My husband kisses our one year old daughter on the lips and he feels there is nothing wrong with that. I disagree and feel he is teaching our daughter to find that lip kissing is acceptable at her age. Should I be concerned?
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tony91269
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wat nah i dnt think so i always kissed my mum on the lips wen i was a kid as i got older it went on the cheek lol dnt think u need to worry either way shell turn out the way she does hope this helps
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Um yeah it is kinda strange.He should just kiss her on the cheeks.Not saying that its something bad but its his daughter not his wife.Teach her from young that she may know the difference.Mommy gets kiss on the lips and daddy kisses me on the cheek.
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You do not need to be worried. Real true affection is just what your kids need. Now if anyone kisses your children in a way that is too provocative or if your husband kisses only one child and not the other, then you should worry about that. If he kisses only the children & not you then you should worry. People from the beginning of time have hugged & kissed their children on the lips. WHen the children get older, they will want to stop. My daughter kissed me on the lips until she was 4. She suddenly stopped. Just like all relationships when they want to stop STOP means STOP.
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I think it's sweet. A lot of people kiss their kids on the lips. As you rightly said, she's too young to know not to kiss people on the lips.. But she's also too young to let it have an effect on her or become a lifetime habit. If, as she gets older it becomes a problem, deal with it then. But I think it sounds pretty harmless at this stage =]
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It's just a sign of affection. I have cousins, male cousins, who kiss eachother on the lips. As well as their friends. It's like a hand shake. The same reason Japanese bow. Or people wave.
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I think its weird. The lips seems sexual. I know someone who kisses ther daughter on the lips and she is 12. Now thats realy creepy.
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Its closed mouth kissing right? With no tongue? If so, I find it strange that you find it strange. Is there a trust issue with your husband? Are you thinking that he likes to kiss her on the lips for lewd reasons? If the answers are no then try teaching her that its not okay to kiss others on the lips, other than mommy and daddy.
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She is one year old,just one year old.How is she able to judge if it is acceptable or alright at the age of one ?Are you projecting yourself on the child?That practice has been going on for thousands of years,and what has changed in that showing of affection for a baby from the mother or father?
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i would not be concerned my daughter is three and we told her it is only okay to kiss mommy and daddy and her grandparents on the lips to show them that we love them.
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This is your problem, not his. You have some kind of issue over a totally innocent and perfectly natural part of the parent-child relationship. He loves his daughter, and it is great that he shows it with kisses. Your daughter will grow up to appreciate having an affectionate father. I know I did. To reiterate, I believe this is firmly your own issue that you need to overcome. Your husband is a healthy loving dad.
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Get a grip my daughters 11 and She kisses me on the lips. Its a peck not a lingering passionate kiss nothing sinister nothing untoward just a loving kiss
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Kissing your child should not be thought of as intimacy. Affection from parents should be natural not come with rules of engagement. Negative behavior should not even come to mind on anyones part. I think overall we question men's behavior with their children more than we do that of women. I know abuse is out there, but good fathers deserve the same respect and consideration as good mothers. In many cases fathers are the primary care givers so why should we even think of questioning their behavior if there is no basis for it.
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THATS FREAKING INSANE WOAH OH GOSH OH NO EVERYONE BE AFRAID AHHH THE WORLDS GOING TO END BOO HOOO WAAAA
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I don't think there is anything wrong with it. My parents kissed me on the lips until I was like, 10. There is nothing wrong with it, it's a sign of affection between parents and child, nothing more.
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I was about ready to give you an emailed ass whoopin. But looked like the others beat me too it. I would have only been beating on somone who was already beaten on. So, just be happy you have a husband that loves his family the way he does. Stop dwelling on nonsense.
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There isnt anything wrong with it, he's not some random stranger or noncy neighbour. dads really do have such a hard time when it comes to raising children nowadays for fear of people seeing things in the wrong way, like you do. my partner wouldnt even bathe our daughters for fear that somebody could potentially say something thats where everything is messed up. a mother can kiss her child on the mouth yet a father cant. if a mother bathes with her child its natural, with a father he's a PAEDO!!! its crazy. And as for teaching your daughter that lip kissing is acceptable for her age... come on she's 1 not shoving her tongue down a 6 year olds throat at primary school. you have to loosen up, they grow up so quickly, let her be a baby
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No.Take it easy.It's just a smooch on the lips from her dad.
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Kids do what they see. Look around you. What examples of kissing does she see? You and daddy kissing? Does she see any examples of kissing on the cheek? No? Then she isn't going to kiss on the cheek either. Our daughter went through a stage of this too. We finally realized that unless she saw us kiss on the cheek, she wasn't going to either. So we let her see us kissing on the cheek, and the problem was solved. She also didn't want to call us mommy and daddy until we started calling each other mommy and daddy.
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lol, i'm 25 and my dad still kisses me on the lips. When I was a teenager he'd go to kiss me and I'd turn my cheek to have him kiss me on the cheek, he'd say, "On the lips" its now a joke I do to my niece...."Give me kiss....On the lips" Dad's are awesome, she's lucky to have a daddy who shows her love. my Fiance's best friend kisses me on the lips, lol
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I personally feel there is nothing wrong with it. There are many cultures that kiss all their relatives (including grandparents and extended family) on the lips. Personally, I know of my friend, who is Italian (don't know from which part of Italy) and his family kisses each other on the lips. At this point, I don't think there is anything to be concerned of. It's simply a kiss between father and daughter. If your daughter starts kissing all the neighborhood boys, then maybe you might want to sit her down and have a talk with her.
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I still kiss my mum on the lips, I'm 27. I dont see my Dad, but I'd kiss him on the lips too.
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If is't just a lip kiss your concerned with... lighten up. sometimes us as adults read into things to much.
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It's not appropriate in my opinion.
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I kiss my daughter on the lips shes 12 My mom kisses me on the lips I'm 34 For God sakes it's his daughter you should be happy they have a good relationship You might need to lay off the Oprah for a while.
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Well, later on, when she has a bf, and, he kisses her on the lips, she might think of her Father. I don't know. I guess it's possible that it might be a little confusing at first but I don't think it's a major deal.
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Personally I don't feel comfortable kissing my daughter on the lips. It just doesn't feel right. If people do it with their daughters fair enough. But to me, it's not right for a father to kiss his daughter there. To me a kiss on the lips is more intimate than a kiss on the cheek. Each to their own though. Hell I don't even like kissing my mother-in-law on the lips. But the again I suppose most people are like that.
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I think it's ok, I mean, the child is proof of your love. I've seen lot's of little boys and girls kissing their mommy and daddy on the lips. It doens't look bad at all, it just shows that they have really great parents who loves them a lot. :) But when they child get older and that still continues then maybe yeah, you should be worried. But she's barely one right now. She's exploring ways to tell someone 'hey, i love you', just like she might hug and kiss another little kid in the family. And just cuz she decides to go and kiss a boy cousin of her's, does that mean she's attracted to him? It's just a way to show someone you love them. Just not on an intimate level. she wont know what intimacy is until she is old enough to understand love.
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I may be completely wrong about this but I’m sure I read somewhere that kissing began when woman would chew solid foods for their weaning children and pass it from their mouth to their child’s. Later it became a means of reassuring members of the group or tribe. Only much later did it take on any sexual meaning.
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Its an innocent kiss, its okay. I normally kiss my 6 year old on the cheek out of habit, but unless the kiss is sexual in nature. I see no harm.
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I think this is inappropriate, also kissing the neck. I would be concerned. Forehead, cheek, fine, that's it!
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There is a difference between a parent’s kiss of affection and a kiss of arousal. If your daughter was much older, then I would be concerned. Don't be concerned about the appropriate affection between your husband and his daughter.
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Concerned about your husband? No. Concerned about why you are worried about sexuality in a child too young to have any, yes. Even if you are right and it is teaching her that lip kissing is acceptable what harm will come from that at the age of one? Are you afraid she is going to become the mad kisser of daycare? Did you know that simple affection from her father has more of a chance of keeping your daughter from acting promiscuously in her teens as she will have no need to look for a father's love? I'd be glad he was willing to show her he loves her and leave them alone.
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Surely, you're kidding, right? You are actually concerned about a daddy kissing his little girl? I find that to be so incredibly sad. :( I hope that my own 'little girl', now grown, will NEVER feel odd about kissing her daddy on the lips. One can never show too much genuine and healthy affection to a child!
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I am a lip kisser.....I kiss everyone on the lips that I love....family and friends.....so I have no problem with it....
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I'm male and I kiss my almost 3 year old son on the lips.... his hugs are better than his kisses though. do you intend to not kiss your son(s) on the lips? or do you not kiss her on the lips? I think blowing into my sons belly is more "intimate" than kissing his lips.
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I wouldn’t be. I kiss my two-year-old daughter on the lips, all the time. Heck, I even kiss my one-year-old son on the lips, from time to time. It doesn’t sound like your husband is getting off on kissing his little girl, I say let him bond with her.
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i understand ur concerns as someone who as experienced inappropriate behaviour myself and i assume you have too. this is normal, i have a 2 yr old son and i constantly watch everyone who goes near him after i have had bad experiences in the past. we can only do so much, and we can take it too far. i hate how a lot of people are slagging you off, your just being a good mother. keep it up and always be vigilant xxx.
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No. However, I *am* a bit concerned that you are so uptight about it. Many people kiss relatives and close friends on the lips without any problems. If you automatically associate lip-kissing with passion and sex then you need to get your mind out of the gutter, ESPECIALLY where a small child is involved. Are you repressing something? Were you abused/molested as a child? What's the deal there?
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i know some family father who kindly do that. not to make a whole field out of a grain but, i know even those girls.. isecure, misplaced, full of wrong attitudes like smoking and getting too drunk and more likely to get fascinated by dumbasses. in a few words, they think of being happy while instead they're not. now, i know i'm nobody for assuming that, and i'm not doing it. i'm just exposing a personal statistic made by experience. it may not mean anything at all. neither that they'll never be happy in life. to me, i would never do that to my children. that's private, only for my lover, of course.
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there is nothing wrong with kissing on the lips. I do not think there is anything to be concerned about. I think you might be acting a little conservative. I'm sure you are not alone, though.
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no you should appreciate him...get over it immediately and be thankful that he is loving and caring and in your daughters life..You really must be kidding
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I am a retired psychologist. I see nothing wrong with what he does. Now, if she's a teenager and he's making out with her, it might become something else. He's just giving innocent affection to a baby. Some do (I did) and others don't. Relax.
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I don't think it's appropiate. I feel it's very important to teach small children what is acceptable through our actions. If it's not OK for Joe down the street to give a kiss on the lips because his inentions could be wrong, then we shouldn't be either. We can show affection by kissing them on the forehead, checks, and other places. The lip to lip should be reserved for a lover not a relative IMO. I wouldn't be concerned but again we can't ignore the fact that molestation and sexual abuse of small children is a BIG PROBLEM and in most cases it's done by a family member or someone we know. This is the main reason why I feel it's so important we start them out young realizing that certain touches and kisses by anyone is not acceptable.
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No. I think you are way overreacting. I occasionally kiss my daughters on the lips and they are 7 and 5 years-old. I think it says more about you----you seem to attach something "immoral" about lip kissing your children. Not every affectionate gesture is "sexual" or "untoward" in nature! Your husband is only expressing his affections. If I were you, I'd be very happy about that. There's enough to worry about in life----don't make such a little thing into an issue.
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You gotta be friggin kidding...I think it's mom's like you that think five year olds should be suspended from school for kissing and charged with sexual harrasment - and that if someone chews a chicken finger in the shape of a gun they should be expelled. The kind of mom that petitions the playground to ban tag because it is too violent. You wonder why there are deadbeat dad's out there? You're the reason - you create a society that leaves loving fathers feeling like perverts because they show their children affection.
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No thats gorgeous!!
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thats how a kid learns to kiss....a peck...you're going to make her weird...it's perfectly acceptable to kiss daddy on the mouth...
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Yes you should, about your own strange thought processes.
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..... The fact that you attach lip-kissing an infant with sexual behaviour concerns me.
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I'd be careful about messing with the affection of a parent with a child. Kissing on lips isn't considered inappropriate. I deal with this too because my wife watches me and my daughters hugs to see if they're too long and how we interact in our bed when there's nothing inappropriate going on at all. Our marriage suffers because of the mistrust...........
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the trouble with society these days is that we've become too aware and knowledgeable for not necessarily always the right reasons. I would not be overly concerned at this stage. My son is 11 and now and again, I'll kiss him on the cheeks, otherwise the lips quickly if I've not seen him for a large proportion of the day. He chooses to do the same back. there is too much in the news about protection of children. Heaven forbid showing too much affection for our kids. Stop worrying too much just yet.
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I kiss my 3 sons on the lips all the time, they are 4, 3, and 2 and they want to give daddy a kiss before he goes off to work, they give my wife kisses, too. They kiss other relatives, but don't do that to just anyone, it is reserved as a show of affection to a close relative. In short, it is absolutely harmless. I know that one day soon, my boys will grow out of it and want to shake hands or do nothing at all, so I cherish them showing me affection at this point. It's not like he is slipping her the tongue or anything, get over it.
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You're joking, right?
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I know everyone is going to attack me but I am SO glad no one ever kissed me on the lips when I was a child. Thank God. I prefer to have control over that.
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dont worry hes not cheating on you but really dont worry its natural to do that...i assume he loves your child and therefore is totaly acceptable your daughter probably wont realise what lip kissing is until the age of 5 but it is human nature so im sure even at that age she wont lip kiss whoever she meets dont worry let your husband love your child
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I've kissed my daughters on the lips on occasion and never thought about it - and to the best of my memory nobody has ever questioned me about the practice. My kids are well ajusted - and my wife has never cared - so I guess it's allright and you shoudn't worry about it. As for her age - well she's not going to rmember a thing that happens to her at that age - so again - I see nothing to worry about here.
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maybe he is a pedo be carefull.
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You're f*cking kidding, right?
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Are you kidding? It's his DAUGHTER.
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health wize i think it MIGHT be a concern... but if itz the reazun mentiond... thn gues yu r eithr too conservative in yur thinkin... or too much into 'incest' kinda stuf... peace!!!
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No, you should not be concerned. He is her father and kissing is not a dirty act. For God's sake, you shouldn't impose your hang-ups on your child and your husband.
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My dad used to kiss me in the mouth when I was a little girl. It was just a thoughtful way of kissing me. My older sister Millie did as well. It just meant we had a greater connection...and to demonstrate their love. Nothing dirty about it at all.
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My dad is very unaffectionante but when I was really little I remember him kissing me on the lips. I think it's perfectly acceptable as long as it stops at a normal age so that it doesn't get awkward. He's just showing her love.
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My whole family (parent, aunts, uncles, grandparents, etc) kisses eachother on the mouth!! It wasnt until recently that I wondered if that was weird to other people. But I personally dont think there's anything wrong with it...some families are more affectionate than others :-)
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I think there is a fine border to this question because there are so many parents who do abuse it and take it over the line. I would say don't be paranoid about it unless you should see other signs relating to abuse. I have a 9 month old niece and she's now learing how to give kisses. It's natural to them, especially if they see mommy and daddy doing it. Monkey see, monkey do.
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Kissing his child! Disgraceful! Next thing he will be hugging her! There is far too much of this parental affection going on - it has to be stopped now!
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To be honest it's all in the eye of the beholder. An innocent kiss on the lips is nothing compared to what is going on in your mind. If you feel this is inappropriate then perhaps you should tell your husband not to kiss yoru daughter, because if you were secure in your relationship with your husband and trusted he wouldn't do harm to your child you wouldn't feel so wrong about his affection towards her. My dad use to kiss me on the mouth until I was about 9. Now he does the same to my niece who is 8 months. I have to say I don't think it hurt me any, I just felt loved. I out grew the kissing daddy early anyway. Now he is lucky to get a quick hug.Enjoy the innocence while it lasts one day she won't either of you even touching her in public!
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I always saw lip kissing as a romantic thing, but it's really the intention of it. Perhaps when you kiss on the lips, it is always romantic. Perhaps when your husband kisses on the lips, it is affectionate. Don't worry about it - I'm sure your daughter will be able to recognize the difference.
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I think it is perfectly fine for a dad to do this. You sound like a caring and concerned mom. :)
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Nah. Kissing someone on the lips only means something romantic if you want it to. Otherwise, it's just a kiss. If you just make sure to keep her informed that Mommy/Daddy kissing her on the lips and someone else (like the boy at daycare, etc...) are different, you'll be fine ;)
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I think it is totally acceptable at your daughters age. My Dad never did kiss me on the lips, only on the cheek. I kiss my sons on the lips and my oldest is 10. He is my son, there is a fine line but I don't believe I cross it at all.
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unless your husband is a child molester you have nothing to worry about. and its proven that most kids don't remember anything prior to the age of 3
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