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  • The first stage of attraction is physical, so when the girl sees you she'll be either attracted or not. The first thing you say to her has a very big impact. If she considers you attractive then a pick up line may work if it's original but not all the time. If you tell her something that creates intrigue, like a subtle compliment in her ear ensuring you are close enough for her to smell your cologne then disappearing into the crowd, it may leave her floating and curious. Then just make yourself visible to her from across the room catching eachothers eyes with a small smile (don't wink or lick your lips). If you've been successful she'll approach you to find out more. I think girls are attracted to originality and pick up lines like "I've lost my phone number can I have yours?" show you are unintelligent and lacking in originality. On the other hand if at first glance the girl is physically unattracted to you you will have to work very hard to turn her around and a lame pick up line will give you about as much chance as a snowball in hell. In saying all this every girl is different and it is impossible to know what will work for them so all you can do is try. But chances are a rehearsed pickup line from an e-mail your single mate sent you from his bedroom at his parents house, won't work. This was written by a male so please be kind with your comments ;)
  • Not all women want to be "picked-up" all or any of the time. Particularly, many women aren't impressed by guys that come over with a line that we realize just means they want to get into our pants. Call me an old-fashioned romantic at 22, but I rather have a guy approach me who seems sincerely interested in who I am - not just how fast I can put out. Pick-up lines don't generally say that. Instead, a guy who wanted to get to know me would have to introduce himself politely and non-interrogatingly ask me a bit about myself. Just start a regular conversation and see where it goes. And of course, if you are obnoxious and/or rough on the eyes (another way of saying "ugly", no offense) the best pick-up line in the world just might not be enough for some women. To be clear, I don't personally think that people who aren't great looking (or even "ugly") can't or shouldn't be able to find other people who are attracted to them. Like I said, "some women" might not date them no matter what they say as a pick-up line. This is not a personal critique of who should or should not get a date, but rather saying that the reality is that some women (I would hope very few) do not want to date someone who they do not think is attractive.
  • Some people like pick-up lines, some dont. Be yourself. Edit: It is important not to generalise. The majority of people tend not to appreciate pick-up lines for all sorts of reasons that have been listed here, but some people do find pick-up lines fun. Be yourself, but take heed that pick-up lines should not be taken seriously. Pick-up lines tend to: - be crude. - lack emotion. - lack originality. But not all people dislike them, and it is important to remember that. Saying that all women hate pick-up lines is exactly the same as saying all women can not read maps, that all women can not run businesses or lead countries... need I go on? A better worded question would be: "Do you dislike pick-up lines and why?" When a bunch of girls said to me recently "Nice shoes, wanna shag?" can that be called a pickup line? I do not find it particually moving or attractive. If I knew the people using the pickup line well before they used it, perhaps it would be entertaining. As they were complete strangers, it was wierd, in the bad sense, and I walked on by quite quickly... though I did like the compliment to my shoes!! :) The point: Girls use pick-up lines too. *** One last note (thanks fot the comments): Just because you have yet to meet someone who likes pick-up lines does not mean they do not exist. Edit 2: "Why do *girls get turned off* when guys use pick-up lines?" People get "turned-on" or "turned-off" for all kinds of reasons. I suggest you visit alt-sex.org and broaden your mind.
  • pick up lines!!!! most girls want the real you and if that is the reall you to use a pick up line then go for i wish you all the luck in the world... most chicks want your creativity not someone elses!
  • For me, the pick-up line is just too generic. A bad pick-up line is a direct reflection of the person who is using it. A generic, over used line shows me the guy lacks imagination. Plus, it makes the guy look like a dog! Who wants to go out with someone who has a limited imagination, not enough self confidence to be himself and who's into picking up women? Then there's the fact some pick-up lines can be insulting to the woman's intelligence. This just makes the user look stupid and unimaginative. EDIT: Just to clarify "picking up women": I mean someone who is promiscuous. Aside from the health risks involved, there is also the issue of sincerity (how does a girl know a guy is genuinely interested in her as a person and not looking at her as a potential 'score').
  • A pick up line feels fake and cheap. I can't think of many guys who'd like feeling that way either btw.
  • Because it's insulting and demeaning. But women: consider that a lot of guys just don't know any better. They think that the way "it's done." You may be missing out on a nice guy by rejecting him off-hand because of his lame pickup line.
  • Most importantly, (cheesy) pick-up lines tell a woman you don't think she is even slightly intelligent at all. Plus, it makes her feel like a piece of meat; in the worst, most obvious kind of way. Women also have a certain subconscious appreciation for the "thrill of the hunt" just as men do. If a man walks up to a woman and drops a pick-up line on her, she knows for absolute sure he is interested in her, is attracted to her, etc. If a man converses with a woman and does not act attracted to her or into her in any way.......that's what gets her thinking more about him, ultimately attracting her to that man.
  • They don't. The question should really read "*Do* girls get turned off when guys use pick-up lines?" The answer to this is "Only if the guy isn't good looking". A survey recently published in the UK that across ages 20-70 showed that the primary trigger for a woman was 'Looks'. Not one generation of women had 'Sense of Humour' as the primary trigger. In contrast, three generations of men put 'Sense of Humour' as the primary trigger. Face it - if a girl's not even physically interested in you, no chat-up line in the world is going to work. Similarly, a guy looking like Brad Pitt could literally fart in a girls face and she'd still want to talk to him. In conclusion, men use chat-up lines because they know (or think) that they're not going to get a girls attention on looks alone. For some guys, it takes an awful amount of confidence to approach a girl - especially if he's gotten used to being rejected. For most it's a one-time shot at getting a girls attention. It's shameful in this day and age that it's still a majority that men have to do the 'legwork' when you consider that we're supposed to be in an equal society. There are still a LOT of girls that expect the man to approach them and would never entertain the idea of approaching a man for fear of rejection. Well guess what? Why do you think the 'chat-up' line was conceived? For those girls who think a chat-up line is cheesy and a turn-off, try approaching a guy you fancy (when you know you're no oil painting) and get his attention. You have about 5 seconds to show him you're an attractive person, regardless of what's on the exterior. Maybe then you can appreciate *why* men use chat-up lines, instead of judging them for using one. Oh and I'm in a very happy relationship (in case you wondered!).
  • Because they are dumb and stupid and just because you are saying dumb and stupid things in a 'pick up' situation doesnt magically turn them into interesting, funn anecdotes. If you walked up to a girl and start talking about the intriciticies of re-wiring plugs or how you organise your tax return records what do you think would happen? Or how about if you said somehting that was too inane & purile for even an eight year old to find funny? If you approach and start speaking to a random girl, especially if she is hot, it's obvious that you are doing it because you are attracted to her and are looking for a date/casual sex (depending on the situation of course) and she will 90% have decided whether shes interested before you open your mouth. If she's not physically attracted to you, your only hope is to make her 'emotionally attracted' to you so she'll want to spend time with you because she enjoys your company and walking up to her and saying "are your legs tired because youve been running thru my mind all night" isnt gonna help do that. Another big reason is that it doesnt really give her a way into the conversation because you've essentially walked up to her and made a statement which doesnt really require a reply. If she does want to continue speaking to you (because your good looking) then she'll probably laugh off the crap youve just spewed out and strike up a normal conversation (so you might as well start with that) or she'll just dismiss you or not say much at all (she might not be outgoing enough to steer the conversation away from this akward moment). Basically, if your ugly the only chance you've got is with girls you already know because no amount of chat is going to get her over your looks. If youre handsome then your better off talking to women like human beings as it'll get you where you want to go quicker.
  • Well for the same reason that some people like chocolate and some like vanilla. we are all different! i can honestly say that if someone is tasteful with thier pick-up line and has good timing then they are welcome to get inside my pants. lets face it, if we want to meet people then conversation must begin at sometime, so if its a pick up line, a nod and some inviting eye contact, a dating service or a just a casual meeting that somehow leeds to dating then go for it, atleast your out there meeting people. of course we are all horny but how many people have met the mate of there dreams and found out how wrong we were after. Times change and so do people so live for today and hope for the future, there are no promises in love!
  • I dont think its offensive really because sometimes a guy might actually mean it. We dont give the guys as much credit as they deserve. Yet, pick up lines do get annoying, especially when its obvious that the guy is being arrogant and cocky. Most girls want their knight in shinning armour to sweep them off their feet and pick up lines are just to weak and lame for that. Most of the time, girls can see right through a guy thats using the pick up line for one thing. Thats when they become offensive and degrading almost. Its all in the way he says it and his actions afterwards. Just be smart!
  • Of course girls are complex characters in life, but boys have to respect them enough to make sure their face is not slapped. Girls get turned off by pick-up lines because you have to be yourself and not say some cheesy pick-up line to attract one.
  • Sometimes they do, sometimes they don't. I've picked up plenty of girls using chat up lines as lame as 'how you doin', with a cheeky smile. Really, I'm of the opinion that it's all about confidence. If you chat away, dropping funnies where you can and being a little cheeky, (but not over the top), you'll be sharing a cab home in no time. Sometimes you can even just smile at a girl, then look towards another and the original comes over and does the hard work for you. Territoriality? Possibly, after all X and Y are not that different. James
  • It's like this: Over time, girls have gotten used to be approached by guys..trying all the possible ways to impress them, to get to know them for some or to just get laid. So, its pretty obvious that when a good looking girl is approached over and over again, by unassuming guys..they tend to dislike it. As I read before, this being an "equal" society its a sorry state that guys are one who have to take this burden of initiative all the time. If you are a good looking guy, your pick up lines or your dumb gestures will impress a girl and for the avg. guys its juts a matter of luck. Girls, need to realize the fact the atleast someone had the guts to come and approach them, hence it needs to appreciated ... and there is no reason to think "oh.. I am so above his range or he is soo cheap n ugly" or similar stuff. For girls: Had this approaching thing been bi-directional, Imagine yourself..looking for some company and approaching a guy to get some attention and getting scorny look right away! ;)
  • I'm a guy, and I don't use pick up lines. They come off as egotistical and impersonal. I don't even want a girl that would fall for that garbage.
  • The reason why women don't like men using pick-up lines is because men are using something either they have used on a woman previously, or something they heard off a movie. Or something they heard from another male. Women like men that are creative and that can do something to make their self different from the normal.
  • Thats not always true. some girls think its cute when a guy uses one. Yes, most girls think there stupid,but not all of them get turned off. So guys do have about a 6% chance of getting a date.
  • I'm a guy and they hate it because you're trying to get her to like you, not being your true self. That's my opinion.
  • we dont like pick up lines? they are freakin hilarious!!! Although i will say that i have never taken them seriously.
  • I get turned off by them because they are annoying. Well, unless a guy can really pull them off . . . then they might be funny.
  • Besides the obvious answer that pick up lines are cheesy, I think pick up lines rarely work. They always make guys seem like they are trying too hard or not being themselves. I just don't buy it usually. Here is what some girls and guys from GirlsAskGuys had to say on the topic: * Pick up lines are lame. what you need to do when you start talking to girls is to ask questions. don't ask a question where the only answer is a yes or a no or the convo with be over before you know it. * Don't use pick up lines. Treat a lady as any other person (: * If you do say some dumb pickup line out of nerves then laugh at yourself and say something like "Oh man I can't believe I said that. That makes me sound like such a jerk" This will let her know that you are just nervous and that you know how bad you sounded. Pick up lines are never a good idea. * Just ask her normal questions as if you were talking to someone you want to be friends with. Hope some of this insight is helpful for you.
  • Because it means the guy is saying the same thing to every chick he meets hoping to make a hit at one point. No originality. Usually really cheese lines.
  • ... because I like spontaneity and pick-up lines are contrived.
  • It's demeaning.
  • because most of the ones they use are rediculous. why cant they just speak to us like equals.
  • I didn't know girls got turned on when guys used pick-up lines! In fact I think they are cheesy and make me embarrassed to be a guy sometimes with the junk these dudes drop on women and think it's cool. Any woman that would fall for that over a guy just honestly introducing himself and making real conversation deserves what she gets which is usually a shallow, egotistical, loser with no social skills and overcompensation problems.
  • its not the pick up line what makes women reject you its the way you sey it, and the most important is that whatever you are using it should be unique, somthing that makes you special. whenever i see a nice lady look at them i look to every part of their body then i find somthing strange or unique on then imidiatly start asking questions about her dont be phisical tho,somtimes this work for me the lol if i was a bit longer guy it would always work haha (being tall guy is so important thing for girls :( ). the most imoirtant thing is before you start talking make sure u r confident otherwise it'll not work (only if you look like brad pit it'll work lol) again guys be unique dont use some line that been used before with 100 guys be special and sorry for my bad english
  • Because 20 guys before you used the same line.
  • When guys use lines that are OBVOIUS pick up lines, it can be a turn off. The guy I'm dating (now), came over and introduced himself and said that he wanted to meet me, and was GENUINE about it. It's when they feel the need to try so hard that can be a waste of time; we're more simple then men like to think....
  • Because its tacky. I don't know. It's fake.
  • Pick up lines are comedy! it just depends on your attitude towards them...no matter what the dude looks like. you gotta give the guy credit for trying, at least. one dude told me once..."damn girl..you got a nice personality from head to toe!" seriously..who WOULDN'T laugh at that!? the guy wasn't too good looking...but he was HELLA FUNNY and chill. i wasn't necessarily turned off, but he was fun entertainment for about 15 min. ha ha! so i think it just depends...
  • because its generic and we'd like to see you for YOU. not a cheesy, fake pick-up line.
  • Most of them are someone else's idea
  • Because they are lines!
  • Because it's too direct and often lude in nature. I do find them funny though. "That's a great shirt, it would look really nice crumpled up on my floor." That's funny to me.
  • Has one ever worked? Actually, they're funnier after you get to know the person.
  • Girls or women do not get turned on by pick-up lines. Only guys think this.
  • I don't get turned-off by pick up lines.
  • It shows a lack of creativity, and humor, for that matter. It's like reading knock-knock jokes from a book, anybody can do that. There are times when it can be funny if the girl already likes the guy. But if the guy just goes up to a stranger and starts spitting out cheesy lines, chances are, it won't go over too well.
  • Because we hear the same ones over and over. If a guy is just honest and real that is attractive.
  • personally i think it's cute. :) i guess i'm just weird though.
  • EVERYBODY LISTEN. i have used cheesy pickup lines on alot of females. one such as, do your feet hurt? cause you've been running through my mind all day long. I can personally tell you, i've had more laughs than anything,and i had a great time doing it. but the point is, not to use pick-up lines to ACTUALLY PICK UP WOMEN. after you've made them laugh, i say something like, " no, but i had to see you smile." and continue from there. but i dont suggest it. I've found the best way in the world is to be fully confident inside and give off charming vibes. most of them stare just from that. the rest is simple like eye contact, or "hey,you been working out for a long time?" lol
  • We're offended because they are corny and recycled. We like to think we're special to you, and using a line on us is NOT the way to go. Get some originality!! Most of us have too much self respect than to fall for those lines anyway. I personally find them boring, trite and frankly insulting. Whatever happened to just being yourself, being friendly/sweet to the girl?? There's a line for ya, just BE NICE!!!
  • Because they are unoriginal and boring. Girls do not want you to be boring. Instead of using a pick-up line, use a situational opening. Something that will captivate the girls attention and imagination. I like to use the opinion opener. I go up to a group of girls to ask them for their opinions on something, usually about the outfit I am wearing. This is good because it is a harmless opening, it does not raise a girls defenses. You then go from there with the conversation. Easy as pie.
  • Because it's not something you pin pointed for us exactly. What comes through my mind every time i hear a pick up line is "Wow thanks, your just wanting to get in my pants, just like all the other women you've used that line on"
  • Lack of original thought.
  • They do?
  • I was a girl once a long time ago. Girls are fickle and have no idea what they really want yet. Women are put off by pretense. And mature women have already heard and seen it all before. Of course this largely depends on the environment. Are you in a bar, a library, a store, church or other, and if so, where?
  • probably cause they dont like them

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