I'll admit to having next to no knowledge of wiccan culture, but being a believer in the possibility of a collective conscience I have no problem believing that prayer, spells and so forth may well have a positive effect. That being the case, as long as your well appeals to a sense universal love and companionship I can see no ethical problem. Hope this helps and/or is relevant.

It depends on whether you are attempting to control the ex-lover or not. If you are attempting to get an ex-lover back against his/her will, that violates the Rede.

Any type of magick that consists of you changing the path of another to abide by your desires is black magick. If this person is an ex-lover, what makes you think they are in love with you still? If you both are still in love, why do you need to cast magick to get them back? There is something fishy about this. My advice: Don't cast magick directed at this person. It will go wrong and it will harm you both.

So many so called witches, wiccans and magicians ask this question so many times I believe that not one of them has the first clue. The best spell to cast would be to release them, set them free, then see what happens next. A shift of power will turn and will beg the question: What do you really want to do? If you cannot cast this spell then as a very last resort and I do mean a last resort you could cast a spell for them to return but ONLY if you think they are in danger of some kind. This is THE only ONE time you must interfere with another persons will. Be warned!

In this case it does sound kind of selfesh.Just let nature take it's corse. If it's ment to be than it will. Good luck!:-)

If your both still in love, what do you need the spell for?

Well, if the person is in love with you as well, theres no need for the spell. If the person is not in love with you, than yes, its against the rede. To make somebody love you would be affecting thier free will, and that is the most sacred right of humanity. Plus, wouldnt you actually want that person to be in love with you rather than it just be a spell? I would... Anyways to straight up answer your question, yes, it would be against the wiccan rede. )0( Love and Light, Blessed Be! ~Christian~

Depends what you are doing. If you are creating a spell to help them see the truth, then there is nothing innately wrong with that. If you are trying to force them back together, you're breaking the Rede. Remember, though, the Wiccan Rede is NOT a law. It is NOT a requirement. It is a suggestion, a little word of wisdom informing you to think before you act. One can go about their life ignoring the Rede if they wish, and still be Wiccan (just as one can ignore the Ten Commandments and be Christian), that person will likely be a short sighted dick, however. Many Wiccans will tell you otherwise, but the truth really is that you can do whatever you want as a Wiccan. The Rede, as I said, is there as a word of caution, as a sort of Jiminy Cricket on your shoulder whispering in your ear to really think about what your doing. So, sit down and really think on it before you do it. Any spell can have unforeseen consequences. Maybe they do still love each other, but there are other things keeping them apart. Maybe one is not yet mature enough for the other, maybe they are just not compatible enough to live together. Now, I do wish to assert that I am not a Wiccan. I am a Pagan, yes, but not in any way Wiccan. My faith does not even have a concept of that Rede, it even lacks the law of threefold return (another thing to take into consideration if you're Wiccan), but I still take it into account. The problem is I can't tell you if it is ethical. I won't even tell you if I THINK it is so, because then what will you gain? You'll have somebody else answering all of life's little questions for you, when, really, that is the kind of question you need to look inside yourself to find the answer to. If it is a bad idea you'll know.

Hey, if you can make that spell work, I suggest you market around here. Plenty of folks desperate to exes around these parts. You can make a fortune with it!

I studied Wicca some years ago but it's an irony that once you know the craft there are seemingly countless so-called 'Wiccans'- who then tell you NOT to use it claiming that to do so would intefere with Karma and free will! At the time 'I' was a Wicca student my understanding was that a spell is rather akin to a powerful prayer. If it is not in the karmic interests of those involved then it will simply not work anyway -so no harm done!To interfere with Karma one would need a BINDING spell, a very different story! Best to avoid those. I don't know what circumstances may be keeping you both apart but maybe the time just isn't 'right' for you yet. If you are soul- mates the ride can be very bumpy indeed. My advice is to look up some sites which explain soul mate, twin flame and twin soul connections which you should find constructive and enpowering. I'm sure you will feel more hopeful afterwards. Good Luck.

What does it matter? It is apparent that you are simply looking for justification to act on selfish emotions alone...just pick another belief system that allows you to do whatever the hell you wish regardless of the impact on others and has no consequences when you violate others. I think "Playah" is one such belief system. Trailer trash Springer guest is another, nigga with an R, etc...pick your poison and start living sans-morals. Let us know how that works out for you.

The first answer was bitter, twisted and completely out of perspective.(What on earth must have happened in your life Borderlinux?)My earlier answer on Soul Mate relationship problems seems to have gone , but as you would not be using a 'Binding' spell there surely shouldn't be a problem as you are just stimulating the flow of things as you would with a prayer. If you are uncomfortable with a love spell though, maybe you could try a communication ritual so you can talk thing through? -or even try some blessing and healing techniques on the relationship? A Reiki practitioner should be able to send healing to your situation.

All spells done in selfishness, greed, and lust always end bad and you WILL regret it.

First; IF you two were still "In Love" you would be together to begin with ... 2nd; An "EX" is an "EX" for a reason .... why bring back the negativity into your life .... as it surely will .. ? This soulds like a personal benefit type spell that can lead to NO GOOD and may bring MORE negativity into yur life .... +5

I think it is okay. Ultimately the decision will still be up to the other person. I have had a Christian girl preform white magick on me to get me to be hers. It was a very uncomfortable experience. She is a hideous woman. She thought that because she was a Christian who believed in God, that she could have me according to biblical verses. Boy was she in for a rude awakening. I would not want to do that to another, but there is nothing wrong with improving yourself to shine when the person is around. Ever since that experience, I have learned to not try to force someone to do something they are uncomfortable with, but if there is an open window, why not try. There is a difference in manipulating energy to attract the will of another than there is from trying to control another directly. Let the person have their free will. Perhaps it would be better for you and your growth to just let the person go. If the person is a witch, and catches you trying to control them, watch out, because they might retaliate. I know I did.

You're messing with someone will, yes I believe it's wrong.

'An it harm none' - this includes physically and mentally. :) Attempting to remove or tamper with someone's free will via a spell contradicts this. However, you could do a spell to encourage your ex lover to feel open to good feelings and a positive attitude, and then approach them. Depending on the reasons behind the 'ex' part, you could think about how you could fix your mistakes or encourage them to forgive or be open to a new start- only you can know what to do. If you think about it from their point of view, how would you feel if they did a spell on you to make you return? If you were in reversed positions, what would you want them to do? Hope it works out well. Blessed be

I believe that if you are not doing it for a bad reason, it's not a problem. If you believe things will really work out because the first time around, the ex-lover is too immature to see what he/she let go. Why not? Because after the spell is cast, and when/if the ex-lover does come back, you can always work your way to rebuilding true genuine love. That way, the spell is the push that gets you two back together, the rest is up to you. If you're still managing the relationship through love spells, then it's not worth it. Cause it's not genuine. However, if after you guys are back together and you're gna start working for the relationship, then that's good.

Your target is her, you must have your consent

it depends on whether or not that ex is taken. if he/she is then it's unethical. but if he/she is free then she does have a choice of sending it off if she catches it. if you wonder if it's alright then you could just ask the spirits. seeing as they watch over both of you they may know more about your love than you do.