Is the person you married still the person you married?
by 
Koz_Dracon - Nelson Remembered
ANSWERS: 18
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Yes, since we both have changed and evolved in the relationship. Neither of us are who we were years ago, and will not be who we are today years from now. If a marriage is merely a replication of the day before, it will not grow. Changes will come, and as a couple you need to adapt and grow stronger with them. But at the core, we are both the same committed and strong people who valued each other the same way we did in the beginning.
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Nope.
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Yes and no. She's still the same beautiful woman that I love, but she's a mother now. : )
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nope she is now my ex wife for nearly 11 years
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No, she is my ex-wife. She no longer works as a model. She has had trouble with substance abuse and mental illness since our divorce.
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Yeah and his brain is still 18 - go figure !
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I'm still married to the same person, but have both grown and changed, continue to do so, and that's been good for our relationship. So, I guess depending on the intent of your question, I'd say yes and/or no.
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Probably. I married a flaming butthole, and he's still (to my knowledge) a flaming butthole. Of course, he could have had a miraculous epiphany on the road to Damascus in the last 2 months, but I doubt it. Thank all that is holy that I divorced him.
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He's the same physical person, but morphed from a guy who liked going out and going places, to a hermit, who only leaves the house to go to work or other for other truly necessary reasons.
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We've both gotten older and wiser, we've grown together in many ways, even though I thought we were so much together when we married 34 years ago. But it just keeps getting better. He is still the funny happy guy I met him though I do know more of his serious, responsible side through the years. But it doesn't take much to find the little boy in his heart. I"d say he was very much the same man I married, only more so:-)
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We have both evolved and are very different in our reactions and attitudes towards each other. Our love has changed too, less fragile, deeper, more understanding, more compassion... We have no arguments at all. Our differences still exist, but they no longer seem important. We give each other much more space than when we were younger--although giving space was never a serious problem, it is even less so today. I have become much less critical of her family. Or, at least, I have learned that silence and a smile are better than a a growl and a sneer. I think that this is my major improvement. A little hypocrisy, you might say. It oils our relationship. She is happy for me to go to museums, I no longer feel that she "ought" to accompany me, "for her own good." I could go on and on.
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Well, sorta... She's the SECOND one I married, and she's lost about 60 pounds or so since then. Oh, and she's a grandma (making me a step-grandpa), now, too. ;-)
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NO I have been single over 18 yrs and just recently got involved again and it is still hard after being single all that time, I was burned really badly by my ex and it is hard for the trust to be resumed in a person after the trust is sliced up so badly in a marriage, he cheated on me and I went back to him several times and could not take it any more, I divorced him in order to keep my sanity and sometimes I do wonder if I ever refound it LOL
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No, he's not the same. He's better, kinder, wiser, more compassionate, more understanding, more open-minded. He continues to grow and evolve, and I love this about him.
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Yes they are, married 17 years now
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Yes he is, just an improved version of him.
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yes
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unfortunately, yes.
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