth shut about it then who knows? you could be mising out on a great oportunity :) Its always good being straight up with someone with your feling for someone because most of the time there feeling what your feeling.. so they might be falling in love with you yoo :) hheh
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yes I would tell them your feelings and let them know that you are interested and if you do not most the time they do not even know you are interested in them.
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I would wait and see how the other person acts towards me but yea, eventually I would tell them it's only right.
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IT DEPENDS WHO IS THE PERSON YOU MAY BE FALLING FOR. SOMETIMES YOU MAY FIND YOUR SELF SPENDING ALOT OF TIME WITH SOME ONE WHO IS UNATTAINABLE E.G MARRIED.IT MAKES NO SENSE TO FALL FOR A MARRIED PERSON OR ANYONE WHO DOES EVEN ACKNOWLEDGE HIS OR HER FEELINGS FOR YOU CAUSE MOST LIKELY THEY ARE NOT INTERESTED.IN THE CASE OF MARRIED THEY ALWAYS SAY THEY WOULD LEAVE BUT THERE ARE STILL THERE FOR THE CHILDREN OR THEY HAVE PLENTY MONEY KNOWS THAT THEY SPOUSE WOULD DRAIN THEM IF THEY LEFT THEM.
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