Would you go against your parents for your girl/boyfriend?
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jennifer225
ANSWERS: 45
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I can honestly that NOW, NO, But when i was young of course..I think its in every teens genes to do that. Everyone is gonna do it but is it the right thing to do. Probably not, usaully the older ones know whats best.. God that sounded so retarded... :)
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My parents like my boyfriend more than they do me!! I know it sounds crazy but they do! If I went against my parents I would be going against him too!
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I have...for an ex when he was my boyfriend.
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Yes and I have. I met my boyfriend after I had left my exhusband but before the divorce was final. My family refused to accept him and disowned me for getting involved while technically still married. I have not seen them in years and BF and I are going strong.
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well no parent should understand the nature of a relationship regardless of what it is? a person should never choose? a parents love is diffeent from a partners love
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I don't like to tell them, that way there isn't any conflict, but when things get real they eventually meet them and my parents let me know if he passes the test, usually he does, so its not a big deal or anything, my parents respect who i love and let me make that choice, but if i love him and they cant come in the house,we have to find somewhere else to go,which i dont mind.
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No - You'll find in the long run,they were right
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Well yes. My mum treatens to brutally murder any man who lays eyes on me, let alone date. Either I go against her, or become a nun, and I know which I prefer
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Probably. Depends on HIS character and if he's worth defying my mom. If my dad told me not to, I'd probably give him the middle finger, tell him to turn it sideways and stick it where it fits. But...anyway, if I was in love with the guy and knew that he was good for me, it wouldn't matter much what anyone said in regards to our relationship.
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No. I just try to keep my love life out of their way, so they don't disaprove, but I'm sure if they knew they would.
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When I feel that what my Mum is saying isn't just. For example, my brother was staying over for a week and my boyfriend stays over everynight and we alternative where we stay, and my Mum insisted that my boyfriend stayed at home, as there aren't enough beds, and I told her no way. She will never stop me from seeing him - even if in the end she "was right all along".
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Exodus 20:12 Respect your Father andyour Mother, so that you may live a long time in the land that I am giving you. Self explanatory.
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Yes. You don't choose your parents, but you do choose your partner. Of course you should listen to your parents, but ultimately you must choose, not them.
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I wish I had shown more respect to my parents in a circumstance relating to this when I was younger.. Now that I am older I know that a good man would never put me in a position to have to choose.
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Parents let worry get in the way of rational thinking. Most the time anyway. I would imagine that this question was aimd at the young? And the young have a special ability to be able to make mistakes and learn from them:P I think parents can be wrong about alot of things. It's not that i don't love them, or respect them, it's that not everyone's right 100% of the time.
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In teenager years, yes. But when you think about it long & hard, no. your parents are probably right. and if he really love you, he wouldn't make it hard on you.
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No, I would not do that personally. A girlfriend or boyfriend are mostly (not always though, just mostly when you are young) temporary relationships, but the relationship with your parents is there, whether or not you like it. Parents are a value that you should keep close.
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Yes i would only if i realy loved them!
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yes I already have my parents ended up liknig them in the long run.
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I would if I KNEW that they were in the wrong. I would also make sure that my boyfriend feels the same way about me that I do about him. Otherwise, going against my parents could be a waste. Your parents are supposed to be there to support you and help you make GOOD choices. However, they're human and not always right.
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Well, uh, I'm doing that right now. I have a boyfriend and I'm not allowed to date. Go figure.
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I do :) :D its more fun. Sneaking around and such, *sigh* what a thrill :D
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i felt quilty because my parents said to stop but i went on then they asked again to stop because it was scaring them, so i broke it off but i still love him with all my heart....and today i talked to him a little and he said that he can't stop thinking about me and that he loves me, it's killing me to tell him no. i don't know what i should do anymore.....
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YESSS...im 16 and i have a 19 year old boyfriend...my parents let me date him since i was 14...so they pretty much let me be with him fall in love with him and him and i have gotten soooo close....but now they're pretty much stopping ALL of it because of what people think of them for letting us be together....they havent let me SEE or TALK to him for about 4 months but him and i still see eachother as much as we can without them knowing and...i even have a secret phone that i talk to him on that nobody knows about...haha tihngs are still the same and they've even tried to put a restraining order against him to make sure we didnt try to see eachother.... but nomatter what they've done so far me and him are still together....and we will be for a WHILE... our plans are to move in together when i turn 18 =]
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Dont need to anymore! but yes I would have done if I had thought that my parents werent reacting rationaly,we have to decide for ourselves and make our own mistakes sometime, but my parents would have still stood by me should it have been a mistake.
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I did when I was a teen and even some as an adult. I married someone my family didn't even approve of me dating, but after a few months of him being there constantly, they learned they had to either accept it or lose me. Finally, they chose to accept it.
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Yes, I've already done plenty of that. It was the best decision I've ever made, I think.
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Never had to. My mom didn't like all my bf's, but unless he was dangerous she wouldn't force me to do one thing or the other... But I'm old enough to realize that my mom was right most of the time about well.... everything. If I would have just listened and took all of her advice my life would have had a lot less up and downs! But then, where's the fun in that? =o)
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Definitely depends on the situation. But either way, I would never go against my mother, we have a very close relationship and if there was something she didn't like about him, I think it would be for a good reason. My dad however is a different story, we've never really seen eye to eye. So there's a good chance I would there.
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No, i love my parents, but i will guide my gf/bf why not.
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Not likely. My parents are the most important people in my life, and my mom especially is like my bestfriend. However, with that said, they would support any relationship I have as long as it makes me happy.
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I would not only do it, I have been doing it for 3 years and counting. I plan on eloping with him without the concent of my parents
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never-if we can not love with parent than we are only animal=i don't trust those persons who don't respect their parent.5
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I did. Best decision I ever made. Granted, I had sucky parents. I guess it depends on the lot you're cast in life.
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Only is she had money and a house.
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im not close with them now never was and i bearly see them so it wouldnt bother me at all i dont live my life for them i live it for me and if they have a problem with it then they should keep iit to themself b/c i havent talked to them since i was 18 and want to keep it that way
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yes i would because if they can't accept him for who he is then too bad cause i'm still gonna be with him.But i dont think that's gonna happen.my mom's very accepting and if i'm happy, then she doesn't mind.
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I wouldn't HAVE to. My mother raised me to be self-sufficient and independent. She would respect what I do because she trusts me to do what is right in my eyes.
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i did. cuz they were to strict. i couldnt go to her house ever even if her parents were home, couldnt be in the same car alone even if we are just coming home from school. luckily they relized and changed
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Not with my parents and my girlfriend. But my parents are awesome and I don't think that their restrictions are ever really at odds with what I want to do with my girlfriend. In most cases, I can definitely see why people would go against their parents.
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if they have a good reason why they didn't approve i would listen, for example they wasn't pleased when i got with my boyfriend coz he was black and nobody in my family had been out with one before (dont get it wrong they are not racist just very old fashioned)but 4 years down the line they love him as they did the first night they met him.
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I have, my father is a racist/ He's coming around now and realizing my husband is a pretty descent.
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Yes, and I have done so.
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Sure i will , if we both love & care for each other then there is nothing bad in showing faith in the love :)
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no, its not worth it
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