• I think the truth might lay somewhere in between. When you overuse sarcasm you might come off as arrogant, a smart-aleck or showing a lack of seriousness and respect. Some people might read the sarcasm and relate, others might not have a high tolerance for it.
  • I'm all for being yourself and I'm certainly no stranger to sarcasm but I don't think it needs to come at the cost of offending people. I'm guilty of that myself at times but it's not something that makes me proud. I've actually toned it down over the years because I found that a lot of sarcasm comes from anger and that's really not how I want to conduct myself in life.
  • I find sarcasm/irony quite humorous. HOWEVER, I married a guy who was raised to think that it was rude and "smarty pants". Hey, we laughed a lot in my house as a kid and his family didn't seem to laugh that much. Anyway, I have had to tone it WAAAY down. Some people are just really hurt by it and don't get. Notice my avatar? Anyway, if you want to stay with this guy and you don't change a little, it will cause some friction.
  • You know how you are so it is up to you to make the right choices when speaking to people. You should also be given the opportunity to experience what you have been doing to people. I think nothing about you or who you are and if you where standing in front of me I doubt I would know you exist. I wall away from negativity it is a force I will not allow access to me. You might also think about how you have been treating your guy. He may wise up and walk away from you also. Look into yourself and find out why you would find pleasure in someone else's pain. To the point are you happy?
  • Sarcasm is boring, impolite, and immature. Unless you are with people who know you real well, it can be taken very offensively...with good reason. How is someone supposed to know "how to take you"? Why is it up to someone else to know how to "take" you when maybe you might consider "how you come across". If you really don't care how you come across, I doubt you would be asking this question....forgive me if I am wrong, but I think that we should practice being as diplomatic, kind and gentle with people and as we get to know someone more and more, then we can let our hair down and totally be ourselves. There is nothing wrong with holding one's sarcasm for the people that know you the best, and even then, for me, I get irritated with sarcasm in large doses. It seems to be a cowardly way of making one's point, and then being able to say...:"Oh, I was just kidding"..kinda phoney in my opinion. Peace to you. I often wonder what people get out of being super sarcastic.
  • I think that it is sad that you don't care if you hurt people with your sarcasm. It is possible to say things and not offend or ridicule people. You can't just fall back on the old "That's just the way I am" because you can change or just be more aware of other people's feelings. If you truly learn to care about others, place their interests above yours, then you can avoid hurting people. If you don't care about offending and hurting people, then don't change.
  • There's a time and place for a well-timed sarcastic remark. Most people don't know either one. Practice being ultra-professional sometimes, even when it's not necessary. That might help you learn to balance your desire for word-play or realize when a sarcastic remark wouldn't be taken as humorous. Widen your reperatoir of speech modes, that's what I had to do.
  • There actually is a point where you need to draw the line. If your comments are hurtful and destructive, that's going too far. I can be a very sarcastic person as well, so I know how frustrating this can be for you. My father has been trying to get me to see for so long that there is a point where I need to draw the line. I finally understand what he's talking about. It's taken awhile for me to get it. It might take awhile for you to get it, too. Just listen to yourself talk and pay attention to the words you say to others. Pay attention to their reactions as well. If they are getting hurt by your comments and there is no good reason for them to be hurt, you NEED to stop.
  • Sometimes I am sarcastic but usually about events and things rather than people. It's kind of a defence mechanism at times. But I try to keep away from gratuitous sarcasm.
  • Totally agree. I'm the same way and get the same thing quite often. My response is, well, that's your problem not mine
  • I don't think you should expect everyone you talk to to know how to take you, particularly if they're someone you've just met. Try to temper the sarcasm a little, not everyone responds well to it, just like you might not respond to extremely happy, perky people (for example).
  • If people think you are being mean, you are. Just because you think you are being witty and sarcastic does not make it true. No offense, but it sounds more like you are going toward the brutally-honest/b*tchy line. What's the point in being disliked and making people unhappy? Try being nice; it will make you feel better about yourself.
  • yup, i think you are a cunt
  • Sounds like you need to tone it down a bit. Why do you feel the need to be sarcastic? Is that a bit of a defence mechanism?
  • Sarcasm is a form of condescension It can be confusing too: something funny and possibly hurtful. It is indirectly expressing a view, where some folks can take it back by saying "only kidding" which is way to deflect the effect, putting it on the others reaction. I would never conclude "if they get offended that's too bad" , that is if i care about who I am talking with. I would at least consider this consequence of sarcasm.
  • Your answer says it all Rude people without manners mouth off and don't care how they sound or who they hurt. You expect the world to make exceptions and understand you and make do with what ever you spew forth. It's a really egotistical stance to take, on top of being sarcastically rude.
  • love sarcasm. it's like punching people in the face, but with words.

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