My neighboors wife died the other day. I never knew her, but I knew him a little. Do you think it would be strange if I baked him a cake or took him over a meal? What is a nice way of letting him know I care?
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Not at all. It would probably be greatly appreciated. Gestures of that nature, when something like that happens, are usually the best things you can do for someone while they are greiving.
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I think that would be very sweet and appropriate. A nice sympathy card would be fine too.
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It would not be strange at all. I garauntee he would absolutely LOVE knowing you care, however the expression. Personally, I would be very grateful for a cake or meal and a little of your time to talk. Just make sure you have the time to listen, this is most likely a very difficult time in his life, he'll want company. Men don't like to say they need companionship, but in tragedy, we need it just like anyone.
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It would not be strange at all. In fact, it would be outstanding! Take him some food for sure.... We need more people in the world who are willing to take care of one another. You have the luxury as a neighbor to choose the way you wish to show you care. Since you are the neighbor, the best way you can show it is to wait until the other well wishers are done, and then visit him occasionally.
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LET ME REPLY YOU IN YOUR OWN WORDS POETICALLY: I think it wouldn't be strange neither If you baked him a cake nor Took him over A meal! Both of them is a nice way of letting him know you are-in a good deal- Care! BLESS, PROF. MES
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I think that would be very appropriate. Indeed, in some cultures, it is the expected behaviour. Even if the survivor can cook for themselves, it is recognised that they may be in shock and not able or wanting to do so at the moment. And, of course, delivering it gives a moment to offer condolences and offer whatever other help you might feel able to give.
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frankly i think you should butt out. he lost his wife. you have no idea what emotional stress he is going through. you would be better to offer to do house cleaning and help him with his laundry and perhaps cook a meal in his own home. it would be better to send your husband over to see what is happening. he could volunteer your housekeeping services.
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Not at all. I think thats a good idea. Maybe, depending on how he feels, you can invite him over for dinner. But the safest thing (and one of the nicest) would be to bake him a cake/pie/meal/something.
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I'd recommend a somewhat basic staple meal rather than cake. Dessert would be too celebratory and might seem odd. I know that if I lost my wife I would not be eating so your gesture may be more significant than you think. As others have said, a sympathy card would be great as well.
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I think he'd appreciate it if you took him a meal, and at the same time let him know that you're just across the way should he need anything else. I wouldn't push him too much in case he thought I was being nosy.
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I would make him a casserole type meal. Perhaps a few small ones instead of one big one so he can freeze unused portions. Go to yard sales and buy some small cheap dishes so he needn't worry about returning them. Lasagna is good for that. A cake is seen as a celebratory offering... I would not do the cake.
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I think it would be sweet of you. I think anyone that has a death in the family really appreciates any support they can get from anyone.
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I think that would be completely appropriate and show that you care.
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Until relatively recently I avoided people who were grieving. I was frightened of saying the wrong thing or wondered if I knew them well enough. Then I had a family loss, and people I hardly knew came out of nowhere and were so kind. I cannot begin to describe what a comfort it was. This experience taught me to be less timid and I now know that people love it when you step up and express your sympathy. So do whatever you think. I am certain it will be appreciated.
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I think it would be perfectly acceptable, and as someone who was recently berieved can tell you it would be quite touching.
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It would be a blessing to take your neighbor some food. When my stepson died, my husband and I had no appetite and no desire to eat, relax, communicate outside the house. The kindness of neighbors and friends and family is what helped us make it to the healing process. If you have time or the inclination, you can offer to help your neighbor by watching his home during the business that has to be conducted after a death. (home invasions and scams happen more frequently when there is a death notice in the newspapers). Offer to mow the lawn, walk the dog, or just be a sympathetic ear. :-)
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