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My neighbor beat his son with a curtain rod for spilling milk on the floor, even though the poor kid apologized to him immediately and agreed to clean the mess. Was it right of my neighbor to do that?

By crazytamil Asked Aug 6 2007 10:51PM
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by judgebill on Aug 6, 2007 at 10:56 pm Permalink

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Of course not. And, if you were a therapist and the son were your patient, you would be required to report the incident to the authorities. That's called child abuse.
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Avatar tomsims Nov, 04 2008 at 07:25 PM
Or other mandated reporters such as ministers, teachers, doctors, child care workers, social workers, an, in California, a host of others.
Avatar JakobA lo_0l Apr, 26 2009 at 01:21 AM
In most any jurisdiction not reporting it would be risking a charge of either criminal negligence or accessory status if the mistreatment continue and result in injury or death.
Avatar tomsims Apr, 27 2009 at 08:33 PM
Judge Bill, you are a very interesting guy with broad areas of interest and experience. You are an asset here.

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by KevinW42 on Aug 6, 2007 at 10:55 pm Permalink

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Well as the old saying goes, "Don't cry over spilled milk."

If your neighbor made a single visible mark on his son from that, it's legally child abuse.
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Avatar yoshikawa Sep, 21 2009 at 10:42 AM
what state is that?
Avatar KitKatBar Oct, 09 2009 at 03:21 PM
Alaska. I could be wrong, but that's what a cop told me once.
Avatar yoshikawa Nov, 21 2009 at 06:22 PM
someone could beat a kid purple all over but its still not child abuse? wow. lets hope you are wrong

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by Eponymous on Aug 6, 2007 at 10:53 pm Permalink

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Obviously not. You should report them to child protective services in your state/county, immediately. The parent obviously has serious issues and if he committed a violent act like that, he could be very capable of murder in the future.
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by Soccer_Fever on Aug 6, 2007 at 10:54 pm Permalink

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Dude, thats child abuse man. report it to the police and let them take care of everything else
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by jtolb65 on Aug 8, 2007 at 1:28 pm Permalink

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Hell no. Mistakes are exactly that...mistakes. Now if he was looking at his dad, with his middle finger extended towards him while he was PURPOSELY spilling the milk on the floor, I could understand a more direct reaction. Call CPS. Don't let this kid go through life being beaten because his father has low self-esteem.
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Avatar shanzzy Jan, 10 2008 at 04:20 PM
That is quite true mistakes are made, by (all) parents included.
If this was a one time deal and not repeatedly maybe the parent feels bad enough? Don't get me wrong I am against any form of abuse physically,sexually,emotionally or even mantally. Yet I've lived that life in foster care some ok mostly bad. See the news about child protective agencies and the sh** the children go through is far worse at times. So then what do you do ? then what if you make that mistake call and the child goes through far more abuse imaginable? It is tough choices we all need to weigh out the consequences and or the aftermath?
Avatar jtolb65 Jan, 10 2008 at 09:32 PM
That is an incredibly good point. As someone who has never experienced a life like yours, my "magic elixir" is to call CPS...and then everything is great. How mistaken and short-sighted I was. Forgive me.
Avatar Skruff Feb, 21 2009 at 08:26 AM
Shanzzy is 100% correct, calling "the state" is not a long-term solution. Foster care is hell with a capital H.
Although most folks do not wish to become involved in the affairs of others (other than anonymously calling the police) Maybe the best course is to attempt to befriend the family, and educate the dad. maybe he can be talked into beating his son with a pillow instead of a curtin rod.
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by Arisztid in a COAT of Rromani awareness on Aug 6, 2007 at 10:56 pm Permalink

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No.

You should report the father to CPS immediately. I do not know the laws but you might be legally culpable if it is found out that you know and do not report.
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by dane dane the airoplane on Aug 6, 2007 at 10:53 pm Permalink

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No not at all. Accidents happen.
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Avatar dane dane the airoplane Aug, 15 2007 at 02:17 PM
Yes spilling the milk was an accident. Thanks for clearing that up for me.
Avatar juplm21 Apr, 08 2008 at 01:12 PM
All he did was spill milk.
Avatar Anonymous Sep, 21 2008 at 10:38 PM
No pun intended,but I was never spared the Rod!

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by AB AUNT Stillme FBB on Aug 12, 2007 at 7:51 pm Permalink

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Use your phone! If you know for sure this happened the way you just told it. Call child protective services. Don't wait!!! This child is being abused.
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Avatar Anonymous Sep, 21 2008 at 10:39 PM
Child protective services Suck!
Avatar Grammy Robin Oct, 18 2008 at 07:24 AM
@Anonymous....It is better than leaving the child where he is.
Avatar AB AUNT Stillme FBB Oct, 18 2008 at 07:31 AM
So true. Poor little children!

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by Jeffers on Aug 6, 2007 at 11:02 pm Permalink

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on the surface, I'd say it's abusive behavior... it probably would be a good thing to report.
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by Anonymous on Oct 16, 2008 at 4:54 pm Permalink

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SERIOUSLY CALL CPS. Everybody knows this is abuse. However, if you know about it and do nothing about it, you are just as guilty as the abuser.
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