FOR WOMEN ONLY TO REPLY: Would you rather have a boyfriend or husband who was a good provider & loyal & a nice guy, but who didn't listen well, or take care of your emotional needs, or someone more ordinary & w/ less money who was very good in that area?
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justinoldguy
ANSWERS: 21
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Ordinary with less money. Without a doubt! (And trust me, I REALLY mean it. The ex I'm divorcing inherited a mint this Spring. I don't want it or him. AWAY AWAY AWAY!)
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My first husband was the first choice (or so I thought) and I was miserable. We didn't have a lot of money, but he worked a steady job and provided for me and our daughter. That only lasted about 9 years. Met my present husband, believe it or not on the internet, in Oct. of 2001, and we got married in March of 2002. I wish I had met him first. He is so sensitive to all my needs and is a good provider as well. But I do not believe my first marriage was a mistake because then I wouldn't have the joy that is my beautiful 13 year old daughter. Since I met my husband, it has restored my faith that there are nice guys who care about the woman they love and are also a good provider. I knew they exsisted because my dad and brothers are that way, but I thought he was they were the last of the good guys. I thank God everyday that He has gifted other men out there with the ability to truly love their spouse/g.friend and do what it takes to support and make them happy. I will definitly teach my son to be one of those men.
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I would have to go with option b, emotional needs are very important to keep a relationship going in my opinion. If my boyfriend doesnt seem to be paying attention, I let him know how important something means to me, and he'l usualy start to listen.
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Easily, easily, I'd take the poor man with the kind heart. A "good provider" is not a good provider if all he provides is things. Country singer Jeanne Pruett said it best: I'd rather be a poor man's woman And be all he has in life Than to be just one more possession As a lonely rich man's wife
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I'd have to agree with everyone who has answered so far: the latter. I can earn my own money and provide myself with all the material goods in the world, but it would be good to have an emotional companion.
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option b, as long as he was loyal, that is really important to me!
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Men who do not listen well and/or take care of a women's emotional needs are about as usefull as tits on a bull. This is the number 1 complaint I have with my hubby. He just REFUSES to understand that I need more than just a roof over my head and a nice smile to look at. It drives me crazy.
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if the only probelms the 1dt guy had was he didnt listen well then..use his $$$$$ take him to therapy and get his issues solves as a couple. with the 2nd guy he seems perfect so nothing there to complain he only has less money he aint uneployed or broke ass.....so as a couple we can manage fine : ) doesnt matter about much. what matters is how you feel about the person and how they feel about you. i wont shackle up forever with someone who dont treat me right.
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I prefer the one with less money but hardworking and knows what a girl really wants. I don't wanna be with the rich guy but left me alone with depression. (- -,)
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I have the nice guy now. If he died, I would take the rich dude the second time.
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Good provider and loyal and nice guy like my husband. He may not be the most emotionally supportive (although he tries), but that is what I have girlfriends for! LOL Happily married for over 14 years, Rosie
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My hushand is the good provider & loyal & a nice guy
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EMOTIONAL NEEDS. If you can't connect, then you're falling in love with their money and whatnot. Loyalty is good and being nice helps, but without an emotional connection, there really is no love.
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i have had one bf who was a very sweet and nice and giving and caring but was never for for ME. Give me the guy who doesnt make alot of money but has his shit together and was in tune to who i was and what i needed as i am in tune to who they are and what they needed as well. People need to stop looking for what they WANT and start looking for what they NEED. They are two completly diffrent things.
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This is the very problem I struggled with in deciding whether to stay in my last relationship. He was the former but wasn't always a nice guy. A lot of conceit and arrogance and condescension came with his provider persona. But between the two...I would say neither. I'd rather provide for myself and have guy friends than choose one of these. I have had both. Thanks for the great question.
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Having had both in my life, I can say from experience that the first option has proven to be the best, for the past 33 years.
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Less money and LOTS of attention (also loyal and nice, though). I can make the money and he can treat me like a Princess. :D
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I want the man who will hold my hand wehn im lost, hold my head when i cry and hold my heart by any means necessary. loyal is a must, nice guy is a matter of opinion, and money doesnt mean a damn thing. on a different note, the men on AB keep chewing my butt for asking questions that insinuate that a man may cheat or be disrespectful. How come nobody is complaining about the dozens of questions that insinuate that all women are golddiggers.
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Option B, the more ordinary guy who could relate to me and actually cared
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I'll rather pick the first. Cuz I suspect the second guy as soon as he has more money he'll become the first guy.
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It only mathers if he, is good to you. Money cany bay love
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