• This is the best way I've ever read by Kalil Gibran's "The Prophet" : On Children Kahlil Gibran Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself. They come through you but not from you, And though they are with you yet they belong not to you. You may give them your love but not your thoughts, For they have their own thoughts. You may house their bodies but not their souls, For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams. You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you. For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday. You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth. The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far. Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness; For even as He loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable.
    • Linda Joy
      Very nice! I like that!
  • 7-6-2017 Most people don't know any answer to that. They make up something that sounds emphatic and that is how they raise their kids.
  • Simple...LOVE them and care for them. Help them to know and love the Lord God and Jesus Christ.
  • I would see what actually interests them first then start to get them involved more into those subjects. Would even participate with them to help along the way. However not be a tough drill army officer if they decide to back out or they can't succeed. Need to give them space to find their way around then it all clicks in. My Parents never cared what became of me, however when I played ball had this one kid whose father just tormented the hell out of him and took away the fun and put on way to much pressure, not good and sad because if he made 1 mistake it was like the end of the world. Too much negative stroking going on and it brought him down big time.
    • Linda Joy
      Sometimes the line between encouraging and demanding gets difficult to see. Many times I thought I was being encouraging when others thought I was impatient and demanding. But I agree some parents can be downright abusive about such things. The only thing my mother asked of me was to finish High School. And I think if she hadn't I might not have. But I'm also certain that if she had encouraged more of me I would have achieved more.
  • A good education mostly!
  • Give him or her money and advice. Money make wonder. Money open doors to many opportunity and challenges. With money, one can start a business. You know there is always good or bad child, just like good and bad man. So things become successfully in this world depend greatly on oneself or the child, we must never give up hope on the good or children just because of the bad.
  • Teach him to identify his feelings, and how to deal with them, and express them. Teach him conflict resolution. Teach him to express himself in a productive way. Encourage them to explore, and test their own limits, but also to know danger. Encourage them to place happiness in themselves rather than in objects. Teach them in a way that a lesson is associated with real life everyday things, this was something I felt cheated by when I was a child, for hours I sat in math lessons thinking the teacher was talking Japanese, only to discover in adulthood that math was just measurements, and percentages. Terrible Judge also has a very good point, a child should learn about money and the banking system.
  • NEVER accept a job, and stop looking for better ones. Once you stop, you are stuck, and asking about higher positions at your current job is bad by most companies.

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