I think that you should let him make the first move about coming to visit. It's hard to say how he truly feels. He could still love you and care for you, but he may not want to get back together. I think that you should discuss this with him to see how he feels.

no, god no, if he loves u and misses u he will come see u. Think you are worth more than that. If a guy wants me I waste no gas to see him, he has to SEE me

if he really loved you he would pursue you or ask you to come up to see him. He has not so he's blowing smoke up your booty.

no!

no...IT'S OVER...i know it hurts, but the more time that goes by, the better you will become. please don't...start the healing process and stay away. Remember, you are broke up. The first few weeks is the hardest.

And, why again did you break up in the first place?

I hear ya!!! Mine dumped me and now lives about an hour away. I haven't heard from him and it's been a month.I sent him an apology for what I may have done to cause the break up. I sent it a couple of weeks ago and haven't gotten a reply. Here's how I cope...I cry and wonder why but I feel confident in knowing things will work out as they should. Why don't you take this as time for you to explore yourself.Find what makes you happy about yourself.Do you have a hobby you might want to take up? They seem to like it if they think they can't access you .Be mysterious. Your a worthwile person! Be good and kind and all will go as needed to.You will heal in time.

Only if he asks you to. He might be feeling the same way about you after what he said, but it may also be a ploy. Keep in mind that a man typically wants to do the pursuing - the women who pursue typically get labled as "clingy" or "desperate." I'm in your same boat, but mine's been for two years. We didn't really break up per sey, but the distance was impossible (6 hours.) We still talk daily and try to pretend that we don't love each other and we're just friends, but I think we both know deep down we can't help how we feel about each other. The hardest part of this is going to be to wait and see if his actions will back up his words. I wouldn't put my life on hold, but if he's truly the love of your life, you won't be able to get too involved with anyone else while he's still clinging on to your heart for dear life anyway. (Which sucks, trust me, I know.) Eventually he'll do something that will tell you for sure either to wait and give it another try, or dump him because he's being a total tool. But relationships are so complex, you and I both know there's no way to put a time frame on how long that might be. But bottom line - do not go see him on your own. If he invites you and sends you a plane ticket, then he means business.

Who did the breaking? This will play a big part in all the answers. If he is "still the one", get on your pony and ride. You may not find another person to take his place and who knows? Love is better the second time around.

Amanda...... If you do not go, you will get ulcers and a stroke. Satisfy your mind and heart and go. I have a feeling you are in for a pleasant surprise!