HELP!! My mum is angry with my friend for calling too much. So when my friend called, my mum rushed to pick up and scolded her.Then when i called her, she put down on me.We have lots of fun activities in school ( shes fierce)tomorrow.She's my only friend.
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Inquisitive_girl96
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Talk to your mom and explain to her that this is your only friend and what she did might damage your relation ship with her. Then talk to your friend and explain to her that your mom is a good women she just think that you two are calling too much and that is not a good thing.
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I think your mum shouldn't have scolded your friend. She's your friend: it should be up to you to talk to her. Your mum should have told you to ask her to call less. It's rude to reprimand other people's children or friends. Now your friend feels humiliated, and if you'd had the chance to ask her to call less yourself, she probably wouldn't be angry. If I were you I would apologize to your friend for your mum's behaviour. Don't apologize for the content (i.e. the message to call less--you don't have to repeat this message, since your mum already made it clear, but don't go against it, either, because ultimately you do want her to call less), but apologize for how your mum acted. Hopefully your friend will forgive you for the situation and be your friend again. I think you should talk to your mum, too. Don't get all loud and blamey, but explain that what she did didn't help the situation, and that you hope in the future she'll trust you to communicate her wishes to your friends in a more appropriate manner.
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I guess to start with, Please don't blame your mum. Telephones ringing all of the time drive us parents INSANE. I get to a point sometimes where I yell "G-- D--- Telephone!!" every time it rings. Everyone then scrambles to answer the phone before I get it, lest thier "caller" get an earful. My standard telephone greeting after 9:00 PM is "Hello - Somebody had better by God be bleeding". I guess my point is to help you understand your Mum's side... She needs some peace and quiet, and the phone ringing off the hook is angering her. Your friend will understand your mother's scolding and not hold it against you -- or she simply really isn't a friend. Apologize once to her, and that should suffice - and then explain that your mother just needs some peace and quiet.
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I'm sure your mom had mentioned about your friend calling too much before this incident. It was your responsibility, then, to ask your friend NOT to call so much and NOT after 9 p.m. (The magic witching hour for us moms!) So....learn from this and be a bit more assertive with any friend who is inconsiderate enough to keep calling like that. Now...talk to you friend and explain why mom was so exasperated...and make a plan to text/email/chat using a different method...or for 2 calls per evening where your friend lets the phone ring once....you will know it is her and you call her back as soon as you can. Even mom can tolerate a single ring once or twice an evening. If all 3 of you think this is a good compromise - everyone wins!!
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