ANSWERS: 10
  • Yes, you did the right thing. It's horrible living with an alcoholic, especially one you love. But you can't reason with them -- the drive of the addiction is stronger than any logic. If you really care for him and if he gets into a help program of some kind...AND...if he sticks with it for 3 months or more, you could consider getting back together with him. But you did the right thing. It's easier to live apart from someone than to have to see them destroy themselves (and your heart) little by little every day. I wish you good luck and comfort.
  • Well it's hard to judge from what you've told us. Did you kick him out specifically because he's an alcoholic? Have you discussed this with him before? Does he know it bothers you? Did you give him any forewarning? If you answered no to some of these questions, then that may be an indication that you did the WRONG thing. It's not fair to kick someone out without warning and understanding. So could you fill me in just a bit more?
  • You did the right thing. He needs more help than you can give him, professional help. Maybe follow up with his family to see if he is getting help. You might also need help, you have lived with this kind of torment for 5 years.Thats a long time.
  • you've done the right thing.you need to put yourself first,because in his condition,he won't.maybe this will be his wake up call.make him realise what he is missing out on because he is constantly drunk.
  • If he has caused you emotional pain, you did the right thing. Has he tried to quit drinking? If he loves you, he should at least try to quit.
  • You have probably saved yourself years of grief. Great Job. Congratulations!
  • You did the right thing. Th thing about Alcoholics is that they will always put the alcohol before you. You have saved yourself even more grief. Maybe should should try to get him invovled in AA meetings.
  • Depends. How long has he been an alcoholic? Has he tried to get sober? I am a recovered drug addict and my girlfriend told me (because I got clean when we met) that if I was ever to fall back into drugs, if I wasn't willing to help myself she wouldn't want to be with me. If he has been an alcoholic for a while and has continus said I'm gonna sober up, but doesn't seem to try. Then kicking him out could help him realize that he's not only hurting himself, but others.
  • You did the right thing for both of you. First, you're taking care of yourself. Second, it might serve as a "wake up call" to your ex. Maybe he'll seek help for his alcoholism. Whether he gets help or not, you've got to take care of yourself first and foremost.
  • Being a recovering alcoholic myself i can say without reservation you have done the right thing.Staying with you only gives him excuse to keep drinking.Understand that it is his problem,not yours.He will keep drinking until he either dies or all avenues of support have run out and finally realizes he is not only hurting himself but those around him.There is absolutely nothing you can do until he opens his own eyes.

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