Do you think it's bad manners and/or inconsiderate to visit friends without asking first if it's okay to?
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ANSWERS: 31
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The same goes for freinds
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I don't think it's bad manners but it may be inconsiderate. Some people hate pop-ins. I would try to find out before hand if the person has strong feelings about the matter either way. I am not a big pop-in person in general, but I don't mind the occasional surprise visit.
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it depends, i usually talk to the person before hand and we work it out together if it suits us both. i don't think its rude to visit unannounced every now and then but not too often, it can be a nice surprise. however you should never just pop in on someone on the other side of town, it could be annoying for both of you if you've travelled all the way there just to see them and they are busy and feel obliged to entertain you.
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Glad you asked Sweetcakes. I personally don't mind people dropping by unannounced on occasion. If however they seem to have a pattern of it, it can get annoying after awhile. I usually just drop a subtile hint to them at that point that it would be nice of them to call next time. Just to be sure I have no other plans that day. It's funny when you have no real life like me people automatically assume it's ok to drop by anytime unannounced. Sometimes I do actually have plans though. Like going shopping for food or going to church or something else really boring lol.
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I hate it when people just stop in. A phone call isnt that hard to make to someone you would like to visit. That person may be busy with housework, their house may be in need of work, they may just want to be alone or they may be alone with someone else.
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For the ones who do that constantly yes I do , for friends who stop by because there in the area , I don't mind + 5 and good question
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As a general principle, yes. If it happens on a one off occasion just because you happen to find yourself somewhere unexpectedly then its OK, but people who make a habit of this tend to find my door locked. We all have busy lives and don't need the burden of unplanned entertaining to add to the stress.
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Yes, it's inconsiderate if you don't call. Of course, it depends on the person/family. I have a friend who has an open door policy but most folks would appreciate a call.
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I've always found it a bit inconsiderate. I prefer to call first and see what they're doing before going over.
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Generally yes, it should not be made a habit of. If there was something you were going to ask/give them and you were out that way ANYWAY (which you can explain) it is okay to stop by as long as you aren't pressuring them to let you in or go out and do anything with you. Often though, it is much more polite if you can call ahead.
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It`s depence what kind friends they are, if very close ones- they are welcome any time, if not- I prefer them to ask first.
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With very good friends its normaly ok,but you have to know how your friend ticks first and the lifestyle they lead,it is not always appropriate to simply drop in
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Yes on both counts. I may not be home and they wasted their time coming. OR I just may not want visitors.
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Yes , I've had it happen and my place was like a bomb had hit it. I was so embarrassed.
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Really depends on who it is. I myself wouldnt mind, but it (little tiny bit) also depends on who the person is.. (might not be in the mood for some particular persons)but even then i still wouldnt mind. But i also know people who think it is incredibly rude. goes either way..
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I would slightly rather people call and do the same so maybe I think it's a little rude
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yes
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No, my door is always open.
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I think it depends on the nature of your friendship with that person. When it comes to my very very closest friends, I don't think twice about dropping by unannounced, and vice versa....but that's just how we are with each other, and have been for years. Hell, we have no boundaries with each other. It's kind of ridiculous, actually. Case in point: yesterday I was in the shower and my friend Jenna comes bouncing into my bathroom, scaring me half to death, and told me she was going to borrow a pair of shoes...Yeah, I was pissed...not because she came by my house unannounced, pulled out the hide-a-key, and let herself in, but because she NEVER returns my stuff!:) On the other hand, I have some folks I consider friends that I would never visit without calling first. The friendships I have with my very best friends is rare: and we all know it. We interact with each other like we never would with other friends that aren't US.
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Yes, if I visit a friend's house, with the goal of being entertained, then I would be showing bad manners and inconsideration for my friend's schedule.
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really it depends on the friend and the type of friendship you have with them. With some friends i can drop round or they can drop round here and it's not a prob. But other friends yes i like to call them first to let them know i am coming.
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Well if my friends just droppped by my house all the time without calling I think I would start to get a little annoyed, so I always call before I stop by their houses. I always just think, how I would feel if it was me and I was planning on having a lazy day at home and people just kept showing up to visit.
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It depends on how close you are with the friends, and if they are living with other people. For example, all my friends are at the moment single, so I would just stop on by, and they wouldn't mind. But it can be annoying if they have a significant other who also has to deal with you.
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Thats weird. my moms friend just came round unexpectadly but my mom seems fine. she was on around the house anyway (:
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Depends on the kind of friend you are. Some friends are the drop in kind, some are the kind that you can drop in on. I have both kinds, and they are both dear to me.
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It really depends on the person most of the time if a friend drops around unexpected I'm delighted! It would only be a very odd time that I'd wish they'd have called first! But I have friends who I would always ask if its okay to drop around before I do, but thats just how I was brought up!
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Depends on how good of friend you are. Some of my friends can just walk in and be hereeven if I am not, but others I prefer to call before coming.
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It's more considerate to call first.
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both
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all depends on who the friend is, and what type of relationship ya'll have!
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Inconsiderate. What if I am in my undies?
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