My best mormon friend, with whom I had a fling before his mission, is now getting married and asking me for one last "night of passion" before he does. But aren´t mormons NOT supossed to do OR ask this?
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kristinzzz
ANSWERS: 8
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No, they're not supposed to do it. Well, not if they take their religion seriously. If I were you I'd tell his fiancee before she marries him and makes those vows.
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Uh... yeah. They're not. He's coloring outside the lines.
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The question isn't about Mormonism so much as whether ANYBODY of good character would presume to have a final fling before marrying someone else. He sounds like a scumbag and I feel sorry for his future spouse. If he's starting off by lying, that's not a good sign.
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I don't really think anyone should ask or do this. As far as his faith is concerned, from what I know, it would not be consistent with what he professes. As far as his finance is concerned, it sounds like a life threatening choice. As far as you are concerned - "the nerve of him to ask such a thing of you!"
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No they are not supposed to do that but are pretty much like everyone else. Imperfect humans. I knew a girl who was Mormon who used to like to get drunk and have really wild sex because as she said "I'm not supposed to do this and it would kill my dad!" Somehow knowing she was doing something she wasn't supposed to do excited her. I also occasionally work with a Mormon guy who drinks like a fish and smokes but he admits he is not a good mormon and is kind of the black sheep of the family.
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I don't care what religion he is, this is wrong! He's engaged to his girlfriend and he's going to marry her? Sounds like he's not through sowing his oats! I don't think he's ready for marriage!
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Depending on what you mean by “had a fling,” it’s likely that he shouldn’t even have served a full-time mission, in the first place! Extramarital sex is generally an automatic disqualification. Hopefully I’m just reading too much into that…? Regarding “one last ‘night of passion,’” yes, you and everybody else that has answered so far are all correct: that is *totally* unacceptable, both from a religious standpoint and in terms of common decency. That’s just sad for him, and even more so for his fiancée.
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If this is the case then according to church policy your friend should be excommunicated from the church or at the least disfellowshiped. By being excommunicated one is, as the scriptures refer to it, 'cast out' and no longer part of the membership of the Church. That being said, if one has to be 'disciplined' in order to repent then the Church itself is full of 'curruption' as many have committed such 'crimes' wihtout confession to Priesthood Leaders. I know of a number of situations where this has been the case.
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