is he working those hours to avoid being home? or because he has to? money does not buy happiness or save marriages...is it just the wife that is neglected? or is the whole family neglected? maybe the family would rather have more of his time and less money...

No, I wouldn't divorce him. The pros look to outweigh the cons, in my book.

I think he should find a wife who loves him and knows how to appreciate a good thing. She, on the other hand, sounds like a spoiled brat.

no. those are horrible grounds for a divorce.

I think she should. That makes him available for other women looking for a decent man.

she shounds like a bitch to me. maybe she should realize how great she has it and that he is putting in long hours to provide for his family. maybe she should find some female friends to have some fun with, one with kids would be nice so the kids could make new friends too. or maybe she should just do this guy a favor and leave so he can find a woman worthy of him.

I would join him in the business so I could spend more time with him and take some of the worry off his shoulders.

Why would you want to divorce this man who is a "Good Father, Good Provider, Kind and Loyal?" It sounds to me like he is doing all he can for his wife and family. I'm sure he probably would much rather be home more often but he knows the bills have to be paid. Consider yourself very fortunate to have a man who Loves you and your family enough to do this for you. * Also as another person suggested, possibly you could work with him in the business for a few hours a day so you would have more time with him and be helping him at the same time. Think about it. I'm sure you can find someone to watch your children while you are gone for a few hours helping your husband.

If she is not happy then she should leave

I am going through all of the above (except the father thing, cus I have no kids). No, I wouldn't. I love him and he is working hard for US. I respect him.

How do you think he feels? working long hours so YOU can live a comfortable life.

Years ago my wife started working for a big company and basically became their slave, 24/7. Missed dinners, working vacations, promises broken constantly and no time to talk about anything because she had no brain power or energy left for the home life became the norm. If we watched TV together she would be asleep within 5 minutes. So I understand how it can be. But you can get through this with good communication and working together. (My wife left the job when she saw what it was doing to her.)

I hate that men very rarely get to win in this situation, if they don't work, they're deadbeats, if they do work, they're neglecting their family, they just can't win. Sorry it's not a real answer, but it's for women anyway, this is just my two Bob's worth.

you just described exactly my husband. And no, I wouldnt divorce him for that reason. I understand why he must work long hours and we make due the best we can.

No. He sounds like he's working hard to provide for his family. You should tell him that you appreciate his labors, but you miss him and want to spend more quality time with him.

Get over yourself. I think you are a spoiled brat. Life is tough and he is doing the best he can. He is a good father, good provider, kind and loyal and you feel neglected? Maybe you should appreciate this guy and pay him lots of attention when he is home. But knowing your type - you probably bitch and complain when he is home and tell him how tough your life is. I have a sister-in-law just like you. You need a reality check.

Yes, I probably would and do not support divorcing.. but then I do not support infidelity either so.. the choice would be divorce. Seems the man puts more faith into money and not his family. We all have to work.. we all have to sacrifice .. but when you leave your woman lonely and fullfill other duties but the one that should come first.. ah.. I would have to be lonely without him than lonely with him.

tell him that it is hurting you and if he loves you he will understand, but you must understand also that he loves what he do and he has to take care of home. do u work if not do volunteer work at church or find yourself something to do.

No, if you feel he's as good a husband as you say he is, then you will be able to find time to spend with him. It seems like more of a question of whether you actually love him or not.

Kind of Loyal???? DIVORCE !

In this economy you better feel lucky. Do you feel that your feeling are more important than the hard that a divorce would do to the children? All Children Deserve Two Parents Georgia Supreme Court Chief Justice Leah Ward Sears has noted, children born to unmarried women and to those in cohabiting relationships “must often overcome increased risks of poverty, education failure, child abuse, delinquency, emotional distress and mental illness.”…….the lack of a father’s guidance in children’s lives is a major cause of their suffering. “Marriage is the best child welfare, crime prevention, anti-poverty program we have,” http://www.barnesville.com/archives/266-gem-from-jim-octuplets.....html Fortune Magazine - Fatherless Families & Crime “Ominously, the most reliable predictor of crime is neither poverty nor race but growing up fatherless.” http://money.cnn.com/magazines/fortune/fortune_archive/1992/08/10/76732/index.htm Stanford University - Divorce, Nontraditional Families, and Its Consequences For Children "We know that children of divorced parents have more emotional and behavioral problems and do less well in school than children who live with both their Parent." http://www.stanford.edu/~rmahony/Divorce.html THE FATHERLESS GENERATION http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yZmMffsIl9M

Nah, I could always get a guy on the side.

I'd stick by him like "fly to fly paper", "a stamp to a letter"! NO . . . .WAY. . . . .would I leave or divorce that guy!

Only the selfish ones would

If that is the worst of your problems consider yourself lucky! Does he own the business he's running? If yes, maybe see if you can help out there, then you'll be able to spend some more time with him.

Nobody likes to be around people who are ungrateful and unappreciative of them. It's clear to me why you are being neglected.

Why would you want to divorce someone with such wonderful qualities; because he's working his a$$ off trying to provide for his family?! Think about that. Does divorcing him sound sensible? Why don't you and the rest of the family find a way to help him run his business so you can be together more. Or do you need someone that will give you their undivided attention?! You can find another man without the good qualities this one has, that could give you all of his attention; but to do that he probably won't be abled to keep a job.

Don't think you have 'grounds' yo...

This guy is busting his ass to bring me money? I would worship at his feet.

No, but you could always schedule some time together for yourselves. Hes not the only one thats at fault, if you feel neglected, talk to him about it.. don't just leave the guy. Plan his next day off to spend time together, go to the movies or to the beach. You could even have him take time off from work and go somewhere for a few days.

You married to have a partner in life. Are you feeling neglected because your demands are too high? Is your spouse truly not participating in marriage? If you feel neglected, you should discuss these needs with your spouse and/or marriage counselor.

He could scale back his work. Which would scale back the income. If you truly want a smaller house, less money for vacations, college funds, clothing and school...well talk to him about it. Or, hey, how about YOU go bring home the bacon? . Otherwise, buy a vibrator and hire someone to mow the lawn so you can get some time with him on his days off. Work with him or not. But if you divorce him you will almost certainly end up either unmarried or married to a lesser man. . Just know that such a divorce would demonstrate that are supremely selfish and should never have had children because you weren't prepared to put their needs ahead of your own.