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  • Rollie love... I am SO sorry for your imence loss. There are no words to suffice other than to will you the peace with the power that passes all understanding. I am truely, truely sorry.
  • Wow, I don't know if there are any words that may comfort such a loss. I will ask my family to include him in their prayers and thoughts.
  • Oh Rollie, my friend, I am so, so sorry. My heart goes out to you. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.
  • Wow. I am so, so sorry - I hardly know what to say. My condolences to Rollie and to his whole family. You are in my thoughts and prayers, as I consider you a dear friend and am just devastated to hear this. This poem brought me comfort when I lost someone close to me. I Did Not Die Mary E Faye Do not stand at my grave and forever weep. I am not there; I do not sleep. I am a thousand winds that blow. I am the diamond glints on snow. I am the sunlight on ripened grain. I am the gentle autumn’s rain. When you awaken in the morning’s hush I am the swift uplifting rush Of quiet birds in circled flight. I am the soft stars that shine at night. Do not stand at my grave and forever cry. I am not there. I did not die.
  • Rollie I am so sorry to hear of your loss. My prayers and thoughts are with you and your family.
  • Rollie has given probably the best answer on this website (in my opinion). As in the best, at least for me. ... Rollie, my condolences to you and to your loved ones.
  • Wow, what happened? Was it expected or an accident? Not that it makes a whole lot of difference. It is never easy for a parent to bury a child, but at least if you have some time to prepare, it isn't such a shock. Rollie, I'm so sorry. There but for the grace of God go I. There is nothing easy about what you are suffering. I'll be remembering you in my prayers. May God be with you through this.
  • There are no words to comfort you, Rollie. I have no way of even guessing how you must feel, therefore I won't pretend to. I will pray for peace for you, and for relief from the grieving you must be burying yourself in. D
  • Know that we will keep you and your family in our prayers. My deepest condolences...
  • Rollie, you have suffered what all parents must fear as I do, to loose a son or daughter. We always hope we will go first so as not to have the pain you and yours must feel. Our deepest condolences to you and the family, our prayers will be with you all.
  • I'm really, really sorry Rollie. I don't know what else to say. My thoughts are with you.
  • Rollie, I'm sorry for your loss. You know we are all different and see things in many different ways. I don't know what your belief system is so I won't offer you anything based on one. This I will say... seek comfort in your family and your friends. Celebrate your son's life, he wouldn't have wanted for his death to be the focus for those he loved and he'd want you to be strong and move ahead. If at any time you'd like to talk, about anything, I'll always be available. I know you don't personally know me, but I can say that you seem to me to be an awesome guy. Take care, Rollie.
  • Rollie, may the peace which comes from the memories of the love you shared with your child, comfort your family and you now and in the days ahead.
  • Oh man. I am so mortified to hear this. Rollie, you have my deepest sympathies and condolences. I can't even begin to imagine your pain - if I lost my son my life would be over. Remember your son's smile, his laughter, that indescribable feeling of joy when he hugged you and called you 'daddy.' Those memories will be with you forever and will never fade away. Hold on to someone or something. Don't be alone right now. Please.
  • Rollie i am SO sorry to hear of your tragic loss, i will pray for you and your family, my sincere and deepest condolences
  • Rollie, I am so very sorry for your lose. I can not imagine what you're going through, but you and your family will be in my prayers.
  • Rollie my friend, I can only wrap my arms around you and hold you tight. With my greatest sympathy, you and your family will be in my prayers.
  • Rollie, I am so saddened to hear this terrible news. There can be no greater grief imaginable than to lose a child. Please know you are in my thoughts. Whenever you feel that you are precariously perched...lean to others for strength and support. Feel warm bear hugs around your heart.
  • I am so sorry to hear that Rollie. My deepest sympathy goes out to you and your family..I'm so sorry for your loss. Take care, my friend.
  • Even with people I do not know in person I still express my heartfelt sorrow. Our prayers are with you. Sorry to hear of your loss.
  • This is very sad news. Rollie is such a nice guy. My prayers are with him.
  • I dont know the person, but its very sad and will keep him and the whole family in my thoughts and prayers!
  • I am so sorry, Rollie!! You are in my thoughts.
  • Im so sorry, i really dont know what to say other than to offer my heartfelt condolences. take care xxxx
  • Not something any of us want to hear about. It's one of those "this is not supposed to happen" things .. when a child dies before the parents .. no matter what age .. no matter the reasons. For you, Rollie? There are no words that make this any easier to bear or deal with. Only time can do that .. and then, only to lessen the sharp edges so you can not forget .. but can carry on. But at the same time, you see there are many who send their prayers and thoughts and positive energies .. to support and sustain you .. just because. And that's a very good thing in the scheme of things. Take good care .. and let us know as you can .. how you're coming along.
  • Sorry to hear that Rollie. Take care and my prayers are with you.
  • rollie, i am very sorry to learn of the loss of your son. my thoughts are with you and your family, and with your son, whose spirit will always be with you. this is an excerpt from the prophet written by kahlil gibran that has always given me solace: You would know the secret of death. But how shall you find it unless you seek it in the heart of life? The owl whose night-bound eyes are blind unto the day cannot unveil the mystery of light. If you would indeed behold the spirit of death, open your heart wide unto the body of life. For life and death are one, even as the river and the sea are one. In the depth of your hopes and desires lies your silent knowledge of the beyond; And like seeds dreaming beneath the snow your heart dreams of spring. Trust the dreams, for in them is hidden the gate to eternity. Your fear of death is but the trembling of the shepherd when he stands before the king whose hand is to be laid upon him in honour. Is the shepherd not joyful beneath his trembling, that he shall wear the mark of the king? Yet is he not more mindful of his trembling? For what is it to die but to stand naked in the wind and to melt into the sun? And what is it to cease breathing, but to free the breath from its restless tides, that it may rise and expand and seek God unencumbered? Only when you drink from the river of silence shall you indeed sing. And when you have reached the mountain top, then you shall begin to climb. And when the earth shall claim your limbs, then shall you truly dance.
  • I am so very sorry, Rollie. I will say a Rosary for you, your son and your family. God bless you all. (((((((((HUGS))))))))) email me anytime, my friend.
  • We are not supposed to lose our children. I can't imagine what you're feeling.....
  • My heart is breaking for you Rollie and I am so sorry and want you to know I am thinking and praying for you at this most difficult time.
  • What a terrible tragedy. I hope my words and thoughts can be a small comfort in this time of loss. My heart goes out to you.
  • Do not stand at my grave and weep I am not there; I do not sleep. I am a thousand winds that blow, I am the diamond glints on snow, I am the sun on ripened grain, I am the gentle autumn rain. When you awaken in the morning's hush I am the swift uplifting rush Of quiet birds in circled flight. I am the soft stars that shine at night. Do not stand at my grave and cry, I am not there; I did not die. ~unknown You are in my thoughts and prayers.
  • So sorry to hear of your loss and my thoughts are with you my friend.
  • Rollie, I am so very sorry to hear of your tragic loss. Know that your friends here are thinking of you.
  • Rollie, You and your family have been on my mind all day. I wish I knew the right words...but the right words don't really exist, do they? I'm just so, so, sorry:( We're here for you, in whatever way we can be. Please know that your friends here are thinking of you, crying with you, and praying for y'all. Love, Jodie
  • Rollie, I love you with all my heart, I am so sorry. ((((((((((ANGEL HUGS))))))))))))
  • Rollie I am at a loss for words. I can say so sorry for your loss but that doesn't take away the pain or make things better. I can say I know what you are going through but comparing losing a s/o to losing a child is like comparing apples to oranges. All I can really say is that I am here for you if you need a friend to talk to.
  • I can't imagine what you are going through my dear friend, and I won't lie and say I know what it's like because I don't, but I can say with all sincerity that I am here if you need a sympathetic ear or just a hug...you are in my thoughts during this tragic time my friend. Lean on me if you need to, I am here. *BIG HUGS*
  • I wish I knew what to say to make things better but sometimes words just aren't enough. My the Lord give you the courage to bear your loss with dignity.
  • I'm terribly sorry Rollie. It seems you have a lot of friends that grieve for and with you, I hope you can take some small amount of comfort and support, in knowing that your friends and family love and care a great deal for you, through this awful time, and always.
  • Rollie, i do not know you. But I do know that this is a diffcult time. My thoughts are with you.
  • I am sorry to hear of your loss and I hope you can find comfort in family and friends so you can get through this difficult time. Best of wishes.
  • Rollie ~ i am so very sorry for your loss. I can only imagine the deep sorrow you feel and my heart goes out to you. I will keep you in my prayers and ask for inner strength to be yours during this most difficult time. I send {{{Loving Hugs}}} to you and hope that you will know how very much we all care.
  • Rollie, I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this sad time.
  • It's a terrible tragety, when a father outlives his son.
  • oh dear Rollie, There are no words sufficient. I can only offer my wishes of endurance and peace for you, and comfort for your family. I'm so sorry.
  • I am so sorry to hear about your son, Rollie. Please know that my husband and I will be thinking about you and your family, and I hope in time you will come back to us here on AB when you are ready. All my love for you and everyone.
  • Oh Rollie, I am so sorry for your loss. I know there's nothing I can say to ease the pain, but you and your family have my deepest sympathies and will be in my thoughts and prayers.
  • I’M FREE Don't grieve for me, for now I'm free; I took His hand when I heard him call; I turned my back and left it all. If my parting has left a void; then fill it with remembered joy. My life’s been full, I savored much; good friends, good times, a loved one’s touch. A friendship shared, a laugh, a kiss; ah yes, these things, I too, will miss. Perhaps my time seemed all too brief; don't lengthen it now with undue grief. Lift up your hearts and share with me; God wanted me now, He set me free.
  • I hope a fellow ABer can forgive me for stealing her line, but this offered me a tremendous amount of comfort today and so I will pass it on in hopes of offering some small comfort to you. "While death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal" I'm very sorry for your loss, Rollie.
  • Rollie..there is nothing I can say to ease your pain, I am so sorry that you and your family have to go through such a tragic loss, my heart, soul and thoughts go out to you and yours.
  • :( I'm really sorry to hear that Rollie. I really don't know much about your family except that you are an awesome grandfather, since you do all these fun things with your grandchildren, you told me about the wood work and playtime. I really hope it all works out for everyone involved and it's relieving to know they have someone like you around to help.
  • Rollie, very very sad about your loss. Please keep the faith.
  • OMG..i didnt know until now.. Rollie im so sorry for your loss, i cant imagine what it must feel like to lose a child, hell i dont know what to say except take care ((((hugs)))) i will be praying for you and your family. Please accept my deepest condolences.
  • Dear Rollie, I'm sure you wanted more time with your son, that you want him with you even now. With all that I am if I could give you that, I would. Please know we are here to hear your stories of your son and share your memories. Try to forgive us if we are clumsy, we want to comfort you so badly and sometimes we say or do the wrong thing, but our hearts are with you.
  • I am so sorry for your loss, Rollie. This is the worst possible thing for any parent and my heart goes out to you. I know this is very little, but's it's all I have to give you.. (((hugs))) (((hugs))) (((hugs))) Sorry, my friend..so sorry.
  • My prayers are with you Rollie!!! I am so sorry, I don't even know what to say...((HUGGS)))
  • I am so so so so sorry for what happened.. I know what the feeling of losing someone is.. And I hope you will feel better soon.. *HUG*
  • Rollie my dear friend, I'm so sorry. I can not imagine your pain. I'm not sure where this poem is from but i like the sentiment. To my dearest family, some things I'd like to say. But first of all, to let you know, that I arrived okay. I'm writing this from heaven. Here I dwell with God above. Here, there's no more tears of sadness; Here is just eternal love. Please do not be unhappy just because I'm out of sight. Remember that I am with you every morning, noon and night. That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through. God picked me up and hugged me and He said, "I welcome you. It's good to have you back again, you were missed while you were gone. As for your dearest family, They'll be here later on. I need you here badly, you're part of my plan. There's so much that we have to do, to help our mortal man." God gave me a list of things, that he wished for me to do. And foremost on the list, was to watch and care for you. And when you lie in bed at night the day's chores put to flight. God and I are closest to you....in the middle of the night. When you think of my life on earth, and all those loving years. Because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears. But do not be afraid to cry: it does relieve the pain. Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain. I wish that I could tell you all that God has planned. If I were to tell you, you wouldn't understand. But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is o'er. I'm closer to you now, than I ever was before. There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb; But together we can do it by taking one day at a time. It was always my philosophy and I'd like it for you too; That as you give unto the world, the world will give to you. If you can help somebody who's in sorrow and pain; Then you can say to God at night......"My day was not in vain." And now I am contented....that my life was worthwhile. Knowing as I passed along the way I made somebody smile. So if you meet somebody who is sad and feeling low; Just lend a hand to pick him up, as on your way you go. When you're walking down the street and you've got me on your mind; I'm walking in your footsteps only half a step behind. And when it's time for you to go....from that body to be free. Remember you're not going.....you're coming here to me.
  • Dear {{{Rollie}}} I don't know you well but I've seen you about. No matter, to one Aber from another, my condolences are with you. Blessings. Mimi xxx
  • Rollie, I'm so sorry to hear about your son. I was wondering why your avatar said you were a sad AB'er. Please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers, and that you have friends here who truly care about you.
  • Lots of love, light and strength, to you and your family and your son Rollie :):):)
  • May our good Lord give you the strength to get over your sad loss,and may he bless your son in heaven.
  • i´m so sorry the death of a son or daughter never feels justified. all i can say is you need to heal yourself and carry on. i too have dealt with lots of loss so i can understand on a certain level. ((hugs))
  • These things always leave me at such a lose for words... My heartfelt deepest condolences to you Rollie, it's never fair for a parent to have to endure such a tragic loss. I hope your faith can see you through this and help you to truly believe that your son is indeed at peace now, and to help insure that peace you must, albeit painfully, look for ways to except this and move on to a happy and fulfilled life. Know that he would not want you to spiral into despair but instead know that when the time is right, you will be with him again. It's NEVER easy to lose a loved one.
  • Rollie, I am so sorry for my insensitivity in the answer and comments yesterday about my dog. I did not realize you had lost a child, I am so very sorry. I hope you are getting through each day with the help of supportive family and friends. I wish you peace.
  • Rollie....The words Sorry are so inadequate. Nothing can really be said to ease the pain of a parent with this loss. What I can say to you is that the difficulties of life are over for your Son. He is in peace now. I hope in time you will find some measure of that peace for yourself.
  • Rollie, I don't know you, but I know you're going through hell just now. There's nothing I can say or do to even begin to compensate for such a tragic loss, but I do sympathize with you, will pray for you, and will give you an ear if you need to talk.

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