My mom passed away this morning at 7:50am. Now that both parents are gone, I feel like an orphan. Is this common?
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She had a brain stem infarct so she went peacefully though.
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Sorry and yes. Just as we all see life differently, so too we view the death of others and our own pending differently. My wife felt this much more {when her parents passed} then I did when my parents passed -okay she feels everything much more then I do. The dynamics of a parent/child relationship is more then I can understand, but this I know - no matter how old one is when a parent passes {I was 52}, she was still your MOM. You had a lifetime of history togather. Morn your loss in the time and method that works for you, no right and wrong. Once more my wife and I are sorry for loss.
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My deepest condolences to you. From what knowledge I have learned from talking to people that, like you, have lost both parents, it is normal to feel this way. My mother lost her parents when she was in her late 50s and she experience that similar feeling of being orphaned. Please feel free to talk to AB when you feel the need. Sending energy and peace your way...
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Firstly can I just extend my deepest sympathies on your loss. I still have both my parents but I assume what your feeling is natural.
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I'm sorry for your loss and the sadness you are managing. The loss of the parent will cut loose all sorts of emotional reactions - all of which are normal. You need to hang on and ride through them. Talk to trusted people about the feelings a lot to keep from being overwhelmed. If you feel like you are being overwhelmed, see a grief counselor, pastor, or a mental health care professional. It's important to remember this is normal and you will be fine!
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I'm sorry for your loss. I have nothing to add to the great answers you've received so far, but I wanted to extend my condolences.
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WOW! What a Heavy moment (((HUG))). You are not an Orphan at least on AB. have you considered doing something special for your parents? I Planted a Memorial Grove for my Dad in a park where I used to work so there is something to be enjoyed by genorations. most area with parks have a Reforestation Project of some kind but you have to make some calls and find out what areas you can plant something under there direction.
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yes.been there
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Yes. ((((hugs)))) My mother lost her mother when she was 52, and that was one of the first things she said to me, "I'm an orphan now." I lost mom almost a year ago and I don't speak to my father. I feel the same way.
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sorry for your lose - keep on keeping on
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I'm really sorry for your loss. My condolences to you. (((hugs))) Definitely don't question the validity of your feelings - just go with your grief. You are still in shock.
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I'm so sorry for your pain, your sadness, and your deep feeling of being alone. I don't think other than the grief there is a "common" we all are different and each one has his/her own way of dealing with the loss of our parents. When my dad died, it was as if I could never be that little girl again. As much as our friends want to ease the pain, it can't be done! So let it out, cry, remember, embrace the wonderful smiles, the funny things, the sad times, their smell, their habits, and let yourself feel the loss. Then and only then can you begin to heal, you'll never forget, or stop missing them, but you will be able to go on, these people gave you life, so in loving memory of them............LIVE!((((((((((HUG))))))))))))
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Very common. I lost my Dad when I was 20 and my Mom at 29. I was a mother myself by then and feeling very adult, but when my Mom died I remember telling everybody that I was an orphan. Now, 20 years later, I still feel sometimes like an orphan and like there's nobody left to impress or disappoint.
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Im sooo sorry to hear about your loss *Hugs*
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