What is a reasonable amount of time to wait in a relationship to move in? (1 child 14, dating for a year)
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ANSWERS: 8
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I don't think there is one, imo. How can you put a "reasonable amount" on time? It's more of a feeling, I guess.
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It is good that you have given in at least one year. If you two are committed - and you all are comfortable with it - then any time now would be fine. Just be absolutely certain before you make the move.
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When you get married. if you have a 14 year old you'd want to set a good moral example. I live with my b/f but we dont have kids. a 14 year old is very impressionable.
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Until after the wedding, or the child moves out, which ever comes first. . I have seen 20 year old 'men' have their values seriously mangled when their mother decided to 'shack up' with her boyfriend. . Your child is starting out with a handicap already. Try and do *better* the second go around. .
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Things to think about. How does your child feel about you moving in with him? Are you engaged, or just dating? If it doesnt work out, where will you go?
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When you're married. You mentioned that he's scared of marriage. It sounds to me like he's not willing to totally commit. Why would you want to move in with someone who wants anything less?
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If children are involved.............she will have her own place and so will I. (kids have enough to deal with these days)
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After the wedding? "Reasonable" is situational and is going to depend on the people involved. Nobody can answer that for you. But if you're serious about the relationship, settling for less than a ring up front makes it less likely later on.
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