Bring home some of your female friends when she isn't there and see how she feels. If you have a good relationship/marriage and trust each other it really shouldn't be a problem.

i kind of agree with gold_autumn...if the tables were turned, would she really not mind? maybe cuz you're a guy, there are 'things' that guys understand about each other that we women dont understand, and based on this, you ARE being protective of your wife...being a little territorial is completely normal for men ("for this specific reason", so says my guy) is it that you dont want them being alone? or just not in each other's company without you? if it's the latter, i think it's a bit much...if it's the former, maybe you can come to a comprimise, like they can hang out in a group of friends but just not the two of them alone i think if you talk about it with respect, no, you're not being unreasonable...seems like you care and it seems like a small sacrifice to make for a guy who cares

Yea you are right. I'ma wife I always invite my friends to come over while he's around or not. These becase my guy friends are gay and the one which is not always bring his GF. I do respect my husband feeling.

I can somewhat relate to your feelings about your situation. I think the most positive aspect about your situation is that you can trust your wife. Something that I have had to learn in my relationship with my bf of 4 years, that has always been just him and me, is that happiness and self-fullfillment can also come from a platonic level with the opposite sex while still acting with respect to your partners values. It's called give and take in a marriage. I do not think you are being over protective by being uncomfortable with your wife having male friends to your home without your prescence. It is not old fashioned and it is not being over protective. It is about being respectful, mindful and thoughtful of your partners feelings to what makes them uncomfortable. I could go into the whole new age psychology of men and women can have platonic friendships, trust your wife, women's freedom etc. But what it boils down to is this: if your wife values your marriage and you she should not be uncomfortable with your prescence when having men over to your house. I feelthat by her doing this it lends itself to way to much interpretation and you building up resentment and anger towards her. Just my two cents worth. Hope it helps.

I think you are worrying in the wrong place. If she is going to cheat, then she will cheat away from home if she cannot cheat at home. If she is not going to cheat (which you should presume, until you have evidence otherwise rather than just worries) then it doesn't matter who visits. Unless she is getting drunk or otherwise in a state of reduced competence, of course.

If you did trust as you say you do, this wouldnt be an issue, you would know nothing is going to happen.

You are right to be concerned. People can have their weak moments and why place yourself in a bad position which only makes it easier to do something you would regret. I think it shows a lack of respect for you and your feelings for her to entertain other men any time any where she can be alone with them. What if she is feeling bad one day, a little depressed or sad, for some reason and he feels the need to comfort her. Comfort can be just one more step towards infidelity. I would not place myself in that position, and I feel I would never ever be disloyal to my husband. But I also know that the human heart is treacherous and can have it's weak moments and I wouldn't want to risk it.