Be yourself.

Dress well. Be overly polite. Listen to what others are saying, and don't monopolize the conversation. Have exceptionally good table manners. Avoid slang - be very clear in your communications. If you start to feel nervous, take a few deep breaths. You can do this while you are pausing to listen more than you are speaking. :o) If you can afford it, and they are definitely paying for the meal, offer to leave the tip.

Just be yourself. I come from a HUGE family, and guys are often intimidated to come and visit. But I think huge families are easier....they are more accepting and you kind of just blend into the rest of the chaos. Oh....and always compliment whoever made dinner!

Be on your best behaviour. Stay humorous. Stay calm and easy on the alcohol yo...

"id rather you hate me for who i am, than love me for someone im not".... as snorting said, be yourself.

try to put things into perspective, theyre almost as nervous as you, just be yourself

Be yourself but be polite, respectful and follow her lead:-)

Oh man. I've been there. Dress casual but neat. Smile a lot. Don't even try to remember anyone's name except Mom, Dad, siblings and Grandparents. Just be polite to everyone. Be yourself, if you are anything else it will show. It is best to say only what is necessary unless you see they enjoy a subject you know about. If they disagree with a comment just nod and smile and move on. Don't tell any jokes, you'll probably screw them up and you don't know everyone so you might offend someone by accident. So, laugh at their jokes when you see someone else laugh and don't make any of your own. Relax take a deep breath and realize they are people too. Hope that helps.

Have a few things about yourself that you can work into the conversation ready, so it doesn't end up as an interogation. Dress nicely, and try and have a good sense of humor about it. When you inatially meet them, it might not hurt to say, "Good to meet you, I'm a little overwhelmed by all this, but excited to get to know _____'s family."

Just relax and try to enjoy yourself. Remember that you were invite because she likes you. They love her and they should like you too. :) Remember to use as good manors as you know, but you don't have to be overly formal. If you say something that makes you feel like you just stuck your foot in your mouth, or do something clumsy, try not to focus on it too much. Remember that everyone makes mistakes and the night might not go perfect, but as long as you are genuine and friendly, the dinner should be fine.

Chances are you won't be the center of attention, not for more than a minute or two. In a big family, most people have their own interests and concerns, and they'll be talking to one another, playing with the kids, etc. Get involved in one of their discussions, something you know about, like the current stock market collapse. Listen to them, but don't add your opinions until they ask you. People who listen are more respected than people who immediately start offering their opinions.

Focus on enjoying yourself and on the people there. If you can do that, you'll have a good time and they will also. You should make a good impression all around this way.

First and foremost, do NOT drink. The worst mistake I've seen people make is to try to calm their nerves with alcohol. It usually backfires and makes you way too mouthy and over the top.   My advice is to simply watch and keep your mouth shut, for the most part. Don't be a drag, but smile and listen to the conversation and try to observe the inner workings of this particular family relationship. They are all different.   Watch the dynamics, act interested, and observe. Speak when spoken to and try to be yourself, but keep in mind that 'yourself' may be waaay different than this family unit is used to, so keep it simple. Be polite and respectful, but pleasant. Try to laugh when others laugh.   I know this sounds totally BORING, but trust me when I tell you that even if you don't give 'much' of an impression, it won't be a 'bad' impression.   Play your cards right, and there will then be more opportunities to get to know these people, and you'll go into the next meeting with the family being open-minded. They'll likely say something like, "He seemed like a nice enough boy/young man/man". That's really the ideal first impression. It's not important that they love you right off the bat. It IS important that they don't hate you.   Good luck! :)

i know exactly how you feel my girlfriend has a humongous close family and meeting them was difficult.. being shy is no big deal. just act polite laugh at jokes and try to joke around a little yourself if not dont worry about it

Huge? like feeding by trough huge? Buy the customary bottle of wine (or case for this family) and start jugging the first one down in the car.

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