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by Anonymous on December 11th, 2006

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I think my girlfriend is cheating on me. Shes been hanging out with a guy who she says is just a friend, i live in another state. She goes to the mall/movies with him and doesnt call back till late, this just started going on. i cant comfront her about it

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  • by Hellaphunt's Skynet on December 11th, 2006

    Hellaphunt's Skynet

    Hmm... these are always difficult.

    You need to let her know that there is something about this relationship between her and this guy that bothers you. You can't contain yourself to avoid upsetting her.

    If you two are in a serious relationship you will always have to make compromises (especially in situations like this). If her actions are causing problems for you then let her know that you are not happy with what has been going on. She is being increasingly negligent towards you and it can’t be fair.

    It is one thing to have a male hang-out buddy and another to have a male hang-out buddy that takes away from the limited communication time you two have. Long distance relationships need more maintenance.

    If she gives you crap about this and seems hopelessly unwilling to cooperate then… give up and go.

    I hope you find some solace soon cause these things twist a man's heart.

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  • by Sodahead on October 2nd, 2007

    Sodahead

    1111

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  • by muffman on December 4th, 2007

    muffman

    She is testing you! Woman love to do this kinda of thing. KEEP YOUR POWER!! The minute you lose the power or think she's cheating... end it...break all contact and date other girls immediately. Do not call her email her and get yourself some really hot friends that are female. If she calls say..calling for more threapy? no can do i have to hit the gym for my date on friday. If she wants you ....she'll come to you and you will have all the power and it will boost her interest level cause you'll be a challenge to her...peace

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  • by leugim on November 29th, 2007

    leugim

    Dump her homie, in a nutshell, she's "weighing her options"....she's trying to start something with this "friend" cat but she's holding onto you (I'm sorry, her sucker) in case things don't workout with him. I'm guessing she's a young chick between 18 and 24, young chicks are like that. They talk about men being users but meanwhile they (not all, but a lot of them) treat us like a shirt that they're holding onto at Mandees while they keep looking around for something better. If you're young, and you already got sex, then move on to the next one, you'll find that special someone someday. You'll know because she'll be completely into you and she won't need no stupid guy "friends" which I think is all bs. Move on homie, don't waste your time, life is too short. This isn't good advice, its REAL advice, handle your business like a man, peace and good luck.

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  • by Anonymous on January 27th, 2008

    Anonymous

    i got the same problem here.
    she's like always hanging out with males
    and she thinks that it's normal.
    and feels that i'm too controlling when ever i'm upset with her going out with other guys.
    Damn.
    why are girls like that.
    can't you just stick with your bf!?
    i mean like.
    i avoid hanging out with girls too.

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  • by Chelsea Girl on May 23rd, 2008

    Chelsea Girl

    Long distance relationships are usually always difficult in this manner. Do you have a guy friend there that could check up on her for you?

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  • by lilmama32603 on October 2nd, 2007

    lilmama32603

    First thing u need to do is ask her no need in pointing the finger if u dont know for sure she may just be doing that hangin out us woamn we dont cheat for the same reasons men do asking is the first step if you dont trust her why be with her?

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  • by UneFille on January 27th, 2008

    UneFille

    She is not respecting the relationship. Maybe you should find a nice girl who doesn't go out with other men while she is supposed to be dating you. I don't care what anyone says...if a girl goes out with a man alone at night its a date...period.

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  • by Anonymous on April 9th, 2007

    Anonymous

    I am am in the same situation, except we only live 1/2 mike from each other. we have been together 2 years and no other guy friends around. suddenly she starts hanging out with two other guys(to the movies, eating dinner, to his house)I tell her i dont like it but she still does it. now she is planning to go to six flags with one of them.(after I told her I would take her)But she says they are just friends and i'm being controlling. I dont like either of the guys and she knows this. I know how you feel

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  • by warriorsoul on December 11th, 2006

    warriorsoul

    Odds are she is cheating or about to.

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  • by Sphoto72 on April 1st, 2012

    Sphoto72

    Without a doubt she is either fucking the guy or about to. Male friends fall into only two categories, guys she used to fuck and guys she will eventually fuck. Just let her know its ok since your not there. A girls got needs.

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  • by Anonymous on December 11th, 2006

    Anonymous

    To add to my question. I did comfront her about it but she always asks why can't i trust her? Or if i want this to work then to trust her. I don't know what to tell her anymore, i love her alot but it's different now, ive been with her for four years. I don't know what else to ask her or to say to her. She says she loves me and she still talks about moving in with me in six months, but yet i know for a fact that this guy likes her and she ignores the fact that i don't like it when she hangs out with him because she says that hes just a friend.

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  • by nchntdmyth on December 12th, 2006

    nchntdmyth

    first of all why are you living in another state and why is she not there with you and how often do you two get together second has she ever cheated on you before or ever given you any reason to distrust her just because she is hanging out with this guy doesn't mean there's anything decietful or distrustful going on or until you have absolute prove that anything beyond a friendship is happening give her the benefit of the doubt unless of course you guys hardley see each other in person then you might need to worry

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  • by thedogfacedsoldier on February 26th, 2007

    thedogfacedsoldier

    I was in the same situation. My GF had a friend that "had" a huge crush on her and he was just a good friend that was there for her when she needed someone to talk to. This was before I met her. When we started to get real serious and talk about marraige I found out that he was more than a friend and that she didn't actually "hook up" with him while we were dating, but they did "hook up." I found this out when I "accidently" read her IM archive logs on her computer that she gave me. I also found out that they talked like they were more than friends while we were dating, and in some cased while I was in the room sitting next to her. :-( This broke my heart and I confronted her and she tells me that she erased him from her life. Sadly I am still with her, but I do not trust her 100 percent of the time. I hate it and hope it goes away, because I really love her. I can't help but think that I am one of those people that you see on Cheaters and can't help it cause my heart wants her. So I hope my story helps out a little bit...

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  • by Anonymous on December 12th, 2006

    Anonymous

    we do see eachother, every month or couple of months, we're long distance relationship, so that's why we don't see eachother everyday

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  • by sam.nickel1 on June 4th, 2011

    sam.nickel1

    oh jeez, i had a similar situation about a year back, i ended up buying a gps tracker and finding out why she was out so late, i think u can assume why. i got my gps tracker from http://www.missionpossiblespy.com

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