People can fix their own problems in a matter of seconds. Its only themselves that limits THEM to having a very few choices to fix these problems.

Pain is the price of becoming a true human being.

"It's gonnna be ok, things will get better."- works like a charm

Happiness is a choice. I've found that often it helps someone realize they still have some control, as opposed to making them feel guilty or worthless. They don't have to let others have control over their own emotions.

"Something’s not right isn't it?" Then keep quiet. This statement is difficult to answer. Their first thought might be to say "No" This instantly doesn't seem right because they feel it might mean one of two things to you No!Something isn’t right. Or No! Everything is all right.( Mind confusion!) On the other hand by saying 'Yes' they are admitting something is wrong yet they might feel awkward telling you. This confusing 'mind- set' goes through their mind in a micro-second. 'Yes? ' OR 'No?' (Further Mind Confusion.)What ever they answer, or if they don't answer,by keeping quiet and letting the silence built up they usually fully 'Open up' and spill it all out. The secret then is to listen FULLY without interrupting at all.

"ive got a pretty good ear and shoulder if you ever need to talk about anything." I find that this gives them an invitation to vent without prying into their personal business. They may not be ready to talk at this very moment. but when they are, they know that you are willing to be there.

It wasn't your fault.

Emotional pain is in vain if people never take something from it. Be it due to the end of a romantic relationship, loss of someone close, or whatever. The point is that dealing with these kind of events is a part of life. Trying to "relieve" or "take away" someone's pain is an emotionally reactionary response of your own. Especially don't attempt to relate or say "I know how you feel" or something like that if you have not been in a similar situation or the last time you were in a similar situation you yourself never came to terms with whatever had happened. People need to learn how to accept and get a hold of such situations within themselves. I suppose you could go the extra mile and simply be around and listen to the person. Rehashing and talking about the issue over and over is a step towards them getting over it as they get to think about it outside their own mind. This is how therapists work much of the time, they just sit there and listen, maybe interjecting once in awhile. The person talking pretty much gets over it all by themselves by listening to their own words and seeing the point. Just being around them more and listening. That's the best thing you could do I suppose.

"I understand and I'm here for you". It validates what they are feeling as reasonable/understandable. It doesn't try to convince them that suffering is for a greater purpose at a time when they likely aren't ready to be philosophical about the whole mess. Which tends to make people even more upset.

"Don't worry, we're all gonna die in the end anyway."

"pain is mandatory, suffering is optional."

One foot in front of the other, day by day

i am here for you.

Sometimes no words at all. All it takes sometimes is a hug, otherwise a simple I'm here would suffice.

You can talk to me. I really am listening.

i find hugs are better than words most of the time...

I'm here for you, would you like to talk about it. This way they know they have someone to lean on and that someone is willing to listen to them.

I know this is a very difficult time for you right now but things will get better. There will be a time in the future when you will look back on this and think "I never thought I could handle that" and then realise that you did "Handle It" Don't give up hope.

Just brush your shoulders off and keep on living life.

words arent always the answer. just hug them and cry with them.

I'm not fond of platitudes, but if I had to pick one, I'd say, "You are going to get through this. It's going to hurt like hell, and you might think, 'I'll never get over this,' but after a period of time, you'll think about it less and less." Of course, I'd only say this if the person was calm and I thought he/she was ready to hear that. If they were emotionally falling apart, I'd just give them my condolences and offer a listening ear.

This shall pass too.

This too shall pass.

Life sux, sometimes.

"this thing happened to me too" and if you want i can tell you what the one who suffers will ask and what you should answer then